How Narcissist Misperceives YOUR Intimacy, Love (with Conor Ryan, Eyes Wide Open, EXCERPT)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the dynamics of intimate relationships with narcissists. He explains that narcissists are incapable of perceiving others as separate from themselves and can only form relationships with internal constructs of others in their minds. They use external regulation and projection to maintain their self-image and avoid shame. The narcissist’s concept of love is actually narcissistic elation, a merging and fusing with a mother figure that affirms their grandiosity. Narcissists choose partners based on what they can provide, such as sex, services, safety, and object constancy, rather than who they are as individuals. The victims of narcissistic abuse often struggle to accept this reality and may resort to narcissistic defenses to cope.
The Rich Have You BRAINWASHED: Capitalism is a Zero-sum Game, They WIN, YOU LOSE
Professor Sam Vaknin’s lecture at Euro College in North Macedonia went viral due to its complexity, covering history, cultural studies, and economics. He clarifies that he is qualified to discuss economics due to his extensive experience and publications in the field. Vaknin argues that capitalism is a zero-sum game, benefiting the rich at the expense of the poor, and provides evidence to support his claim, including the impact of taxation, inflation, and the depletion of natural resources. He also discusses the illusion of economic growth through fiat money, debt, and a symbolic economy, ultimately concluding that the system is rigged to benefit the rich and exploit the poor.
Before Therapy: Hack Your Mind to Heal, Succeed
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses 20 psychological hacks for healing and success, based on cutting-edge research. He explains that memory is not about recalling events, but rather about recalling emotions and reactions. He also discusses the impact of social rejection on the brain, the benefits of thinking in a foreign language, the Kruger effect, the influence of music on mood and decision-making, the benefits of singing, the genetic basis of negativity, the intelligence of sarcastic people, the importance of sunlight, the role of dopamine in addiction, the significance of sleep, the impact of line length on reading speed, and the connection between mental and physical health. Vaknin emphasizes the importance of self-help and self-therapy before seeking professional help.
Will AI Kill Us All? Future with Artificial Intelligence
Artificial intelligence has been a concept throughout human history, with automatons and cults being examples. It is the belief that intelligence is the result of creation and behavior. However, AI displays behaviors that cannot be traced back to programming, and it makes its own decisions, leading to a lack of control. AI also generates narratives and imposes them on human beings, creating an alternative virtual reality. The lecture also discusses the transition from an attention economy to a reality manipulative economy, where reality is controlled and sold back to individuals. The democratization of power and the rise of malignant egalitarianism are also mentioned, with AI empowering narcissism and creating a world of gods.
DO THIS When Narcissist Talks to You!
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the importance of focusing on the motivation behind a person’s communication rather than the explicit content. He emphasizes the hidden text method and explains that narcissists communicate with specific goals in mind, such as impressing, confabulating, supporting grandiosity, and manipulating others. He highlights that the actual words spoken by narcissists are less important than understanding why they are communicating in a particular way. Additionally, he touches on the use of language to manipulate and brainwash others, particularly in the case of narcissists and psychopaths.
Happy Birthday, Mr. Vaknin: Lessons of a Life Ill-lived
In this lecture, Professor Sam Vaknin reflects on his 63rd birthday and shares an interview he had with Scott Jacobson. He discusses the irrationality of celebrating birthdays and emphasizes the transient and meaningless nature of life. Vaknin also talks about his early life, the lessons he learned in different stages of life, and the decline of his physical and mental capabilities. He advises on career, ambition, and the importance of not compromising in one’s career. Ultimately, he expresses that he looks forward to death as the ultimate respite.
Narcissist: My Gut Instinct Rules, My Intuition is FACT!
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the narcissist’s perception of intuition and knowledge. He explains that the narcissist perceives his intuition as objective and factual, trusting it as others trust science. The narcissist believes he is omniscient and does not need to acquire knowledge from external sources. He lacks curiosity and does not learn from others, perceiving reality as a problem if it does not conform to his conclusions. The narcissist’s impaired reality testing leads to internal confirmation bias and a belief in his own comprehensive knowledge.
Why Narcissist Rewrites History (Recency Bias)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the cognitive distortion of grandiosity in narcissists, which leads them to believe they are god-like entities. He explains how grandiosity is a way for narcissists to falsify reality and compensate for their fragile state of mind. Vaknin also delves into other cognitive biases such as recency bias, anchoring effect, recency illusion, and serial position effect, and how they manifest in narcissistic behavior. He emphasizes that narcissists’ distorted perception of reality and time leads to a false self-narrative, making it impossible to expect veracity from them.
Decathexis: When YOU are No Longer Useful (Psychopath’s, Narcissist’s Transactional Relationships)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the predictability of narcissistic behavior and provides two rules to understand and predict their actions: optimized allocation of resources and resentment when forced to act. He explains that narcissists view relationships as transactions and are only interested in others if they can provide something of value. Once the utility of a person is over, the narcissist abruptly drops them. This transactional approach to relationships and the lack of emotional investment makes narcissists and psychopaths unpredictable and unreliable partners.
Malignant Covert Narcissist Becomes Primary Psychopath to Compensate for Collapse
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the concept of malignant covert narcissism, a compensatory state that arises from the collapse of overt narcissism. He explains that covert narcissists develop a second layer of compensation, which is the malignancy, to counteract their feelings of inferiority and inadequacy. This malignancy is characterized by psychopathy, sadism, and auto-erotism, and it is more pronounced in covert narcissism than in overt narcissism. Vaknin suggests that malignant covert narcissism may be more common than previously thought and poses a greater danger to society due to its covert and invasive nature.