Study: Narcissists Cheat MORE? Only Partly True! (And Why They Cheat)
A study on narcissism and infidelity found that grandiose narcissistic women are more likely to have favorable attitudes towards infidelity, while their male partners are less likely to cheat. Vulnerable narcissists, both male and female, are more likely to have favorable attitudes towards infidelity. Additionally, the number of premarital partners is linked to higher rates of divorce and infidelity, with those having nine or more partners being at a higher risk. Narcissists cheat for reasons such as seeking narcissistic supply, avoiding intimacy and commitment, and asserting control. They may also use infidelity as a way to rejuvenate their primary relationship.
Narcissist Needs You to Fail Him, Let Go (with Azam Ali)
In this conversation, Sam Vaknin discusses the concept of narcissistic abuse and the dynamics of narcissistic relationships. He explains the narcissist’s need for existence and the victim’s hunger for love and intimacy, highlighting the irreconcilable nature of these two needs. He also emphasizes the importance of insight and empathy in understanding oneself and others.
What’s Wrong with Our Dystopian World (Starts at 05:56)
The text is a rant about the state of the world, discussing various societal issues and expressing dissatisfaction with the current state of affairs. It covers topics such as internet stickiness, narcissistic behavior, societal norms, censorship, and the decline of traditional values. The author expresses a bleak outlook on the future of humanity and the world.
How To Think Like A Narcissist
The text discusses how to think like a narcissist and the reasons for wanting to do so. It delves into the dissonant thinking of narcissists and how they resolve contradictions in their thoughts and emotions. The text also explores the use of defense mechanisms and the impact of dissonance on the narcissist’s psyche. Additionally, it touches on the narcissist’s fear of mortification and their self-administered exposure therapy.
Identify LIARS, LIES in Your Life
There are 11 types of lies, including utilitarian lies, smokescreen lies, compassionate lies, ceremonial lies, compensatory lies, confabulatory lies, inferential lies, hybrid lies, and artistic lies. Gaslighting is a strategy used by psychopaths to make people doubt their own perception of reality, while confabulation is a desperate attempt to breach memory gaps and lapses. Narcissists rarely lie, but instead create a fantasy in which they are emotionally invested and which they fully believe. With the emergence of mass media and social media, lying has been legitimized as a form of art, leading to the rise of artistic lies.
How To Tell If Someone Is A Pathological Liar
Pathological lying is a compulsive behavior that is not goal-oriented and has no purpose. Pathological liars weave elaborate and extensive lies that are self-destructive and self-defeating. They are emotionally invested in the act of lying and create an environment that is conducive to their subjective well-being. Pathological lying is not a symptom of any other mental illness and is a long-term problem. There are eight types of lies, including utilitarian, smokescreen, compassionate, ceremonial, compensatory, confabulatory, inferential, and hybrid lies.
FIREWALL YOUR Relationships, Yourself: Boundaries vs. Borders
In relationships, borders are like membranes that allow in only selective types of communication and are policed by cultural and social mores. Borders are interpersonal and are forms of selectivity that regulate structure and introduce order into relationships. Boundaries are individual and are rules of conduct, red lines in the sand. Personal boundaries need to be communicated to people around you, including your intimate partner, and each boundary has to come with a cost, with a price tag. The ability to thrive in intimacy is inextricably linked to the capacity to maintain and enforce personal boundaries and negotiate and compromise interdichoic, intradiadic inside the couple, borders.
Narcissist’s Sadism, Masochism, and Self-Destructiveness (ENGLISH responses)
Narcissists are not masochistic because they do not love themselves, and masochism is a form of self-love. Narcissists are self-destructive, and their sadism and masochism are instrumental and functional, used to control people and obtain results. Self-destructiveness is a way for the narcissist to prove to themselves that they are alive when they cannot obtain narcissistic supply. BDSM can be a safe environment for the narcissist to transfer control and rest, knowing that nothing bad will happen.
How to Overcome Obsessive Love Disorder
Obsessive love is a pathological and dysfunctional form of love that is reminiscent of addiction. The main characteristic of obsessive love is the inability to put an end to it. It is a form of extreme hatred and a suicide act. Obsessive love is a reenactment of early childhood conflicts, mummy issues usually or later life conflicts with parental figures, including daddy issues. It’s about regressing back to childhood.
20 Reasons to NOT Have Kids
In this video, Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the reasons why people are choosing not to have children. He cites studies that show having children can negatively impact physical and mental health, relationships, social life, earning power, and the environment. He also highlights the high cost of raising children, including education expenses, and the fact that many young adults are living with their parents well into their 20s and 30s. Overall, Vaknin argues that there are few good reasons to have children and suggests that counseling or medication may be necessary for those who still want to have them.