Narcissists Love Your Victimhood (Game Changers Interview 3 of 3)
Dr. Sam Vaknin discusses the challenges of educating potential victims of narcissistic abuse, emphasizing that education alone is not enough to prevent victimization. He explains that victims often have unclear personal boundaries, are people-pleasers, and have deep psychological needs that make them prone to victimhood. Vaknin suggests that it is more important to address the psychology of the victim than their cognitive capacity to recognize abuse. He also highlights the need to restore faith in the future for both victims and narcissists, as well as the elites who have lost perspective on the future.
Big Bang of Narcissism (Game Changers Interview 1 of 3)
Dr. Sam Vaknin, a writer and psychologist, discusses narcissism and narcissistic abuse in society. He coined the phrase “narcissistic abuse” in 1995 to distinguish it from other forms of abuse, as it targets all dimensions of the victim simultaneously with the aim of eliminating the victim. Vaknin believes that the explosion of narcissism in society is due to population growth and the culture of consumption, which objectifies human beings. He also notes that political leaders reflect the underlying realities of the population, and that the electorate is narcissistic, which is why leaders are narcissistic. The conversation also touches on the role of the market and social media in perpetuating narcissistic behavior patterns.
Four Steps: Change Yourself to Change the World (with Assc Direct)
The guest advises people to reestablish meaningful connections with real people to combat the depersonalization and derealization caused by social media. He suggests starting small with five interactions a day and gradually building up. He also advises trusting judiciously and creating a distributed network of trust. Lastly, he recommends discarding beliefs and behaviors that are not truly one’s own and focusing on the essence of oneself.
Why We Hate to Work (Narcissism Epidemic)
In the past, people took pride in their work and identified with their professions, but today, work is often seen as a necessary evil to be avoided. The rise of narcissism, globalization, and the decline of education and social cohesion have contributed to this shift in attitude. Additionally, the disintegration of the educational system, the rise of irrational beliefs, and the focus on short-term profits over long-term customer loyalty have further eroded the work ethic. The pandemic is likely to accelerate these trends, leading to an even greater disconnect between consumers and producers.
Dissolve YOUR Snapshot, Amplify Anxiety of Narcissist: Love Slaves No More!
Professor Sam Vaknin teaches two techniques to deal with a narcissist: dissolving the snapshot and amplifying the narcissist’s abandonment anxiety. The first technique involves negating positive sentences and amplifying negative ones to create discrepancies between the idealized snapshot of the narcissist and the real person. The second technique involves playing on the narcissist’s abandonment anxiety by displaying physical weakness, illness, disability, or dropping hints of abandonment. Vaknin also discusses the development of the self in infants and how it is shaped by the mother’s responses, and the impact of unexplained events on our emotions.
World After Pandemic: Society and Economy (Interview Kanal 77)
Pandemics are self-limiting and have a social and economic rebound. The aftermath of pandemics is always the same, with an explosion of extraversion and an economic rebound. However, the pandemic will lead to income inequality, with the rich getting richer and the poor getting poorer. The workforce will be divided into two segments, with 90% of workers being low-income and unskilled, and the remaining 10% being highly skilled and educated. The pandemic will lead to a revolution, but it will fail because the masses are too heavily invested in the same system that the elites benefit from.
Body Taboos and Water Sports (ENGLISH responses)
In this transcript, Professor Sam Vaknin discusses BDSM and its potential use as an anxiety-reducing tool for narcissists. He also explores the taboo surrounding urine and feces in sexual practices, arguing that these prohibitions are relatively new and have no clinical or biological basis. Vaknin suggests that constriction of sexual behaviors is harmful and that the rebels who engage in BDSM and other taboo practices represent true and healthy sexuality.
Silencing Denying Your Pain Betrayal Trauma And Betrayal Blindness
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses betrayal trauma theory, which suggests that trauma is perpetrated by someone close to the victim and on whom they rely for support and survival. Betrayal trauma can lead to dissociation, attachment injury, vulnerability, fear, relationship expectations, shame, low self-esteem, communication issues, and barriers to forming new relationships. The section also explores the relationship between betrayal trauma and Stockholm syndrome, with the former being more common. Treatment for betrayal trauma is new, and relational cultural therapy may be the best approach. The section concludes with the idea that trust is essential in relationships.
Narcissist Entrains Codependent, Borderline Brainwash, Regulate, Repeat
Narcissists do not have a special gaze or eyebrows, despite myths and pseudoscience. However, victims’ claims of feeling brainwashed by narcissists and experiencing depersonalization and derealization are likely true. Narcissists use techniques such as intermittent reinforcement, trauma bonding, and verbal abuse to induce a dissociative hypnotic trance in their victims, a process called entraining. Entraining involves modifying brainwaves to a desired frequency, and the narcissist’s speech can change the rhythms of the victim’s brain. This can cause feelings of amnesia, depersonalization, and derealization, leading to massive dissociation in the victim.
Normal? Mentally Ill? Not in My Culture!
Mental health diagnoses and treatments are influenced by culture and societal norms, which change over time. Examples include the zar, a culture-bound syndrome in Africa, where people believe they are possessed by demons, and homosexuality, which was considered a mental illness in the West until 1980. The concept of mental health is evolving as society becomes more accepting of diverse behaviors and orientations. This raises questions about the validity of certain mental health diagnoses and whether they are truly illnesses or simply society’s judgment of certain people.