Real Narcissists are Covert, Grandiose Narcissists are Psychopaths
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses compensatory narcissism, self-discrepancy theory, and anosognosia in narcissism. He reviews a recent study that provides evidence for the existence of compensatory narcissism and explains the distinction between vulnerable and grandiose narcissism. He also addresses the concept of anosognosia and its relevance to narcissism.
Warning Young Folks: Silence When We Are All Gone
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses his concerns about the younger generation, noting their lack of emotions, meaningful relationships, and intellectual pursuits. He believes that the focus on action over emotion and cognition is leading to a culture of nihilism and disconnection. Vaknin argues that positive emotions should drive actions, as negative emotions lead to destructive outcomes. He concludes that the current state of the younger generation is a mental suicide, and that a shift in focus towards emotions, cognition, and meaningful connections is necessary for a better future.
Why Do They Infuriate YOU? Promiscuity and Compulsive Sexting
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the reactions people have to narcissists and psychopaths, analyzing the phenomenon using concepts like life promiscuity and sexual promiscuity. He delves into the characteristics and behaviors of psychopaths, including their lack of insight, evasiveness, and lack of boundaries. He also explores the correlation between promiscuity and mental health disorders, as well as the impact of compulsive sexting. Additionally, he touches on the dynamics of intimate partner cheating and promiscuity in relation to schizoid cerebral narcissism.
Evil Rubs Off: Cleanse Yourself!
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the concept of evil and how it is multifaceted. Evil can be found in power plays, self-contempt, self-loathing, self-hatred, and emotional dysregulation. Negative emotions such as fear, envy, hatred, and greed pave the road to evil. Evil is contagious and can infect and possess you. To avoid evil, you must cleanse yourself and avoid it at all costs.
Go to Your Desert, Listen to Your Inner Silence
Professor Sam Vaknin advises people to go to their mental desert, listen to their inner silence, and create a mental cave or mountain top to escape the distractions of modern civilization. He suggests that in the desert, people can face themselves and listen to the voice of God, which speaks through silence. By being passive and emptying themselves, people can become a vessel for the message of the silence to flow through them and receive the gift of healing.
Trust Your Gut: Victimized, not Victim (Interview with Caroline Strawson)
Caroline Strawson, a trauma-informed therapist and coach, interviewed Professor Sam Vaknin, an expert on narcissism. They discussed the complexities of narcissistic abuse, the importance of understanding the abuser’s background without excusing their behavior, and the need for victims to focus on self-love, setting boundaries, and trusting their instincts. Vaknin emphasized the dangers of victimhood as an identity and the societal trend towards tribalism and aggression. He advised against retaliating against abusers, as it perpetuates the cycle of abuse.
Workaholism: Addiction or Lifestyle? (33rd International conference on Mental and Behavioral Health)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses workaholism, questioning whether it is an addiction or a lifestyle. He delves into the negative consequences of workaholism, its association with mental health disorders, and its potential link to compensating for deficiencies. Vaknin emphasizes the need to consider societal and environmental factors in addressing mental health issues, rather than focusing solely on individual treatment.
When Loved Ones Murder YOU (English Interview Ukrainian TV)
The text discusses the complexities of domestic violence, including the reasons victims may stay with their abusers, the psychological dynamics of abuse, the legal and cultural aspects of domestic violence, and the distinction between victims and survivors. It also addresses the rare instances when victims may resort to violence against their abusers and the potential consequences.
Wounded Inner Child Undermines Adult
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the concept of the inner child, its origins, and its impact on adult behavior. He delves into the discrepancy between chronological age and emotional or mental age, and the effects of dysfunctional parenting on the development of the inner child. Vaknin also explores the role of inner child therapy and the need for re-parenting the wounded inner child to facilitate growth and integration.
Tinder Myths Debunked: Online Dating Revisited
Sam Vaknin discusses the myths and realities of Tinder and dating apps. He challenges the beliefs propagated by the Manosphere and provides statistics and studies to support his points. Vaknin emphasizes that dating apps are primarily used for entertainment and boosting self-esteem, and that they often lead to long-term relationships rather than casual sex. He also highlights differences in behavior and preferences between men and women on these platforms.