How to Become the REAL YOU (Interview, News Intervention)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses his philosophy of nothingness in an interview with Scott Douglas Jacobson. He explains that nothingness is about choosing to be human, not a lobster, and putting firm boundaries between oneself and the world. Vaknin believes that narcissism is a cry for help and that nothingness is an antidote to it. He advises people to identify the only voice inside them that is truly them and to become authentic.
Therapist Your Father, Wife Your Mother: Transference as Flashback Light
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the concept of transference in psychology, comparing it to a “flashback light” where individuals project emotions and ideas from past relationships onto new figures in their lives. He explains how transference can lead to dysfunctional patterns of behavior and relational dynamics, particularly in individuals with certain attachment styles or personality disorders. Vaknin also delves into the concept of projective identification, where individuals try to force new people in their lives to conform to familiar, often unhealthy, relational patterns from the past. Ultimately, he views transference as a resistance and a repetition compulsion that seeks redemptive resolution but never materializes.
Narcissistic Autoerotic Dating (Talk with Genevieve DiNatale)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses various topics in this series of transcripts, including narcissism, psychopathy, gender roles, and online dating. He explains that narcissism has a genetic component and can be caused by any breach of boundaries that denies the child separation from parental figures. He also talks about the sadomasochistic tendencies of narcissists and how they create self-justifying narratives. Additionally, he discusses the decline in sexual activity and childbirth rates in the younger generation, which he attributes to atomization, self-isolation, and technological empowerment. Finally, he talks about the phenomenon of online dating and social media infidelity, stating that men and women have different motivations for being on dating apps, and most interactions are for self-validation, entertainment, and filling time.
Women: Just Say “No”! Self-respect, Boundaries – Men Angry, Immature (Pop Red Pill Podcast)
Sam Vaknin discusses various topics in different transcripts. In the first one, he talks about the power dynamics between men and women, where women have gained the upper hand in recent times. In the second one, he blames the emphasis on career and toxic masculinity for the decline of committed relationships and the rise of loneliness. In the third one, he discusses the crisis between genders and suggests that women have the power to change the situation by tightening up their boundaries and getting clear on their values.
Tips: Narcissist Weaponizes Your Children Against You (Pop the Red Pill Podcast)
Dr. Sam Vaknin discusses narcissistic abuse and how it differs from other forms of abuse. He explains how narcissists use children as pawns to control and hurt their ex-spouses, and outlines the five techniques they use to alienate children. Vaknin emphasizes the importance of telling children the truth about the alienating parent’s harmful behaviors. Narcissistic personality disorder parents should be denied custody and granted supervised visitation only, as they are dangerous and generate sick dynamics with the child.
Relationships, Intimacy May Be WRONG for YOU (DMM: Dynamic-maturational model of attachment)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses how society pressures individuals to conform to the idea that everyone should be in a relationship and have intimacy skills. However, studies show that up to one-third of adults do not feel comfortable in relationships and are egodystonic. Vaknin introduces the dynamic maturational model of attachment and adaptation, which emphasizes that exposure to danger drives neural development and adaptation to promote survival, and that the greatest dangers are in relationships. People with insecure attachment styles perceive dangers in relationships even when there are none, and being in a relationship constitutes danger in their minds.
Narcissist Lemmings: Generation Off a Cliff (FlowGrow Experience, Limerick City Community Radio)
Summary: Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the prevalence of narcissism in society and its impact on relationships. He explains the differences between healthy and pathological narcissism, the dynamics of narcissistic abuse, and the challenges of forming and maintaining intimate relationships. Vaknin also addresses the societal shift towards individualism, the impact of technology on social interactions, and the consequences of prolonged loneliness. He highlights the need for a reevaluation of gender roles and sexual scripts in modern society.
When Narcissist Says “I Love You” – What Does It Mean To Him?
Narcissists and borderlines often mislabel and misidentify their internal processes as love and intimacy, despite being incapable of experiencing true love or intimacy. They confuse dependency, limerence, exhibitionism, masochism, defiance, competitiveness, possessiveness, neediness, and people-pleasing with love and intimacy. This mislabeling is an attempt at self-restoration and bridging confabulation, as they have a diminished self-insight and inability to introspect. Their constant attempt to explain or describe their internal processes is an effort to restore their being, relationship with the world, and ultimately their identity.
Contemporary Sexuality, Relationships in West – History
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the history of contemporary sexuality, from the 18th century to the present day. He highlights the shift in sexual attitudes and practices, the impact of technology and societal changes, and the current trend of avoiding relationships and embracing celibacy. Vaknin emphasizes the influence of historical periods on modern sexuality and the ongoing struggle to reconcile traditional and modern attitudes towards sex and relationships. He also encourages feedback and discussion on the topic.
Your Life Meaningless? Choose Nothingness! (ENGLISH from 02:01)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the failure of modern society to progress meaningfully despite advancements in science and reason. He highlights the prevalence of wars, refugees, gender conflicts, and antisocial behaviors, indicating a collective and individual failure. Vaknin criticizes materialism and the prioritization of objects over human relationships, calling it a death cult. He advocates for self-reflection and the pursuit of solutions to the human condition, emphasizing the importance of questioning and addressing systemic failures. Vaknin introduces his “nothingness” philosophy, which involves peeling away layers of societal influence to reveal one’s true essence. He argues against the pursuit of material success and encourages a focus on personal growth and authenticity. Vaknin also discusses the dangers of societal norms that promote dominance, complexity, and certainty, and instead recommends embracing happiness, meaning, uncertainty, and the journey of life. He concludes by emphasizing the importance of self-awareness, self-acceptance, self-love, and self-regulation as components of a healthy, authentic existence.