The speaker explained Sander’s concept of the “shared fantasy”—a mutual, addictive narrative created by narcissists and their partners that becomes a competing reality and relates to historical notions like mass
The video explored the dynamics of the narcissist mind, focusing on the stages of shared fantasy, starting with co-idealization where the narcissist idealizes and internalizes an idealized image of their
The video discusses three manipulative steps to control people pleasers: clearly communicate expectations, show measured pleasure when expectations are met, and express profound disappointment when they fail. It then delves
Sam Vaknin explained that narcissists perceive others not as separate external entities but as internal objects or avatars within their own minds, using primitive defenses such as projection and splitting
The speaker discussed the concept of narcissism, emphasizing that a certain degree of narcissism is natural and necessary for healthy self-esteem, but can become pathological and harmful. They explained the
The discussion centered on distinguishing between bipolar disorder and borderline personality disorder (BPD), emphasizing that bipolar mood cycles are long and predictable, while BPD mood shifts are rapid and unpredictable.
Sam and Maureen Callahan discussed the challenges faced by individuals with borderline or dysfunctional mothers, highlighting two main issues: negative messaging that instills feelings of unworthiness and the mother’s tendency
The speaker discussed how narcissists manipulate others by creating a shared fantasy that isolates victims from reality and social connections, undermining their self-worth and trust in themselves. This manipulation involves
Sam Vaknin clarified that “trauma bonding” is a misnomer, emphasizing that it is not related to trauma or bonding but is actually an addiction to intermittent reinforcement provided by an
The discussion centered on the narcissist’s rejection of shared human experiences and reality, which is rooted in their need to preserve a unique, godlike self-image. Narcissists avoid reality because commonality
