So, What Is Narcissistic Abuse, After All? (with Kelly Brogan, MD)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the concept of the shared fantasy in narcissistic relationships, where the narcissist seeks to separate and become an individual by luring an intimate partner into a fantasy. He explains that the shared fantasy is about separation, not merging, and that the narcissist seeks to convert the partner into a maternal figure. Vaknin, who has been diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder, emphasizes the need for professional help in overcoming the aftermath of such relationships and highlights the profound grief and disorientation experienced by victims. He also provides red flags for identifying narcissistic patterns in relationships and offers his YouTube channel as a resource for further information and support.
Inside Mind of Murderous Narcissist (with Isla Traquair)
In this lecture, Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the mind of a sexually sadistic killer, explaining that killing is the ultimate intimacy for this type of murderer. He describes the killer’s experience during the act of killing, the aftermath, and the psychological dynamics involved. He also delves into the different types of killers, such as psychopaths, narcissists, and impulse killers, and how their behaviors and motivations differ. Additionally, he touches on the concept of victimhood and its role in contemporary society.
Why Narcissist Can’t Love (with Daria Żukowska, Clinical Psychologist)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the concept of love in relationships involving individuals with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) and Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). He explains that narcissists are incapable of genuine love due to their cognitive style, fear of vulnerability, and internalized negative self-image. Vaknin also delves into the emotional impact of being in a relationship with a narcissist, highlighting the complex grief and trauma experienced by victims. He emphasizes the importance of recognizing early warning signs and maintaining assertiveness and boundaries to avoid entering such relationships.
Grandiosity, Idea Of Reference, Other, Apophenia, Pareidolia, Hostile Attribution, Confirmation Bias
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses grandiosity and its deconstruction. Grandiosity involves cognitive distortions, unconscious and conscious operations, and multiple biases and psychological processes. It includes ideas of reference, object apophenia, and social pareidolia. Grandiosity is a core element of pathological narcissism and involves a failure to perceive others as separate from oneself. The lecture also delves into the connection between grandiosity and delusions of reference, as well as the impact of hostile attribution bias and the development of delusions in narcissistic modification.
90 Seconds, 15 Aspects of Narcissism, Narcissistic Abuse (Shadowdeangelis)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the concept of triangulation and narcissistic snapshotting in relationships. Triangulation is used by narcissists to weaken and control their victims by involving third parties and creating insecurity. Narcissistic snapshotting refers to the narcissist’s idealized and unchanging perception of their victim, leading to anxiety and discomfort when the victim deviates from this idealized image. The lecture also covers the dual mothership model, the impact of narcissistic abuse, and the importance of healing and understanding the narcissist’s mindset. Additionally, it addresses common misconceptions about narcissists, the role of anger and rage in narcissistic abuse, and the concept of confabulation in the narcissist’s delusional mindset.
3 Types Of Victim Vigilante, Identity, Traditional
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the concept of victimhood and its different forms. He explains traditional victimhood, identity victimhood, and vigilante victimhood, and how they are used to gain benefits and attention. He also addresses the infiltration of victimhood movements by narcissists and psychopaths, and the negative impact of victimhood identity politics. Vaknin emphasizes the coercive and abusive nature of victimhood movements and their transformation from genuine grievances to abusive and manipulative movements.
RED FLAGS Financial Abuse by Narcissists and Psychopaths
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses various types of financial frauds and scams, including charity scams, banking scams, debt relief scams, Nigerian scams, grandparent scams, and more. He emphasizes the importance of being cautious with online communication and not giving out personal information. Vaknin also warns about the dangers of cryptocurrency scams and the potential for artificial intelligence to be used in future scams. He advises victims of scams that the chances of recovering their money are low and suggests reporting the fraud to law enforcement agencies.
Can Addiction Be Helped? (Mexico City Lecture)
Professor Sam Vaknin introduces a new view of addiction, presenting five metaphors or narratives to understand addiction. He explains that addiction is a natural state of the brain and that the brain is an addiction machine. He argues that addiction is a positive adaptation as far as evolution is concerned. He suggests that addiction should be managed rather than eradicated and that healthy addictions should be encouraged as a way to substitute bad addictions. He emphasizes the need for a more realistic and humble approach to treating addiction.
Narcissist’s Extrinsic Values How You Adopt The Fantasy Ratchet
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the concept of values, which are a confluence between how we view ourselves and the world ideally and how we think the world should conduct its affairs. Values are shaped by socialization and acculturation and can be intrinsic or extrinsic. Narcissists possess extrinsic values, which are associated with lower empathy and a focus on power and status. Societies with extrinsic values tend to be unequal and lack solidarity. The elites in such societies use fear, new frames of thought, and the values ratchet to manipulate the population. In individual situations, narcissists induce fear, redefine reality, and normalize the abnormal to control others. Values in the hands of narcissists are powerful instruments that reshape individuals and perpetuate fantasy as a substitute for reality.
Narcissism, Lonely Codependent “Love”, Victimhood: Unholy Trinity (Mexico City Q&A)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses self-splitting, a defense mechanism where individuals perceive themselves as either all good or all bad. Addicts typically perceive themselves as all bad and use addiction to transition from a negative self-image to a positive one. Codependency is a personality disorder where individuals depend on their partner to regulate their internal world and manipulate their partner through helplessness. In dealing with a narcissistic parent, the non-narcissistic parent can only provide the child with an alternative model and cannot protect the child from the narcissistic parent. Malignant love involves trying to merge with the partner and losing individuality, while healthy love involves maintaining boundaries and individual lives. Good addiction promotes well-being and growth, while bad addiction reduces anxiety and is grounded in fantasy. Social media does not enhance narcissism but may amplify psychopathy and negative emotions. Solitude is not a sickness, but loneliness can lead to mental health issues and is encouraged by society and technology.