Narcissism, Lonely Codependent “Love”, Victimhood: Unholy Trinity (Mexico City Q&A)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses self-splitting, a defense mechanism where individuals perceive themselves as either all good or all bad. Addicts typically perceive themselves as all bad and use addiction to transition from a negative self-image to a positive one. Codependency is a personality disorder where individuals depend on their partner to regulate their internal world and manipulate their partner through helplessness. In dealing with a narcissistic parent, the non-narcissistic parent can only provide the child with an alternative model and cannot protect the child from the narcissistic parent. Malignant love involves trying to merge with the partner and losing individuality, while healthy love involves maintaining boundaries and individual lives. Good addiction promotes well-being and growth, while bad addiction reduces anxiety and is grounded in fantasy. Social media does not enhance narcissism but may amplify psychopathy and negative emotions. Solitude is not a sickness, but loneliness can lead to mental health issues and is encouraged by society and technology.
Narcissism POV: Hers vs. His (with Diana Farca)
Professor Sam Vaknin, an expert on narcissism, discusses his personal experience with narcissistic personality disorder, having been diagnosed twice due to significant life events. He delves into his journey of understanding narcissism, starting from a lack of literature on the subject to eventually writing his own book, “Malignant Self-Love: Narcissism Revisited.” Vaknin also touches on the evolution of the field of narcissism, including his development of various typologies and the establishment of the first website on narcissism. His wife, Lydia, contributes to the conversation by sharing her perspective on the impact of Vaknin’s work and their collaborative efforts in educating people about narcissism and publishing the book. Vaknin emphasizes the importance of his extensive database on narcissistic personality disorder, which informs his work. He also discusses the concept of trauma bonding and the dynamics of narcissistic relationships, including the influence of cultural and familial backgrounds on individuals’ susceptibility to narcissism.
When Narcissist Is Rejected By Peers
The text discusses the etiology of pathological narcissism, focusing on the impact of peer rejection on children who are already facing challenges such as autism, obesity, or gender dysphoria. It explains how peer rejection triggers cognitive dissonance and leads to the development of narcissistic defenses, such as fantasy, dissociation, and displaced passive aggression. The author also delves into the impact of conflicting parental messaging and the role of intimate partners in the narcissist’s life. Ultimately, the text highlights the inner battle within the narcissist’s soul and the crisis they face when they have to shed their perceived divinity.
How Narcissist Deceives YOU ( Aggressive Mimicry Predator Faking Prey)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the various forms of mimicry used by narcissists, focusing on aggressive mimicry. He explains how narcissists mimic other species or individuals to deceive and attract their prey, using signals to lure and captivate their victims. The mimicry involves deception, behavior modification, and selective advantage for the narcissist. The predatory behavior of narcissists is compared to mimicry in the animal kingdom, highlighting the impact on the prey and the model. Defensive mimicry and various types of mimicry are also explored in the context of narcissistic behavior. Mimicry is presented as a predatory strategy used by narcissists to manipulate and deceive their victims.
When Loved Ones Murder YOU (English Interview Ukrainian TV)
The text discusses the complexities of domestic violence, including the reasons victims may stay with their abusers, the psychological dynamics of abuse, the legal and cultural aspects of domestic violence, and the distinction between victims and survivors. It also addresses the rare instances when victims may resort to violence against their abusers and the potential consequences.
Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI): Fortune Cookie or Reliable Test?
The Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) is a widely used and contested personality assessment test with various versions and millions of users worldwide. It is based on Jungian theory and classifies individuals into one of 16 personality types. While some studies have found the MBTI to be valid and useful, others criticize its dichotomous nature, lack of reliability, and deviation from Jung’s original theory. Despite these criticisms, the MBTI remains popular and can provide insight, raise self-awareness, and help individuals understand their past experiences and relationships.
How Porn Destroyed Sex (and Narcissism, of course) (ENGLISH responses)
Pornography has severe psychological effects, even on those who consume it casually. It diminishes the ability to connect intimacy to sexual arousal, objectifies the female body, and reduces it to body parts. Pornography also includes a lot of aggression, which leads teenagers to expect real-life sex to be aggressive and violent. The boundaries between pornography and real-life sex have blurred to the point that men feel entitled to demand from women to be porn stars. Women have developed pornographic availability as a counter to pornography, and the whole real-life sex has become pornographic. Women are in a terrible situation because they have to escalate to attract men. Men don’t need women anymore because the only thing that a woman could give that was exclusive was her anatomy, and now, this is free. Women and men