How Narcissist Borderline Child Experiences World
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the development of narcissistic and borderline personalities in children, focusing on the impact of parental behavior on the child’s perception of self and others. He delves into the concepts of primary narcissism, object splitting, and the role of the mother in shaping the child’s psyche. Vaknin also explores the theories of Sigmund Freud and Carl Jung, highlighting their perspectives on narcissism, introversion, and the shadow self.
Borderline Demonizes Partner, Pathologizes Narcissist (Or Herself)
The text discusses the dynamics of borderline personality disorder and narcissistic personality disorder in relationships. It delves into the borderline’s paranoid ideation and the need to justify withdrawing from a partner. It also explores the concept of persecutory dynamics and the interplay between the borderline and narcissistic partner. Additionally, it touches on the narcissist’s devaluation and discard phases and the impact on the internal object.
YOU In Mind Of Narcissist, Borderline
The narcissist perceives others through internal objects in his mind, constantly negotiating and reconciling them with external reality. The narcissist’s lack of boundaries and empathy leads to confusion between internal and external objects, resulting in a form of hyper-reflexivity and psychosis. The narcissist’s interactions are primarily with internal objects, projecting their mental states onto external objects. The narcissist’s attachment is to internal objects, and they maintain control and possession over external objects through introjects. The narcissist’s relationship with a borderline personality can lead to a powerful bond, with the borderline encouraging the narcissist’s internal object interactions.
Why Narcissists Commit Suicide? To Be Great Again!
Narcissistic personality disorder is associated with a high risk of suicide, especially during narcissistic mortification. Suicide in narcissists is not driven by depression, but rather by a desire to restore a sense of grandiosity and control. Suicidal ideation in narcissism is suffused with grandiosity and reflects an underlying cognitive distortion. The characteristics of suicidal behaviors in narcissistic personality disorder include perfectionism, lack of self-disclosure, dissociation, body hatred, and inconsistent self-representation. Suicidal ideation in narcissists is a form of acting out and a way to assert control over themselves and others.
How Mentally Ill Cope With Anxiety
Anxiety is an irrational fear that can be exogenic (from the outside) or endogenic (from internal processes). Mentally ill people cope with anxiety in five ways: externalizing anxiety via aggression, conflating external and internal objects, reframing reality and impairing reality testing, reciprocal inhibition, and dissociation. These coping mechanisms can be seen in various personality disorders, such as borderline personality disorder, where dissociation is used to avoid unbearable anxiety. It is important to consult a licensed therapist or psychologist if any of these coping mechanisms are identified in oneself.
What We are Getting Wrong About Mental Illness: Diagnostic Manuals are BROKEN
Professor Sam Vaknin argues that the current diagnostic manuals for mental health disorders, such as the DSM and ICD, are flawed and should be restructured into three parts based on the three phases of life: childhood, adolescence, and adulthood. He believes that mental health disorders should be categorized as brain abnormalities, relational/societal disorders, and innate disorders. Vaknin also questions the validity of antisocial personality disorder as a mental illness, suggesting that it may be more of a tool for social control rather than a proper clinical entity.
EPCACE: Between PTSD and CPTSD (Trauma in Adulthood, Late Onset)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the diagnosis of Enduring Personality Change After Catastrophe Experience (EPCACE) and its differentiation from Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (CPTSD). He argues that EPCACE should not be subsumed under CPTSD, as the reactions to the diagnostic issues are not the same. He suggests that EPCACE should be reconceived with a set of diagnostic criteria that incorporate symptoms such as somatization, self-harm, and sexual dysfunction. He also believes that diagnoses such as masochistic personality disorder, sadistic personality disorder, and negativistic, passive-aggressive personality disorder should not have been eliminated.
Identify LIARS, LIES in Your Life
There are 11 types of lies, including utilitarian lies, smokescreen lies, compassionate lies, ceremonial lies, compensatory lies, confabulatory lies, inferential lies, hybrid lies, and artistic lies. Gaslighting is a strategy used by psychopaths to make people doubt their own perception of reality, while confabulation is a desperate attempt to breach memory gaps and lapses. Narcissists rarely lie, but instead create a fantasy in which they are emotionally invested and which they fully believe. With the emergence of mass media and social media, lying has been legitimized as a form of art, leading to the rise of artistic lies.
DANGER! Crazymaking Drama in YOUR Relationship
Drama, crazy making, and chaos are defining features of mental health disturbances, particularly in cluster B personality disorders. The reasons behind such behavior vary depending on the disorder, but they often involve a need for attention, a sense of vulnerability, or a misapprehension of limitations. The drama and crazy making are intended to support the self-perception of the individual, whether it be grandiosity, invincibility, or a need for attention. Those in relationships with individuals with these disorders should be aware of the potential risks and dangers.
From Insecure to Flat Attachment: Narcissists, Psychopaths Never Bond (Compilation)
Sam Vaknin proposes a fifth attachment style called “flat attachment,” where individuals are incapable of bonding or relating to others at all. They view others as interchangeable and dispensable, transitioning seamlessly from one person to the next without mourning or processing grief. This style is common among narcissists and psychopaths. Vaknin also discusses the confusion between intimacy, emotions, sex, and attachment, emphasizing that intimacy does not necessarily involve emotions, and emotions do not always lead to intimacy. He highlights that attachment styles are stable across the lifespan and are influenced by early caregiving experiences, shaping one’s expectations and beliefs about relationships. Vaknin’s work suggests that individuals with cluster B personality disorders, as well as those with complex trauma, exhibit insecure attachment styles, which can manifest in behaviors like stalking, and are often rooted in dysfunctional early relationships with caregivers.