Inside Mind of Murderous Narcissist (with Isla Traquair)
In this lecture, Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the mind of a sexually sadistic killer, explaining that killing is the ultimate intimacy for this type of murderer. He describes the killer’s experience during the act of killing, the aftermath, and the psychological dynamics involved. He also delves into the different types of killers, such as psychopaths, narcissists, and impulse killers, and how their behaviors and motivations differ. Additionally, he touches on the concept of victimhood and its role in contemporary society.
How Your Childhood Effs Your Adulthood ( Adverse Childhood Experiences ( ACEs))
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the impact of adverse childhood experiences on adulthood. He explains that childhood largely determines adulthood and attachment styles are almost cast in stone. He emphasizes that childhood experiences have a direct impact on adulthood and discusses the mental health consequences of an unhappy childhood, including the development of narcissism, fear of abandonment, perfectionism, emotional instability, and difficulty expressing emotions. He also highlights the challenges in setting boundaries, overthinking, self-loathing, and passive aggression as outcomes of adverse childhood experiences.
Is It YOUR Fantasy – or Theirs (Narcissists, Psychopaths, Borderlines)?
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the concept of the shared fantasy in relationships, particularly in the context of narcissism and psychopathy. He explains that while the psychopath customizes the fantasy to fit the partner, the narcissist coerces the partner to fit the fantasy. Vaknin emphasizes the differences in motivations, goals, and outcomes between the psychopath’s, narcissist’s, and borderline’s fantasies, highlighting the manipulative and exploitative nature of these dynamics. He also delves into the psychological underpinnings of these behaviors, linking them to a quest for unconditional love and entitlement.
Why Narcissist Can’t Love (with Daria Żukowska, Clinical Psychologist)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the concept of love in relationships involving individuals with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) and Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). He explains that narcissists are incapable of genuine love due to their cognitive style, fear of vulnerability, and internalized negative self-image. Vaknin also delves into the emotional impact of being in a relationship with a narcissist, highlighting the complex grief and trauma experienced by victims. He emphasizes the importance of recognizing early warning signs and maintaining assertiveness and boundaries to avoid entering such relationships.
Grandiosity, Idea Of Reference, Other, Apophenia, Pareidolia, Hostile Attribution, Confirmation Bias
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses grandiosity and its deconstruction. Grandiosity involves cognitive distortions, unconscious and conscious operations, and multiple biases and psychological processes. It includes ideas of reference, object apophenia, and social pareidolia. Grandiosity is a core element of pathological narcissism and involves a failure to perceive others as separate from oneself. The lecture also delves into the connection between grandiosity and delusions of reference, as well as the impact of hostile attribution bias and the development of delusions in narcissistic modification.
90 Seconds, 15 Aspects of Narcissism, Narcissistic Abuse (Shadowdeangelis)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the concept of triangulation and narcissistic snapshotting in relationships. Triangulation is used by narcissists to weaken and control their victims by involving third parties and creating insecurity. Narcissistic snapshotting refers to the narcissist’s idealized and unchanging perception of their victim, leading to anxiety and discomfort when the victim deviates from this idealized image. The lecture also covers the dual mothership model, the impact of narcissistic abuse, and the importance of healing and understanding the narcissist’s mindset. Additionally, it addresses common misconceptions about narcissists, the role of anger and rage in narcissistic abuse, and the concept of confabulation in the narcissist’s delusional mindset.
3 Types Of Victim Vigilante, Identity, Traditional
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the concept of victimhood and its different forms. He explains traditional victimhood, identity victimhood, and vigilante victimhood, and how they are used to gain benefits and attention. He also addresses the infiltration of victimhood movements by narcissists and psychopaths, and the negative impact of victimhood identity politics. Vaknin emphasizes the coercive and abusive nature of victimhood movements and their transformation from genuine grievances to abusive and manipulative movements.
RED FLAGS Financial Abuse by Narcissists and Psychopaths
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses various types of financial frauds and scams, including charity scams, banking scams, debt relief scams, Nigerian scams, grandparent scams, and more. He emphasizes the importance of being cautious with online communication and not giving out personal information. Vaknin also warns about the dangers of cryptocurrency scams and the potential for artificial intelligence to be used in future scams. He advises victims of scams that the chances of recovering their money are low and suggests reporting the fraud to law enforcement agencies.
Can Addiction Be Helped? (Mexico City Lecture)
Professor Sam Vaknin introduces a new view of addiction, presenting five metaphors or narratives to understand addiction. He explains that addiction is a natural state of the brain and that the brain is an addiction machine. He argues that addiction is a positive adaptation as far as evolution is concerned. He suggests that addiction should be managed rather than eradicated and that healthy addictions should be encouraged as a way to substitute bad addictions. He emphasizes the need for a more realistic and humble approach to treating addiction.
Narcissist’s Extrinsic Values How You Adopt The Fantasy Ratchet
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the concept of values, which are a confluence between how we view ourselves and the world ideally and how we think the world should conduct its affairs. Values are shaped by socialization and acculturation and can be intrinsic or extrinsic. Narcissists possess extrinsic values, which are associated with lower empathy and a focus on power and status. Societies with extrinsic values tend to be unequal and lack solidarity. The elites in such societies use fear, new frames of thought, and the values ratchet to manipulate the population. In individual situations, narcissists induce fear, redefine reality, and normalize the abnormal to control others. Values in the hands of narcissists are powerful instruments that reshape individuals and perpetuate fantasy as a substitute for reality.