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- 00:02 malicious Envy is when you want to destroy someone who keeps frustrating
- 00:09 you by being Superior to you someone who is above you intellectually someone
- 00:16 whose accomplishments you crave but can’t attain someone who gets all the
- 00:24 beautiful girls all the wealthy clients and all the academic recognition or
- 00:30 whatever and you want to destroy this object of frustration malicious Envy should be distinguished from benign envy and jealousy they’re
- 00:41 not the same benign envy and jealousy motivate you to measure up
- 00:47 to the object to the person that you admire to emulate them to imitate them to
- 00:55 better yourself so malicious destructive Envy is when you want to destroy someone
- 01:03 benign Envy jealousy especially benign Envy is when you want to build yourself
- 01:09 up to be like the person that you admire an
- 01:15 Envy now is malicious Envy a form of sadism
- 01:23 and how are all these connected to narcissism this is the topic of today’s video the covert narcissist sadistic Envy and
- 01:35 it’s fantasy because fantasy has something to do with it
- 01:42 my name is Sam baknin I’m the author of malignant self-love narcissism Revisited I’m a former visiting professor of psychology and currently on the faculty of CPS Center for international Advanced
- 01:54 professionals that a commonwealth I’m sorry they change their name commoner for international Advanced professional studies in Cambridge United Kingdom Toronto Canada and an outreach program
- 02:05 in Lagos Nigeria today’s topic is dark indeed sadism is
- 02:14 one of the four elements in the dark tetrad personality as we shall see a bit
- 02:20 later the topic of today’s video has been triggered by a recent study study published in the journal the
- 02:32 academic Journal personality and individual differences volume 205 April 2023 so it’s Cutting Edge it’s the
- 02:40 latest and the study is titled pathological narcissism and sadistic personality the role of rivalry and
- 02:47 malicious Envy um it’s a mega study conducted on a huge
- 02:53 sample of adults in where else Italy were Envy rules and Reigns
- 03:02 but before we go into the into the study analyzing the study benefiting from its
- 03:09 outstanding outcomes let me give you a bit of an introduction I started this video by asking is
- 03:16 malicious and re a form of sadism is the wish to destroy your battles form of sadism does it involve an evil intent to for example inflict pain in the in the agony of others gratify
- 03:35 yourself with their writing torturing them to the point of feeling omnipotent
- 03:43 this is all true in the makeup of the covert narcissist now to remind you
- 03:49 convert narcissism has several elements Envy is a major major thing with covert
- 03:56 narcissists they display pseudo humility false modesty and just one of the guys I’m exactly like you I can understand you
- 04:07 they also have victimhood a victimhood stance they’re always the victims they
- 04:14 never do wrong they they can never do wrong they’re always somehow they always
- 04:20 somehow fall prey to unscrupulous people or abusive intimate partners
- 04:28 or institutions which are ought to get them and in this sense covert narcissism is a close skin the first cousin of
- 04:37 paranoia most covert narcissists entertain paranoid ideation on a regular
- 04:44 basis the victimhood stunts the victimhood position being a perpetual and professional victim this excludes any other explanation to reality
- 04:57 except some conspiracy against you your if you spend your entire life believing
- 05:03 that you’re a victim then people are out to get you you there’s my line in attention and
- 05:10 intention focused on you of course it’s narcissistically gratifying it’s a form
- 05:16 of displaced grandiosity if you can’t obtain Supply narcissistic Supply directly
- 05:22 and covert narcissists are covert because they can’t obtain Supply directly they fail there there’s kind of
- 05:29 collapse narcissists then you can obtain Supply by believing yourself to be the
- 05:35 victim of your battles the victim of Institutions public intellectuals God
- 05:43 knows what so do humility a victimhood stance
- 05:50 but underneath all these there is sadistic malicious Envy
- 05:56 it’s the number one characteristic of the covert narcissist in my view
- 06:02 it drives the passive aggressive urges of the covert narcissist as we shall see a bit later
- 06:08 now they convert narcissist compensates compensates for this with fantasy
- 06:15 because it is not self-efficacious in reality he is unable to secure outcomes
- 06:22 in reality he resorts to Fantasy in the fantasy could be anything I’m a good
- 06:29 person I’m a superhero in Baton doing battle with super villains
- 06:35 I am the power behind the scenes I am the true inventor or discoverer of
- 06:43 this and that I’m a rescuer a savior A Healer etc
- 06:49 etc etc one of the roles of the fantasy is to
- 06:56 make the covert narcissist feel safe we’ll discuss it a bit later okay
- 07:03 our well-being depends on connectivity so narcissists of all Stripes overt
- 07:10 covert somatics cerebral inverted you name it all kinds of narcissists are
- 07:17 hurtful they hurt you hurt people hurt people because they denied the possibility of true connection they are one step removed they’re behind
- 07:29 the glass Darkly the sadistic component in narcissistic pathologies
- 07:36 is related to power not only to pain classical sadism is about deriving ratification from
- 07:49 hurting others other people’s pain is nectar in ambrosia in a wonderful
- 07:56 wonderful thing to behold you know sadistic Supply
- 08:02 is about being gratified by inflicting pain on others and witnessing their
- 08:10 writhing agony but in the case of narcissism sadism is connected to power not only to
- 08:19 pain also to pain but to power more precisely the sadism in narcissistic personality
- 08:26 disorder has to do with the power to inflict pain
- 08:32 so it’s pain One Step removed the narcissist derives a sense of
- 08:38 omnipotence a gratification of his grandiose inflated self-image
- 08:45 the buttressing of his fantasy of omnipotence and omniscience
- 08:52 his whole structure lies on the ability to inflict pain on other people who are
- 09:00 at his Mercy back and call
- 09:06 in other words the narcissist is more likely to act sadistically with his nearest and
- 09:13 dearest The Narcissist interprets intimacy this is the license to inflict
- 09:19 pain intimacy empowers the narcissist it grants him the power to inflict pain it gives him access it provides him with
- 09:33 the levels in The Leverage um to somehow torture people around him and so
- 09:45 this is about power not only about pain and most notably the power to inflict
- 09:51 pain now sadism can be externalized and aggressive inflicting pain
- 09:58 but it can also be passive aggressive which is the bread and butter of covert
- 10:04 narcissists passive aggressive sadism involves frustrating someone withholding avoiding tantalizingly suggesting something
- 10:16 and then going back on your word breaking promises all these are forms of sadism but of course narcissists whether overt
- 10:28 or covert are not totally cognitively impaired and
- 10:34 some of them are not even intellectually challenged they realize that inflicting pain on people can have adverse outcomes can result in
- 10:46 Vengeance vindictiveness revenge and retribution somewhere deep inside they know narcissists and covert narcissists no
- 10:57 that are playing with fire that there is karma but one day they’re
- 11:03 gonna pay the price in wary of these possible unwanted outcomes narcissists withdraw into a world of fantasy
- 11:15 and in this world of fantasy they’re not hated they are not derided they’re not decried
- 11:23 they’re not shunned in this world of fantasy no one wants to harm them no one wants to punish them for their misdeeds
- 11:34 in this world of fantasy they can torture other people they can inflict pain they can exert power
- 11:41 and none of this is going to have any consequences now
- 11:47 say the sadistic component in narcissistic personality disorder has to do with the power to inflict pain even if this power is not used even if it is
- 11:58 ambient and Atmospheric but in the narcissist’s mind
- 12:04 once he has the power even if it’s not used it is somehow discernible invisible remember the narcissist interacts with
- 12:16 internal objects not with external objects so if he has the power to torture you in his mind he has tortured you
- 12:28 because he interacts with your representation in his mind
- 12:34 so the potential to cause you pain in his mind
- 12:40 translates into having caused you pain so narcissists are constantly hyper
- 12:47 Vigilant on their toes and anxious to say no
- 12:53 that they are hurting people on a regular basis they realize that some
- 12:59 people are gonna lash out and lash back there’s going to be payback they know
- 13:05 this and the only Refuge is the fantasy world and in this fantasy nothing bad is
- 13:13 ever gonna happen because the narcissist is adulated and loved and adored
- 13:19 inquisited and shielded from the consequences of his actions
- 13:25 because the narcissist in this fantasy world perceives himself some kind of
- 13:31 treasure a preciously unique artifact or a childlike entity who’s going to
- 13:38 punish a child who’s going to hurt a child and who’s going to destroy the magnificence and uniqueness of an intellectual treasure
- 13:50 such as the narcissist the more sophistic the narcissist
- 13:56 the more evolved the fantasy fantasy in this sense is compensatory now covert
- 14:04 narcissist have a much richer fantasy life than overt or grandiose narcissists
- 14:12 for two reasons number one covert narcissists are cannot operate well in
- 14:18 reality they’re not self-efficacious they fail the failures they collapsed
- 14:24 so the only way for them to generate Supply is via self Supply in
- 14:31 a fantastic World in a paracos the second reason covert narcissists have a much more developed fantasy world is that they hurt people much more
- 14:43 they are overt grandiose narcissists are in your face you see them coming
- 14:49 you can defend yourself and protect yourself against them the covert narcissist is there’s a snake in the
- 14:55 grass is subterranean the covert narcissist Works via
- 15:01 subterfuge and stratagems he is Machiavellian he is conniving he’s cunning he’s scheming and in this sense the convert
- 15:12 Mercy says it’s very much like the psychopath only without the daring acknowledgment
- 15:18 of the Psychopaths without the psychopathic facade or the psychopathic Defiance or recklessness
- 15:24 convert narcissists a poison slow acting poison in realizing their impact on
- 15:31 people around them they know that retribution and payback are coming
- 15:38 and they defend against it with a very well evolved fantasy world now let’s go
- 15:45 to Italy shall we I mentioned the study you can find
- 15:52 uh you will find it in the literature in the description or the description is under the video children not above the video thank you and what do they say in this research these are people from Italy
- 16:08 um guillon Roger Alessandro ammo Beatrice
- 16:15 they sound like retired mafiosi but actually they are psychologists
- 16:21 and so they were curious if sadism and grandiose narcissism are related and they wanted to find what in narcissism
- 16:28 predisposes a narcissist to act sadistically or even to be a full-fledged say this not just to
- 16:36 clarify only a small minority of narcissists very small minority are full-fledged sadists in the sexual sense in the in the emotional sense sadism is
- 16:49 a mental health disorder it used to be a personality disorder until it’s been removed by the diagnostic and
- 16:56 statistical manual committee but it’s still distinct from narcissism however
- 17:02 sadistic elements sadistic artifacts sadistic behaviors a
- 17:09 sadistic tinge to certain traits these do exist in literally all
- 17:16 narcissists and the researchers in Italy ask themselves how is this sadism mediated how does it penetrate and permeate narcissism and how does it
- 17:27 interact with the demands and exigencies and ups and downs vicissitudes of narcissism
- 17:34 and they found out that sadism is intimately connected to malicious envy and narcissistic rivalry
- 17:44 these are two dimensions of pathological narcissism and they succeeded to connect
- 17:50 pretty convincingly I think sadism to grandiose narcissism
- 17:57 sadism refers to the tendency to derive pleasure from the suffering of others so
- 18:04 as I said before it’s a component of the new construct of the dark tetrad the
- 18:10 doctorate is machiavellianism the tendency to manipulate people
- 18:16 subclinical psychopathy psychopathy that could not be diagnosed as psychopathy but his but there’s only Hallmarks and
- 18:22 behaviors of psychopathy subclinical narcissism is a clinical sadism
- 18:29 now the tendency to control other people is common to both grandiose narcissism
- 18:36 and sadism both of these disorders have to do with control freakery the need to
- 18:44 control other people and underline that an anxiety reaction or even anxiety
- 18:50 disorder so there’s anxiety about the environment the only way to mitigate or ameliorate
- 18:57 this anxiety is by controlling it and there are two ways to control it grandiosly via narcissism or by inflicting pain or threatening to
- 19:10 inflict pain sadism the relationship between narcissism and
- 19:16 sadism has to do with narcissistic rivalry and malicious Envy as I mentioned so what is
- 19:23 narcissistic rivalry it’s negative having negative emotions when
- 19:29 someone else receives attention and having positive emotions when other people fail
- 19:36 so you are elated when people fail collapse
- 19:43 and you feel bad to the point of suicidal ideation
- 19:49 when other people succeed especially if they succeed in something
- 19:56 or in some Endeavor or some undertaking or in some task or in some field
- 20:02 that directly competes with the locus of the your grandiose so it’s a narcissist if you feel that
- 20:09 you’re a genius and then someone else gets accolades and Applause for his intellectual
- 20:16 achievements you’re likely to experience rivalry narcissistic rivalry
- 20:22 and if you consider yourself handsome and someone else ends up getting all the girls you’re going to experience
- 20:28 narcissistic rivalry and then when they fail with with a girl you’re going to
- 20:34 experience elation happiness contentment
- 20:40 Jubilation even cheer and joy so this is narcissistic rivalry malicious Envy is when people compare
- 20:51 themselves unfavorably to other people this is done for example
- 20:57 copiously in social media the social media people keep comparing themselves
- 21:03 to other people a phenomenon known as relative positioning social media platforms encourage
- 21:10 malicious Envy in relative position via mechanisms such as likes
- 21:18 so this there is malice in social media platforms they malicious me leverage
- 21:25 elements of narcissism and elements of sadism that’s why there’s so much verbal abuse and violence and trolling in social media platforms because they want it to be this way
- 21:37 okay social media site in relationships within individuals people compare themselves to others
- 21:44 and if there’s someone who possesses qualities property success
- 21:50 a partner intimate partner or whatever that you envy then if you’re a narcissist you are
- 21:58 likely to experience malicious Envy malicious Envy involves anger hostility
- 22:04 and aggression the wish to destroy the object the person that causes you envy
- 22:12 the object of frustration the wish to destroy it is a critical component of malicious envy and this is in this new study was here and colleagues they wanted to elucidate somehow their complex relationship between sadism and
- 22:28 grandiose gnosticism and these two traits rivalry narcissistic rivalry and malicious Envy and they found that they are negative and positive
- 22:39 aspects of Envy malicious Envy is the negative aspect and there is an affirmative link between grandiose narcissism and sadism
- 22:50 mediated via rivalry and envy they said
- 22:56 they said the following narcissistic rivalry is a multi-dimensional construct that includes aggressiveness struggle for Supremacy and joy in response to
- 23:08 other people’s failures individuals with grandiose narcissism would be therefore prone to experience
- 23:14 pleasure when assisting to cause other people pain and especially when this pain is related to a position of inferiority our results suggest that grandiose
- 23:26 narcissism may be related to the seeking of pleasure in provoking or observing pain in others as it would strengthen the positive self-image of the narcissist eliciting positive feelings of self-worth regarding malicious Envy a
- 23:43 similar interpretation of our results can be formulated indeed malicious Envy in contrast with benign Envy would be triggered by the observation of other people’s success and good fortune
- 23:55 theoretically in individuals with grandiose narcissism this perception would elicit hostile feelings towards the fortunate other as its Good Fortune would be perceived
- 24:07 as an ego threat this would motivate these narcissistic individuals to desire
- 24:13 other people’s failure in the destruction of the superior status so
- 24:19 you can see these people most of them convert narcissists but also overt narcissists trying to take down someone
- 24:27 they Envy someone who is intellectually Superior to them more accomplished in their own
- 24:34 field um and so on so forth they can’t sleep at night they they
- 24:40 absolutely possessed and obsessed with destroying this of this person this object that keeps reminding them how inferior they are they are keeps
- 24:51 generating constant narcissistic injuries and if this person is a public figure or appears in public this would create a constant state of modification
- 25:02 which is unbearable and intolerable the narcissists the envious narcissist has
- 25:08 to destroy the person who causes him injuries and modification on a permanent
- 25:15 basis there’s no other choice no other solution sooner or later the narcissist is going to erupt in an orgy of malevolent malicious and evil
- 25:27 attempts to take down the object of frustration and the findings of this study is
- 25:34 implications because Envy plays a role in various psychological and psychopathological outcomes even for
- 25:41 example in depression and anxiety but have a lot go into it many interesting new tools were used in
- 25:50 this study a study which I highly recommend but I was very impressed it Italians would you believe this no
- 25:56 offense so they used the benign and malignant
- 26:02 Envy scale they administered self-report
- 26:08 questionnaires evaluating sadistic personality for example the assessment of sadistic personality questionnaire
- 26:14 they use the pathological narcissism inventory which is much better than narcissistic
- 26:21 personality inventory although far from perfect and they use the narcissistic admiration
- 26:29 and rivalry questionnaire then they applied structural equation
- 26:35 models to taste test hypotheses very nice work when it comes to statistics
- 26:41 and they found that grandiose narcissism narcissistic rivalry and malicious Envy positively and significantly
- 26:49 significantly predicted by the scores on the sadism questionnaire pretty shocking it means that sadism is a x an excellent predictor of
- 27:03 narcissism or even maybe a precursor remember that in early childhood
- 27:11 pathological narcissism has to do with frustration a child is frustrated
- 27:18 by a dead mother a mother who is emotionally unavailable not nurturing not caring unloving
- 27:28 there’s a lot of frustration there there’s a lot of rage a lot of impotent helpless hopeless anger
- 27:37 a child could well become could well develop sadism in response to this inner
- 27:44 turmoil this volcano of repressed negative effectivity negative emotions
- 27:52 the child is unable to attack the mother this child is dependent on the mother he is dependent on the source of frustration can you imagine the conflict
- 28:03 the dissonance in the child so instead of attacking the mother the child develops sadism
- 28:11 in extreme cases the child develops conduct disorder which leads later in
- 28:17 life to psychopathy in 40 of the cases and such a child would torture animals
- 28:25 or other children peers in less extreme cases the sadism
- 28:32 gets subsumed into the general narcissistic pathology of the self
- 28:38 sadism becomes a dimension an element of the child’s nascent narcissism
- 28:45 the child then learns to hurt people cause pain
- 28:51 in order to secure control in power over an environment that causes him
- 28:58 frustration the child learns to link frustration with control frustration with pain as
- 29:07 this child grows up and becomes an adult this adult is going to react the same
- 29:13 way to any form of frustration dollared in dollars in 1939 suggested the
- 29:21 frustration aggression hypothesis it says that every frustration is converted into aggression this is true here as
- 29:29 well the narcissists when he faces frustration
- 29:35 Envy inability to remedy a situation of inferiority
- 29:43 constant narcissistic injuries multiplication this narcissist is going to be driven to extremes of psychopathy it’s going to become seriously malevolent and Evil
- 29:54 is going to conspire undermine
- 30:00 lie his way through Forge fake it’s gonna it’s gonna become
- 30:06 criminalized in his attempts to take down and destroy object that constantly causes him
- 30:14 frustration injury and modification and so uh omira defines sadism as a tendency to inflict pain in humiliation on others
- 30:25 and to experience really pleasure in relation to people suffering but this is an inadequate definition or
- 30:33 although it’s a fairly new one 2011. we need to reconceptualize sadism is a
- 30:40 subclinical variable not full-fledged not explosive not
- 30:48 criminal Criminal this sadism in daily life
- 30:54 the sadism the sadism of Trifles the sadism of nuance
- 31:01 the sadism of ambiance sadism by proxy
- 31:07 and of course the sadism of the covert narcissist who is maliciously envious
- 31:13 and needs to destroy a person that causes him causes him the
- 31:19 envy and because covert narcissism is one step removed from primary psychopathy
- 31:26 the covert narcissist becomes a primary psychopath and criminalize in effect
- 31:34 investigation of sadism conceptualize this way and the association of sadism with antisocial behaviors including sexual
- 31:45 violence fraud um conspiracy
- 31:51 and so on so forth these were investigated by Russell in 2017 Brussels and allies 2017. some clinical scientism has been linked
- 32:02 to bullying the cyber bullying by Van Gael and others in 2017. and it was shown that sadism often leads to
- 32:13 unprovoked aggression by bonfire ago and others in 2022
- 32:19 some authors argued for considering sadism as a component of the dark tetrat
- 32:25 as I mentioned the extension of the dark Triad um and we have authors such as Buckles in 2000 in allies in 2013 kyogi and others
- 32:37 in 2019 Paul Hussein Williams in as early as 2002. it’s not a new idea it’s more than 20 years in the making most recently the aforementioned bonfire
- 32:48 and his colleagues in 2022 perform the meta-analysis and they concluded that there is a
- 32:55 pattern of observed associations between sadism and dark Triad components
- 33:01 including subclinical psychopathy and subclinical narcissism and there are there are distinct associations of sadism with certain psychological outcomes that I’ve
- 33:12 mentioned before and this supports the idea that sadism can be considered a component of an overriding dark personality
- 33:21 what this implies is that we would be hard-pressed to find a narcissist or a covert narcissist who is not also sadistic
- 33:32 when the covert narcissist attempts to take down a rival because of narcissistic rivalry
- 33:39 when he attempts to destroy someone who causes him unbearable Envy because of malicious Envy the covert narcissist takes pleasure in doing this there is sadistic pleasure there hedonic statistic pleasure
- 33:55 this the covert narcissist feels empowered if he is omnipotent if he is
- 34:01 capable if his self-efficacious when he destroys someone else
- 34:07 this is his way of regaining control and obtaining narcissistic Supply
- 34:14 of course all this is done under the cover of morality ostentatious morality
- 34:20 of rescuing or saving someone or a group of people of ethics and of pseudo
- 34:29 humility it’s done humbly it’s done reluctantly visibly reluctantly like you know I don’t want to do it but I have to do it because I’m a moral person and I’m a superhero and I’m going to protect people and I’m going to fight evil this is the cover of the covert
- 34:49 narcissist but underneath this simple simple unmitigated unadulterated pure
- 34:56 evil Satanism period okay
- 35:05 so this study established the connection between sadism
- 35:11 dark Triad components and rivalry and Envy in narcissism
- 35:18 and so they try to understand how is it possible that narcissism which is a very complex construct how is it possible that is linked to
- 35:29 sadism which is very simple concept to remind you the core features of
- 35:35 narcissism are an exaggerated sense of personal importance entitlement feelings of superiority lack of empathy at least lack of emotional empathy there is called
- 35:47 empathy there and individuals with high levels of narcissism are focused on themselves they are self-centered and they
- 35:54 overestimate their abilities oh a study by War in 2019 substantiated
- 36:00 that basically now um
- 36:06 today it’s established and accepted even to some extent although obliquely in the
- 36:12 fifth edition of the diagnostic and statistical manual it’s established that there are two types of narcissism
- 36:18 one is grandiose and one is vulnerable the most recent survey of this is wise
- 36:24 and Miller 2018. grandiose narcissism is this arrogance sir promotion immodesty
- 36:33 haughtiness you know invulnerable narcissism involves self-centeredness hypersensitivity
- 36:39 introversion and so on and I refer you to work by Miller in 2017. so how do we
- 36:45 associate a single Dimension sadism with these two types which are diametrically opposed actually overt grandiose narcissism and covert
- 36:57 narcissism are so different to each other that there is a serious debate in the profession whether one of these two is
- 37:04 actually a form of psychopathy and the only real form of darcism is covert narcissism which is compensatory
- 37:10 I have a video dedicated to this to this debate but how can we associate sadism
- 37:16 with both the overt and the covered versions if they are almost mutually exclusive
- 37:22 because both of them involve pleasure in both types of narcissism there is
- 37:30 pleasure that the narcissist feels in response to other people’s perceived pain
- 37:37 in a willingness willingness to exert dominance on other people that is worked by umira in 2011.
- 37:45 this is what’s common to both types of narcissism beyond the seeking of pleasure the central feature underlying sadistic behaviors is the willingness to exert
- 37:57 power dominance in narcissism overt and covert is about controlling people manipulating
- 38:05 people dominating people tendency the proneness the propensity to exploit and
- 38:11 manipulate other people is a central feature of grandiose narcissism and it’s measured by the pathological
- 38:18 narcissism inventory worked by Pincus and others in 2009 it’s so we know this about grandiose narcissism and but it’s equally common and even I would say more so in covert narcissism
- 38:34 because covert narcissists are not self-efficacious they cannot obtain Supply or extract Supply from the
- 38:40 environment by themselves so they need to control other people to do it for them
- 38:46 and they need to control the environment to avoid narcissistic injuries or modifications which could be lithal
- 38:52 literally lead to suicide in the case of covert narcissism covert narcissists get
- 38:58 emotionally dysregulated much faster than overt or grandiose narcissists because they don’t have the added layers
- 39:05 of Defense of narcissistic Supply and self-efficacy and so from this perspective the tendency to be dominant and to to engage in power please to try to
- 39:17 exert power over other people is a shared component between narcissism and sadism and also explains the
- 39:24 association between these two because sadism is a way to gain control and is a way to exert power through pain Stalin said that you can motivate people with love or with fear well if you have narcissism you have both you
- 39:40 can charm people into loving you especially if you’re a covert narcissist who masquerades as a kind empathic
- 39:47 loving person and you can terrify people in and hurt them and torture them into submission and this is an integral part of cohesive control by the way
- 39:58 and so this sadism has been overlooked in the past
- 40:05 even it’s a mistake even I have made in my early in the early versions of malignant self-love narcissism Revisited individuals with high levels of narcissistic rivalry experience negative
- 40:17 feelings when someone else is receiving attention they devalue other people and they experience positive feelings when other
- 40:24 people fail or or find themselves in an inferior position as I said and this
- 40:30 process helps the individual with a narcissistic pathology to maintain the grandiose image of himself their Studies
- 40:37 by rogoza and others 2018. the struggle for Supremacy the Rivalry itself the
- 40:45 Hostile Behavior underlie support buttress uphold the grandiosity it is
- 40:54 grandiose to engage in battle it is grandiose to act as a
- 41:01 superhero it’s grandiose to take down villains it’s grandiose to destroy the
- 41:07 object that frustrates you and to prove yourself better than you or her or her
- 41:13 it’s grandiose to take your Rivals out it’s this is all grandions
- 41:20 what are we talking about sadism is grandiose exactly like paranoia
- 41:28 narcissistic rivalry explains why individuals with high levels of grandiose narcissism experience positive
- 41:34 feelings what other people fail when other people are in pain by exerting power over other people
- 41:41 subduing them subjugating them because there is a sadistic element there
- 41:48 and and so uh
- 41:54 according to this reasoning the level study of narcissistic rivalry explained the process by which grandiose narcissism leads to or is connected somehow to
- 42:06 sadism same same applies to malicious Envy it’s a good candidate to explain relationship between grandiose and autism and sadism Envy is a reaction or a disposition
- 42:18 towards other people it’s the outcome of comparing yourself to other people it’s related to a sense of innate
- 42:25 inferiority or some kind of Injustice or discrimination if you’re passive aggressive
- 42:31 when you compare yourself to other people’s traits their wealth
- 42:37 their success envious is provoked and risk triggered that’s only human but when this Envy
- 42:46 leads you to act malevolently in order to destroy the other person that’s malicious and it is distinct from benign Envy
- 42:57 this is known as the Dual Envy Theory Cohen chagash Larson 2017 Van de van uh
- 43:05 2016 Etc it’s a new theory of envy benign Envy is a tendency to improve
- 43:11 your lot to improve your improve your life to change yourself to better your condition
- 43:17 uh it stimulates you to work on yourself in accordance with the role model that
- 43:23 you envy malicious and this is not about any of this it’s not about you it’s about the other person
- 43:29 benign Envy is about you and how you could become a better version of yourself malicious Envy is about the
- 43:36 other person and how you could destroy that other person so that it doesn’t irritate you and annoy you and cause you
- 43:42 narcissistic injuries and narcissistic modification on a permanent basis it’s characterized by hostility
- 43:49 malicious Envy anger devaluation and harming others intentionally deliberately in order to reduce the threat to the ego if you wish or to the false self Van de van 2016. so
- 44:09 um both benign envy and malicious Envy are motivational but benign Envy
- 44:15 causes positive motivation it motivates you to do positive things what malicious
- 44:21 Envy literally drives you to become a psychopath now malicious Envy uh supports in grandeur’s narcissism a positive image of the self
- 44:33 how you construct your positive image of the selfie narcissism compared to the
- 44:39 negative image of the other malicious Envy tells you if you destroyed the other it’s because the other is negative and by destroying
- 44:50 this negative other person you will have upheld is supported and proved
- 44:56 your positive self-image so it’s an exclusionary identity it’s an identity by comparison malicious Envy is derivative narcissism
- 45:08 is derivative The Narcissist regulates his sense of self-worth in whatever
- 45:14 sense of selfie has via comparison with others it derives narcissistic Supply from
- 45:22 others to regulate this internal environment narcissists like borderlines have external regulation so the narcissists who who is besieged and
- 45:36 consumed by malicious Envy needs to destroy the other person in order to feel good about himself but to do that he needs to reframe reality and he needs
- 45:48 to say the other person deserves it his bed is evil is a villain
- 45:54 I am moral I am a good person I am
- 46:00 impeccable I am the victim I have a right moral ethical and legal to do
- 46:07 whatever I want because he had it coming and he should be punished and he should
- 46:13 be taken down why because it’s the right thing to do but of course all this is too all
- 46:19 this is nonsense nonsensical narrative hiding forces inside the narcissist
- 46:25 especially the covert narcissists that are overwhelming dysregulating and ruinous ultimately this kind of narcissist is consumed to utter destruction and Annihilation by
- 46:41 his own malicious envy and narcissistic rivalry they drive him to destruction
- 46:47 and then to destruction nothing is left of him
- 46:53 Envy has been linked more to covert narcissism or vulnerable narcissism than to grandiose narcissism I refer you to Studies by gold as early as 1996 uh
- 47:04 Kristen and johar in 2012 neufelden Johnson 2016 lunch and others in 2016
- 47:11 it’s a literature review and so on and so forth malicious Envy is
- 47:18 related somehow to narcissistic rivalry but it’s not the same again there’s a study by Dinesh and broncovich 2021. some authors argue that rivalry leads to
- 47:29 malicious Envy I argue that lunch for example I argue the opposite that this rivalry that
- 47:36 leads to malicious it doesn’t matter they’re connected server the malicious envy and rivalry motivate the
- 47:43 narcissistic individual with high levels of narcissism to become aggressive to aggress against others in
- 47:51 order to destroy their much coveted and unattainable good fortunes
- 47:57 the Nazis wanted wants them gun because they are constant reminder of their superiority compared to his inferiority and unacceptable
- 48:09 and from this perspective aggression motivated by malicious Envy or the observation of failure in someone
- 48:16 envied in the Envy object this may be the source of sadistic pleasure in narcissistic individuals now
- 48:27 the sadism re-establishes the grandiosity of the self supports the feelings or sense of self-worth and its
- 48:34 strengths strengthens the sense of self-efficacy it does good things destroying other people feels good to narcissists
- 48:45 as a whole there is an association between all these elements
- 48:51 there’s a great article by klauf and others in 2019.
- 48:57 and the mediation between narcissism and sadism via envy and rivalry makes sense eminent sense study aside but sadism in this case leads to aggression
- 49:13 and psychopathy in malevolence malice
- 49:19 to use a very Antiquated term it’s evil
- 49:25 foreign
