Is your DATE a NARCISSIST? (EXCERPT with Conor Ryan, Eyes Wide Open Podcast)
Trust your instincts and observe the man’s behavior for signs of narcissism, such as boundary breaches, controlling behavior, and rapid relationship progression. Pay attention to how he treats others and his speech patterns. Narcissists create a shared fantasy and regress their partners to a dependent state. Women have caught up with men in exhibiting narcissistic traits, and female narcissists may also display histrionic behavior.
Narcissist and YOU: Tour the Nightmare (with Monique Rigney)
The text is a conversation between two individuals discussing various topics, including narcissism, memory, and societal issues. They touch on the impact of trauma on memory, the role of victimhood in society, and the decline of human interaction in the digital age. The conversation also delves into the impact of feminism and the changing dynamics between men and women.
Why Can’t You Breakup with the Narcissist?
Self-styled experts online exploit victims of narcissistic abuse by pandering to their desire to be seen as blameless victims. They profit from perpetuating victimhood and validating the victims’ feelings. Victims may stay with narcissists for selfish reasons, such as seeking validation, feeling needed, or benefiting from the relationship in various ways. The narcissist’s control and the victim’s own psychological needs contribute to their reluctance to leave the relationship.
War as Narcissistic Fantasy (with Trisha Goddard on TALKTV)
Sam Vaknin discusses the dehumanization of the enemy in war, emphasizing the psychological defense mechanism of splitting and the role of war in creating a new order. He also delves into the language of war as a fantasy defense and its impact on perception of the enemy. Vaknin draws parallels between war and narcissistic behavior, highlighting the antisocial and psychopathic aspects of war.
You! Be GRATEFUL, HONORED That Narcissist Lets You Serve, Witness Him (Sacrificial Entitlement)
The text discusses the concept of sacrificial entitlement in narcissists. It explains how narcissists believe they are sacrificing their divine qualities to be with their partners and expect gratitude and obedience in return. The text also delves into the narcissist’s perspective on the breakup, viewing it as ingratitude from the partner. It highlights the narcissist’s belief that they have given their partner everything and the partner’s rejection is seen as a form of devaluation.
Hallucinatory Payback for Narcissist’s Real Mother (with psychotherapist and author Kathleen Saxton)
Professor Vaknin discussed the rise in narcissism and comorbidity with other mental health issues. He explained that narcissism is a personality disorder with various manifestations and that there is a new approach to understanding personality disorders. He also addressed the correlation between covert narcissism and avoidant personality type, the impact of trauma bonding, and the characteristics of individuals attracted to narcissists. Additionally, he emphasized the need to understand covert states in various personality disorders and the importance of checking credentials in the field of psychology.
Don’t Waste Your Love on the Narcissist (Conference Presentation)
The narcissist is incapable of both loving and being loved due to the presence of a bad object at their core. Love triggers feelings of vulnerability and inadequacy in the narcissist, leading them to reject and push away any attempts at love. They view love as a threat and seek to control and manipulate their partners to avoid feelings of weakness and potential abandonment. The narcissist’s inability to separate others from themselves and their deep-seated trauma from childhood further complicates their ability to engage in healthy, loving relationships.
Narcissistic Supply – How Does It FEEL?
Narcissistic supply is essential for the narcissist’s self-regulation and maintaining a sense of grandiosity and perfection. It is a form of external regulation that stabilizes the narcissist’s self-worth, moods, and emotions. The narcissist’s dependence on narcissistic supply is akin to an addiction, providing a rush and sense of omnipotence. The pursuit of narcissistic supply involves idealizing sources of supply and is a crucial element in the narcissistic pathology.
Narcissism: A Talk Across the Generations (with Nicolas Martin)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses his expertise in narcissistic personality disorder, the interconnectedness of personality disorders, the impact of trauma on personality development, the influence of philosophers and psychologists on his thinking, the rise of narcissistic tendencies in modern society, the impact of digitalization on mental health, the relationship between psychology and politics, the future of psychology, and advice for young psychologists. He also shares his views on the possibility of a third world war and the direction of the field of psychology.
How Trauma Destroys Your Sense of Self (PTSD Literature Review)
Neuroscience studies support the idea that narcissistic and borderline personality disorders are post-traumatic conditions due to disruptions in the formation of the self. Trauma, especially in early childhood, leads to dissociation, depersonalization, and derealization, affecting the sense of self. The default mode network in the brain is implicated in these disruptions. PTSD and CPTSD are reactions to single or repeated traumatic events, with EMDR and cognitive behavior therapy as recommended treatments. Medication options for PTSD include paroxetine, sertraline, and alpha 2 receptor antagonists, while benzodiazepines and certain other drugs are not recommended.