Narcissist-Borderline: Take My Shadow, Give Me Love
Professor Sam Vaknin reads and reacts to comments on his YouTube channel, discussing the experiences of individuals in relationships with narcissists. He delves into the psychosexual behaviors of narcissists, their resistance to change, and their inability to maintain long-term relationships. He also explores the concepts of object constancy, ego incongruency, and the dynamics of borderline and narcissistic relationships.
Covert Borderline: Narcissist or Psychopath (Primary, Secondary) ( Differential Diagnoses)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the concept of covert borderline personality disorder, a diagnosis he proposes based on extensive literature. He explains the differences between covert borderline, narcissism, and psychopathy, emphasizing the complex and overlapping nature of personality disorders. He also delves into repetition compulsion and the cognitive style of covert borderlines. Vaknin advocates for a unified approach to understanding and categorizing personality disorders.
Are YOU The Narcissists Fantasy
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the concept of shared fantasy in narcissism, which is a form of paracosm, an imaginary world that is very detailed and often originates in childhood. The shared fantasy is a form of mysticism that is founded on femininity, and it involves the exploration of forbidden psychosexual realms, such as homosexuality. Narcissists create shared fantasies and paracosms as a creative effort, which is an indicator of high intelligence and creativity. Narcissists create shared fantasies with their partners, which invariably lead to betrayal, cheating, and heartbreak.
No Narcissist Without YOU as Ego and Self
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the role of internal objects in the narcissist’s fantasy life, the connection between the narcissist’s latent homosexuality and autoeroticism, and the significance of imagination and creativity in the narcissistic experience. He delves into the psychological aspects of fantasy, its impact on personal development, and its connection to sexuality and frustration.
Codependent-Narcissist Co-idealization Dance, Borderlines too! (Convo with Daria Żukowska)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses various aspects of narcissistic personality disorder, including its connection to dependent personality disorder, the mechanism of trauma bonding, and the self-awareness of narcissists. He explains that both disorders are solutions that a child chooses when confronted with a dysfunctional family, abuse, and trauma. Narcissists are indiscriminate and promiscuous in their pursuit of narcissistic supply, and they do not care about the identity, traits, or qualities of their supply source. The strongest love and intimacy come after a period of no love or intimacy. Therapy can modify some antisocial and abrasive behaviors of narcissists, but it is impossible to touch the core of narcissism.
Narcissistic Abuse? Do/Don’t Do! (Convo with Dr. Hema Bajaj)
Dr. Sam Vaknin discusses toxic relationships, emotional abuse, and narcissistic abuse. He explains the differences between toxic relationships, abuse, and narcissistic abuse. He emphasizes the importance of recognizing one’s own identity and boundaries in order to break free from abusive relationships. He also addresses the challenges of dealing with narcissistic abusers and the complexities of victimhood.
My Narcissist Cheats, Jealous, Unaware And Other Pearls
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses various myths about narcissists, including their self-awareness, cheating behavior, and possessiveness. He also delves into the concept of self-gaslighting and the reasons why narcissists hurt or abuse their partners. Additionally, he critiques the approach of interpersonal neurobiology and emphasizes the difficulty of changing the mind of a narcissist. The transcript concludes with a quote from anthropologist David Graber’s book.
Self Gaslighting Into Shared Fantasy
In this video, Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the concept of shared fantasy and self-gaslighting in the context of narcissistic behavior. He also delves into the dynamics of relationships with narcissists and the impact of their behavior on their intimate partners. Vaknin emphasizes the dissociative nature of narcissists and the challenges in capturing their essence. He also explores the psychological processes that lead to self-gaslighting and the complex dynamics of living with a narcissist.
What Can Twins Teach Us About Narcissism? (Webinar on Addiction Psychiatry and Human Resilience)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the lack of studies on twins in the field of psychology, particularly in relation to narcissism. Twins provide an ideal case study for understanding individual effects on personality disorders, but research in this area is scarce. Vaknin suggests that being a twin does not seem to be a significant predictor of developing Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) later in life. Instead, age and sex appear to be more important factors in the development and progression of NPD.
Connie Portrait Of A Cyberpath Con Artist
The article discusses the concept of a cyberpath, a psychopath who uses the internet to find, stalk, and exploit others. It explores whether psychopaths have a single self-state or multiple self-states, and whether they have a conscience or are delusional. The article also examines the possibility that psychopathy is a brain disorder, as psychopaths have been found to have pronounced brain abnormalities. In summary, the article suggests that psychopaths may have cluster B psychodynamic problems superimposed on a defective brain, which differentiates them from narcissists.