The meeting advised multiple techniques for supporting a partner with borderline personality traits: teach her to externalize and verbalize emotions (e.g., chair work), use CBT to counteract automatic negative thoughts,
Sam Vaknin distinguishes control from manipulation, power plays, and sadomasochism, arguing that control focuses on securing people as sources of outcomes and is largely unconscious. He outlines controller motivations—narcissistic grandiosity
The video explored the traits of fretful and neglectful narcissists, highlighting their contrasting behaviors of overconcern and abandonment, both perceived by the narcissist as expressions of love but experienced by
Sam Vaknin explores the concept of self-regulation, emphasizing that it primarily concerns controlling behavior rather than internal processes, and highlights its significance in goal attainment and impulse control. He critiques
