Narcissist’s Partner: Womb, Fetish (Schizoid Undead Reborn, Borderline, Codependent)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the evolution of the ego and how it is molded through external object relations. He explains that bad object relations with caregivers can lead to a child becoming schizoid or creating a false self to maintain external object relations while shielding the schizoid inner absence. Individuals with personality disorders, such as narcissism, paranoia, depression, borderline, and codependency, use different solutions to cope with their inner emptiness and lack of object relations. The role of the intimate partner in the life of a narcissist is regulatory and life-sustaining, and they serve as the safe zone where the narcissist can be himself and experience the schizoid state. Ultimately, all narcissists, borderlines, and codependents end up losing the battle and becoming full-fledged
Vaccinate Yourself Against Narcissism Virus NOW: It Evades Your Immunity! Real Pandemic Is Here!
Narcissism is a global pandemic that affects people across cultures and societies. To protect oneself from narcissism, one should educate themselves about it, maintain boundaries, and expose themselves to weakened versions of narcissism to build psychological immunity. As herd immunity against narcissism develops, the virus is under pressure to evolve into psychopathy. By following the same steps of education, distancing, and vaccination, humanity can ultimately win the war against narcissism and psychopathy.
Why Narcissist Happy, Depressed, Remorseful? Plus Boredom
Sam Vaknin discusses the concept of effective ambivalence, where individuals with personality disorders experience contradictory moods simultaneously. He explains that narcissists, as well as individuals with other personality disorders, can be both happy and depressed at the same time due to their fragmented self-states. He also delves into the topic of boredom and its relationship to overstimulation, as well as the coping strategies and defenses used by Western civilization to combat boredom.
Boredom is Good For You
Boredom is not a bad thing, but rather the meaning of life. It is a reaction to overstimulation and a defense against being overwhelmed by life. Western civilization has developed defenses against boredom, such as the unconscious, fantasy, mastery, action, and diversion, but these only lead to increased boredom. Embracing profound existential boredom can lead to a healthy, meaningful, and authentic life, ultimately leading to enlightenment and freedom.
Be Survivor: Victim Mentality Bad For You!
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the concept of victimhood and victim mentality. He explains that while it is important to acknowledge the harrowing experience of victimhood, it becomes manipulative and pernicious when it becomes an ideology or a profession. He delves into the psychological aspects of victim mentality, including the need for recognition, moral elitism, and rumination. Vaknin also highlights the detrimental effects of perpetuating victimhood and the importance of transitioning to a non-victim stance. He emphasizes the need to acknowledge agency and avoid getting stuck in the role of a victim.
Caught in a Drama Triangle or Real Victim?
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the drama triangle, a social model of destructive interaction among people in conflict. He explains the roles of persecutors, victims, and rescuers, and how individuals can shift between these roles. Vaknin also delves into the concept of learned helplessness and its connection to victimhood, as well as the fundamental attribution error and the Just World Phenomenon. He emphasizes the importance of taking responsibility and avoiding perpetuating a victim mentality.
How Narcissist Snapshots YOU to Bad Object
The narcissist hates and needs you, and he internalizes and converts you into a bad object. This process is called snapshotting, and it involves creating an internal object that represents you and interacting with it. The narcissist’s state of mind is that of a two-year-old, and he experiences his overpowering need for you as love, but it’s actually hate. The narcissist’s reactions to manufactured bad objects include anger, depression, and schizoid withdrawal states. The narcissist’s psychosexuality is influenced by the schizoid state, leading to sexlessness and abusive transactional relationships. The narcissist’s behavior in all relationships, including business and friendships, follows a similar pattern of grooming, devaluation, discard, and replacement.
Pathologizing Vulnerable, Normalizing Power: Where Psychologists Fear to Tread
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the blurred lines between delusion and belief, and the reluctance of psychologists to pathologize certain behaviors, such as religious beliefs and conspiracy theories. He questions the integrity of the profession and the DSM, highlighting the gender bias in pathologizing certain personality traits and the fear of confronting powerful groups. Vaknin also criticizes the opportunistic nature of psychology and psychiatry, and the lack of transparency in the inclusion and exclusion of diagnoses in the DSM.
YOUR LOVE, Intimacy FEARED: Narcissist’s Perfectionism, Envy
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the narcissist’s hatred towards others and how it is linked to perfectionism. The narcissist’s fear of failure drives them to be perfect, and they believe they are infallible. The narcissist idealizes only internal objects and internalizes external objects to eliminate competition. In this section, Professor Sam Vaknin explains that the narcissist believes they are the only good object in the world and that they have internalized this object. Therefore, they do not need to envy anyone else. The narcissist becomes immune to envy and talks to their envy, telling it not to direct itself at them because they are the good object.
Pseudoidentities in Cluster B Personality Disorders: Spectacle and Simulacra
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the concept of pseudo-identities in Cluster B personality disorders. He explains the differences between primary and secondary psychopaths and the transitions between overt and covert states in these disorders. He also delves into the concepts of identity confusion, identity disturbance, and identity diffusion, drawing on the work of various scholars and researchers in the field. Additionally, he explores the ideas of simulacrum and spectacle in relation to identity development.