Meaningful Casual Sex, One Night Stands: Their Emotions and Psychology
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the psychology of casual sex and one-night stands, arguing that they are not meaningless or emotionless experiences. He explains that casual sex involves a spectrum of activities and is a continuum, with one-night stands being a part of it. Vaknin highlights that casual sex and one-night stands involve trust, safety, suspension of defenses, and exposure of vulnerabilities, which are all elements of intimacy. Despite people’s claims that these encounters are emotionless and meaningless, Vaknin argues that the emotional reactions and physiological changes that occur during and after casual sex prove otherwise.
Narcissist’s Checklists: Mortification, Shared Fantasy
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the concept of shared fantasy in narcissistic relationships and provides checklists to identify behaviors and symptoms of narcissists. He explains that narcissists seek relationships to create an illusion of normalcy and control their partners. However, they often become sexless and push their partners to cheat, which allows them to maintain their victim stance and moral superiority. Narcissists may remain in abusive relationships due to past failures and the need for a shared fantasy to avoid decompensation and depression.
Push Narcissist’s 4 Secret Buttons: Gamma Man or Agent of Chaos, Madness?
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the four secret buttons of the narcissist, which are the operating system of the narcissist’s internal landscape. He explains how to push these buttons to manipulate or detach from a narcissist. Additionally, he delves into the debate about IQ tests and their limitations, and discusses the concept of gamma males in the social sexual hierarchy. He also explores the discomfort and chaos that narcissists bring into relationships.
Sex, Love with “The Other”: Singlehood, Heterophily, and Exogamy
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the impact of disrupted object relations on the sex drive and the decline in sex as a language of communication. He also talks about the shift in gender roles and the rise of narcissism and psychopathy among women who have been subjected to abuse and complex trauma. Vaknin notes that men have become more effeminate, while women prefer better males who are submissive, kind, empathic, and nice. He predicts that technology will eventually provide people with artificial synthetic sex partners, leading to the end of human relatedness and communication.
Dark Triad Victims, Animal Empathy, Alpha Male (+Schizotypals, Freud)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses a variety of topics, including schizotypal personality disorder, victim movements, and the infiltration of victim movements by dark triad personalities. He also delves into the concept of empathy in animals and the connection between emotions and empathy. Additionally, he explores the work of Sigmund Freud and the potential revival of interest in his theories in light of recent discoveries in neuroscience. Finally, he shares an excerpt from the book “Cast: The Origins of Our Discontents” by Isabel Wilkerson, discussing the concept of true alpha males in the animal kingdom.
Why We Hate to Work (Narcissism Epidemic)
In the past, people took pride in their work and identified with their professions, but today, work is often seen as a necessary evil to be avoided. The rise of narcissism, globalization, and the decline of education and social cohesion have contributed to this shift in attitude. Additionally, the disintegration of the educational system, the rise of irrational beliefs, and the focus on short-term profits over long-term customer loyalty have further eroded the work ethic. The pandemic is likely to accelerate these trends, leading to an even greater disconnect between consumers and producers.
Fake Doormat Narcissist Self-implodes
Narcissists often refuse to commit, invest, or compromise in various aspects of their lives, leading to negative outcomes and losses. This behavior is driven by six psychological reasons: entitlement, magical thinking, schizoid tendencies, grandiosity, imposter syndrome, and self-destructive behaviors. These factors lead to a rejection of life and its offerings, causing the narcissist to become a victim of abuse and mistreatment. The narcissist’s negative behaviors and self-destruction are desperate attempts to connect with the world, as they are unable to form positive, functional relationships.
YOU: Dead Inside or Self-sufficient?
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses how self-sufficiency is often mistaken for pathological behaviors and traits. He explains that true self-sufficiency is self-sustaining, involves firm personal boundaries, and a stable sense of self-worth. However, people often confuse self-sufficiency with behaviors exhibited by narcissists, psychopaths, and individuals with borderline personality disorder, who are actually dependent on others and exhibit counter-dependency. Vaknin emphasizes that these individuals are not self-sufficient, but rather empty and devoid of a true sense of self.
Why Cerebral Narcissist Chooses YOU
Cerebral narcissists choose sexually incompatible partners for six reasons: 1) to maintain a morally superior victim stance, 2) to test their partner’s unconditional love and allegiance, 3) to control their partner through guilt and shame, 4) to legitimize their defiance and contempt for their partner, 5) to forgive their partner and feel like a benevolent figure, and 6) to give their partner freedom while maintaining their own schizoid lifestyle. Cerebral narcissists are repelled by physicality and only engage in sex when hunting for a new partner to embed in a shared fantasy.
How We Ended Up in This Mess (Documentary Excerpt)
The Enlightenment project has failed due to the metastasis of its core values, leading to malignant individualism, malignant egalitarianism, malignant tolerance, and malignant reasoning. Malignant individualism has resulted in the breakdown of institutions and increased alienation, while malignant egalitarianism has led to destructive envy and the rise of narcissism. Malignant tolerance has given way to moral relativism, political correctness, and the erosion of academic rigor. Lastly, malignant reasoning has prioritized ideas and concepts over people, leading to the rise of pseudosciences and the confusion between technology, science, and civilization.