Take Your Life Back, Own It
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses relationships and the importance of distinguishing between real and pseudo-relationships. He emphasizes the need for maintaining individuality and taking responsibility for one’s choices and decisions. He also provides seven rules for self-preservation and shares his perspective on happiness and life. The professor concludes with advice on embracing change and living a life worth remembering.
Lonely=Strong? Age of Alone: New Normal
Loneliness and aloneness are becoming increasingly common in today’s society, with many people lacking intimate relationships, friends, and even engaging in less sex. This has led to various coping mechanisms, such as busyness, creativity, magical thinking, and engaging in online communities or social media. However, these strategies often fail to provide true fulfillment and can lead to mental health issues such as anxiety, depression, and substance abuse. The growing trend of loneliness and aloneness is difficult to reverse, as people become entrenched in their ways and develop an ideology around their solitude.
Why Narcissist Hates Your Unborn Child in Shared Fantasy
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses how narcissists react to pregnancy and childbirth. He explains that the changes in a pregnant woman challenge the narcissist’s control and idealized image of their partner, leading to feelings of abandonment and insecurity. The narcissist may devalue and discard their partner, feeling threatened by the loss of attention and control. The pregnancy disrupts the narcissist’s shared fantasy and triggers a desperate attempt to maintain the grandiose fantasy. Ultimately, the narcissist perceives pregnancy as a threat to their control and attempts to suppress any signs of independence or life in their partner.
Choose Intimacy, not Self-sufficiency: Response to Angry Women
Professor Sam Vaknin argues that modern feminism is a cult that has led to negative outcomes for both men and women. He claims that the hookup culture, which is often framed as empowering for women, has actually led to increased rates of depression, anxiety, and substance abuse. Vaknin believes that the only real empowerment for women can come from stable, loving, emotional, equal, and reciprocated relationships, which are not found in hookups or one-night stands. He also criticizes the idea that freedom of choice should extend to self-harm and harming others, as seen in the anti-vaxxer movement.
Why Narcissist Devalues YOU (Hint: Wants YOU “Dead”)
Narcissists devalue their partners as a form of self-defense and control. There are two types of devaluation: preemptive and reactive. Preemptive devaluation occurs when a narcissist is in a transitional state between overt and covert narcissism, and they devalue potential sources of supply to prevent the overt side from using them against the covert side. Reactive devaluation is a response to a perceived threat to the narcissist’s grandiosity or control. Both types of devaluation are harmful to the victim and serve to maintain the narcissist’s sense of power and control.
Women, WAKE UP! Feminism Stole Your Personal Lives!
Sam Vaknin discusses the impact of modern societal norms on women’s behavior and psychology. He argues that women have been forced to adopt male values and expectations, leading to a shift in their behavior and self-perception. Vaknin also highlights the negative effects of casual sex and the influence of covert narcissists and psychopaths in victimhood movements. He urges a clear-eyed look at reality and a move away from political correctness.
Adolescent Narcissist: Personal Fable, Imaginary Audience
Healthy narcissism underlines personal development and growth well into one’s teenage years, and is beneficial for adolescents to mature and become adults. Adolescents go through a phase of separation individuation, where they develop object relations or relationships with objects. All adolescents develop a personal fable, have an imaginary audience, have narcissism, have depression, and have pessimism, but grow out of all these. However, if these reactions persist, they can become pathological and predispose the adolescent to develop paranoia later on in life.
Is Sam Vaknin a Misogynist (Woman-hater)?
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the negative impact of casual sex and the Stold Revolution, where women are rejecting feminine aspects and defining themselves in masculine terms. He argues that this trend is leading to an androgynous unigender state and a decline in relationships between genders. Women are conforming to male stereotypes of sexually emancipated sluts, claiming empowerment, but this is belied by the male double standard. Casual sex has adverse impacts on mental and physical health, and women have a tendency to select inappropriate males for breeding. The missing skills required to maintain intimacy in relationships are the ability to compromise, set boundaries, be vulnerable, tolerate frustration, give space, trust, and cooperate.
Narcissist Between Shared Fantasy and Pathological Narcissistic Space
Narcissists appear unpredictable and complex, but they are actually simple, with the emotional age of a two-year-old. They are trapped between their need for a maternal figure in a shared fantasy and their desire to explore the world through a pathological narcissistic space. When they become disillusioned with either space, they transition between them using four strategies: termination, deception, undermining intimacy, and persecretory object fantasies. This constant movement between the two spaces creates the impression of unpredictability and capriciousness in the narcissist’s behavior.
Vaccine Defiance is Psychopathic, Narcissistic, Paranoid, Intellectually Challenged
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the ethical considerations of vaccination. He argues that individuals have an obligation to protect others from infection and that refusing to get vaccinated is reckless and psychopathic. He explores the clash between individual rights and societal obligations, ultimately asserting that not getting vaccinated is a form of defiance and poses a threat to others. He concludes that individuals who refuse vaccination should be coerced into getting vaccinated for the greater good.