Speaker addressed a deleted live session where YouTube removed over 1,400 questions, explaining they will respond to reinstated questions from Mark Thomas Beare about flaws in the narcissistic abuse recovery
Sambaknim distinguishes between external and internal forms of narcissistic discard: external discard is visible and unequivocal (separation, divorce, infidelity), while internal discard is subtle and hidden, occurring when partners remain
Sand Baknne linked the false self in narcissistic pathology to the concept of sublimation, arguing the false self functions as a sublimatory channel that redirects traumatic, aggressive, and depressive energies
Sam Vaknin introduces ‘delusional resonance’ as a process distinct from trauma bonding, arguing that both abuser and victim share matching delusions that glue them into a shared fantasy. He outlines
The discussion described narcissism as an arrested developmental state characterized by infantile defense mechanisms, grandiose cognitive distortions, and a need for control that leads individuals to construct and inhabit a
The speaker provides a structured nine-principle program to recover from narcissistic abuse, grouped into three body principles (attention, regulation, protection), three mind principles (authenticity, positivity, mindfulness), and three systemic functions
The ego is indispensable for psychological health, social adaptation, and self-coherence. It is the wise mediator that balances instinctual desires, moral demands, and reality. Rather than seeking to obliterate the
Healthy narcissism is a foundational element of mental health—regulating self-worth, identity, and functioning—while the speaker argued that reality testing should be added as a core criterion to distinguish health from
Sam Vaknin presents a practical guide to “rebooting your life” focused on self-reliance, honest self-appraisal, and rebuilding a coherent personal narrative that integrates past and present. Key recommendations include cultivating
Sam Vaknin explains that the human need to be seen—rooted in early survival—is lifelong and evolves into a need for witnessing, where others not only remember events but agree with
