How to Cope with 3 Types of Narcissism (with Dr. Ahmed Fouad, Starts 05:30)
Professor Sam Vaknin discussed narcissism, its origins, and its impact on individuals and society. He emphasized that narcissism is a post-traumatic condition and a survival strategy, and that society rewards narcissistic behaviors. He also explained the special relationship between narcissists and borderlines, and the concept of interjection. In terms of treatment, he mentioned that no treatment modality has been effective with narcissism and proposed a therapy called “therapy” that involves retraumatization. He also provided strategies for dealing with narcissists and protecting children from their behavior. Finally, he expressed the need for peace and collaboration in the Middle East.
Narcissist Devalues, Discards What He Craves Most: Shared Fantasy as Reaction Formation
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the concept of the narcissist shared fantasy as a form of reaction formation. He explains that reaction formation is a defense mechanism in which unacceptable impulses are replaced with their exact opposite in consciousness. This mechanism is developed in childhood as a result of conditional love and the need to suppress one’s desires and individuality to gain acceptance. Vaknin also explores the connection between reaction formation, socialization, and the fragility of morality, and how it can unravel under stress, leading to acts of cruelty and abuse.
Why We LOVE WAR: Pornography of Violence (with Scott Jacobsen)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the nature of war, its impact on human psychology, and its role in society. He explores the effects of war at a distance and up close, the psychology of bystanders versus combatants, and the mindset of politicians and the general public before, during, and after war. Vaknin also delves into the factors that increase or decrease the odds of war, as well as the positives and negatives of war in the advancement of human civilization. He concludes that war is a human phenomenon that should be accepted and adapted to, rather than futilely attempting to eliminate it.
Self-destructive Narcissist = Masochist? (Compilation)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the concepts of anti-narcissism, masochism, and sexual self-trashing, and how they interrelate. Anti-narcissism is not about being altruistic or nice, but rather a form of narcissism that involves externalizing one’s emotional investment, leading to self-generated narcissistic supply. This can manifest in behaviors that appear benevolent but are actually self-serving. Anti-narcissists are often masochistic, engaging in self-trashing behaviors, especially sexual ones, to generate a sense of supply from within. They may appear to give and help others, but their actions are driven by an internal need for self-sufficiency and self-supply, rather than genuine empathy or connection with others.
Narcissistic Abuse Inside Out: Charles Bowes-Taylor Interviews Compilation
Sam Vaknin discusses his work on narcissism, emphasizing that he is not the originator of the term “narcissistic supply,” but he has redefined and adopted terms from other psychological disciplines to describe narcissism and narcissistic abuse. He explains that narcissists lack a true self and ego, relying on external input to regulate their internal environment and self-perception. Vaknin also describes narcissism as a positive adaptation in modern society, where narcissistic traits can lead to favorable outcomes. He distinguishes between overt and covert narcissism, explaining that covert narcissists are more dangerous due to their hidden nature and passive-aggressive tendencies. Vaknin suggests that narcissism is not just a personality disorder but also a post-traumatic condition and a form of dissociation, similar to multiple personality disorder. He advocates for treating narcissism with approaches used for childhood disorders, trauma-related disorders, and multiple personality disorders, which he has integrated into his cold therapy treatment.
How One Becomes a Narcissist – and How to Fight It! (Compilation)
Sam Vaknin presents a stark and pessimistic view of human existence, emphasizing the futility of striving for change or improvement. He suggests that individuals are inherently insignificant and that life is inherently meaningless, advocating for a state of nothingness as a form of liberation from societal pressures and the illusions of grandiosity. Vaknin criticizes those who offer solutions or systems for betterment as con artists, and he encourages people to embrace their own nothingness and live life without expectations or the pursuit of external validation.
How Narcissist Steals Your Unconscious, Lures YOU into His Nightmare World
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses how narcissists lure their victims into their surreal and nightmarish world. He compares the experience of being with a narcissist to various literary and philosophical examples, such as Alice in Wonderland and Lacan’s mirror stage. Narcissists create a dreamlike state for their victims, causing them to lose their sense of self and reality. The narcissist’s world is one of infinite emptiness, where victims become trapped in a maze of mirrors, unable to find their way out.
YOUR Aftermath as Your Narcissist’s Fantasy , Delusion, Matrix
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the delusional nature of narcissism and its impact on victims. He explains how narcissists create a delusional universe and how victims can become enmeshed in shared psychosis. He also delves into the stages of grief and denial that victims may experience after leaving a narcissistic relationship.
Covert Narcissist = Borderline+Psychopath+Passive-Aggressive
Sam Vaknin discusses various aspects of narcissistic personality disorder, including the difference between covert and overt narcissists, the lack of empathy in narcissists, and the formation of empathy in early life. He also explains the characteristics of cerebral and somatic narcissists and the impact of narcissistic behavior on intimate partners. Additionally, he delves into the concept of covert somatic narcissists and their views on sex and intimate partners.
Narcissism and the Meaningless Life (ENGLISH responses, with Nárcisz Coach)
The guest thanks Sam Vaknin for his work in identifying and naming psychological disorders. They discuss Hungary and the Hungarian people, who have a tendency to suffer and are highly ranked in suicidal accidents, divorce, and alcohol consumption. Sam Vaknin explains that this is not unique to Hungary, but rather a modern existential crisis caused by a loss of meaning in life. He discusses the problems of atomization and the need to be seen, as well as the shift from libidinal societies to fanatic societies, where pain has become the currency and language.