ADHD, Autism, Narcissism: No Empathy in Dead Mother Triad
Sam Vaknin discusses the connection between ADHD, autism, and narcissism, speculating that a dysfunctional upbringing can lead to attention deficit and a lack of empathy. He emphasizes the importance of empathy in psychological functioning and highlights the decline of empathy in society. He also criticizes the societal focus on self-interest and manipulation.
Your Threatening Love: Why You Stay, Why He Abuses You
In this video, Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the mispronunciation of the word “serotonin” and the misconception of Eve giving Adam an apple. He then delves into the reasons why narcissists and psychopaths abuse their partners and why the partners stay in such relationships, exploring concepts such as core complex, sadomasochistic fit, and toxic coupling. Vaknin also touches on the psychological dynamics of aggression and violence in these relationships, and the role of mentalization in understanding and empathizing with others.
Codependents And Narcissists Wooden Puppets And Cruel Puppetmasters
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the story of Pinocchio as a metaphor for the struggles of abused children. He explains that Pinocchio’s desire to become human and escape his puppet existence represents a death wish, as abused children often feel they don’t exist or are unsure of their own essence. To cope with their abusive environment, these children may become narcissistic, borderline, or codependent, either emulating or merging with their abusive parent. This leads to a life of conflict, power play, and fantasy, as they constantly seek to escape their puppet-like existence.
Insecure Attachment Styles In Cluster B Personalities ( YOU, The Dead Mother)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses attachment styles and disorders in various personality disorders, including narcissism, psychopathy, and borderline personality disorder. He emphasizes the impact of childhood experiences on attachment styles and the role of relational schemas in guiding behaviors and relationships. Vaknin also introduces the concept of “flat attachment” and highlights the dysfunctional coping mechanisms and distress associated with psychopathic and narcissistic behaviors. He argues that these behaviors are rooted in attachment issues and the fear of being loved or loving.
Your Role in Narcissist’s Shared Fantasy is Why He Hates You (hint: you make him feel himself – and human)
In summary, the narcissist’s intimate partner plays a crucial role in the shared fantasy by fulfilling the roles of admirer, playmate, and mother. This allows the narcissist to experience maximal grandiosity and feel safe enough to separate and individuate. However, the intimate partner’s presence also leads to the narcissist’s self-hatred and inability to maintain meaningful communication with both the outside world and himself. The intimate partner ultimately becomes a threat to the narcissist, as they make the narcissist feel human, which is something the narcissist does not want to be.
How to Overcome Pandemic’s CPTSD (Keynote Speech Covid-19 Global Summit)
Professor Sam Vaknin discussed the psychological implications of the COVID pandemic, focusing on trauma psychology models. He explained that the pandemic has caused a collective trauma, leading to a potential increase in mental health issues and personality disorders. The pandemic has disrupted our ability to create meaningful narratives and has attacked our core identity, causing dissociative symptoms and identity disturbance. Vaknin suggests that mental health practitioners must help facilitate the healing process for individuals affected by the pandemic.
Collapsed Covert Narcissist: Dissonances, Indifference, No Boundaries
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses his upcoming controversial claim that all narcissists oscillate between being overt and covert in reaction to changing life circumstances and extreme narcissistic injury. He also delves into the behaviors of covert narcissists and the collapsed state of narcissism. Vaknin emphasizes the importance of recognizing the signs of a collapsed narcissist and the rationality of walking away from relationships with narcissists. He also discusses the concept of “no contact” as a strategy for dealing with narcissistic abuse.
Test Yourself: Mortification, Hoovering, and Attraction Scales
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses two tools he has developed based on his database of people diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder. The first tool, the Heartbreak and Recovery Scale, helps gauge mortification and predicts how long it will take a narcissist to recover from a traumatic breakup or infidelity. The second tool, the S1-S2 score, measures promiscuity and self-efficacy, and helps identify traits that make a potential partner irresistible to a narcissist. These tools are not peer-reviewed or vetted but are based on Vaknin’s extensive research and analysis of his database.
Is It OK to Cheat on My Narcissist?
In summary, Professor Sam Vaknin discusses three types of cheating in relationships with narcissists: cheating to preserve the shared fantasy, cheating to exit the shared fantasy, and cheating to mortify the narcissist. Cheating to preserve the shared fantasy does not provoke romantic jealousy in the narcissist, as long as it is done discreetly and respectfully. Cheating to exit the shared fantasy provokes extreme romantic jealousy, as it challenges the idealized version of the partner and threatens the shared fantasy. Cheating to mortify the narcissist forces them to confront their true selves and destroys their grandiosity, ultimately leading to the end of the relationship.
Victim: How to Avoid Becoming a Psychopathic Narcissist
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the controversial topics of victims abusing narcissists and the concept of racism. He delves into the impact of trauma on victims, the contagious nature of narcissism, and the development of complex post-traumatic stress disorder. He also explores the behaviors and reactions of victims in extreme circumstances, such as trauma bonding and the challenges of forming new relationships after abuse.