Why Narcissist Can’t Love (with Daria Żukowska, Clinical Psychologist)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the concept of love in relationships involving individuals with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) and Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). He explains that narcissists are incapable of genuine love due to their cognitive style, fear of vulnerability, and internalized negative self-image. Vaknin also delves into the emotional impact of being in a relationship with a narcissist, highlighting the complex grief and trauma experienced by victims. He emphasizes the importance of recognizing early warning signs and maintaining assertiveness and boundaries to avoid entering such relationships.
Creative Individual As Dark Personality
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the connection between creativity and mental illness, suggesting that mental illness may be a harbinger of creativity rather than intelligence. He explores the strategies that creative geniuses use to fit in with society, delves into the affinity between mental illness and creativity, and examines the shared genetic vulnerability framework of creativity and psychopathology. Vaknin also discusses the impact of the environment on creativity and mental illness, as well as the potential positive adaptation of mental illness for the species. He concludes by proposing that mental illness should not be stigmatized, as it has contributed to the advancements in science, art, and utility.
Narcissist’s Retroactive Jealousy Of Your Past Relationships
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the concept of romantic jealousy, particularly focusing on retroactive jealousy in narcissism. Retroactive jealousy is a cognitive process that involves fear of loss and is irrational. In narcissism, retroactive jealousy is linked to the inability to idealize and infantilize the partner, leading to anxiety and control issues. The narcissist’s fear of losing the idealized version of the partner and the inability to control the partner’s past contribute to retroactive jealousy. This jealousy is characterized by obsessive information gathering, devaluing the partner’s past, and a sense of insecurity and inferiority. Retroactive jealousy in narcissism is a built-in feature and is a sign of the progression towards devaluation and separation in the shared fantasy.
Narcissist’s Losses Are His Life
Loss is a crucial aspect of the narcissist’s life, serving as an organizing principle and a means of transformation. The narcissist’s self-destructive behavior and manipulation of external objects are driven by the need to induce change in their internal environment. Losses are both intentional and evoked by the narcissist, who uses them to engender victimhood and manipulate others. The narcissist’s fear of losses leads them to preemptively bring them on, ultimately sacrificing reality for the appearance of life.
Secret of Narcissist’s Romantic Attraction: How YOU Self-destruct
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the reasons why individuals are romantically attracted to narcissists. He explains the differences between sexual and romantic attraction and delves into the psychological processes involved in romantic attraction to narcissists. Vaknin outlines various reasons for this attraction, including the narcissist’s ability to manipulate and create a shared fantasy, the presence of a bad object within the individual, and the narcissist’s role in providing external regulation and punishment. He also touches on the concept of projective identification and the complex nature of the relationship with a narcissist.
Narcissistic Parents Possessive: Envy, Destroy Their Children, Offspring
Narcissistic parents view their children as extensions of themselves and seek to control and manipulate them to fulfill their own needs. This can lead to children feeling insecure, codependent, and prone to repeating dysfunctional relationship patterns as adults. Narcissistic parents may interfere with their children’s love lives and sabotage their relationships to maintain control and a constant supply of admiration and attention. The impact of narcissistic parenting can be profound and long-lasting, affecting the child’s sense of self and ability to form healthy relationships.
Does the Narcissist Envy YOU? (READ THE DESCRIPTION)
Narcissists do not envy your positive qualities or care about who you are as a person. They only value what you can provide to them, such as attention, services, and safety. Your kindness and empathy mean nothing to them, and they view your expressions of love and support as manipulative or fake. Ultimately, the narcissist sees you as either weak and deserving of contempt or as a threat to their control, leading to devaluation and discard.
Why Can’t You Breakup with the Narcissist?
Self-styled experts online exploit victims of narcissistic abuse by pandering to their desire to be seen as blameless victims. They profit from perpetuating victimhood and validating the victims’ feelings. Victims may stay with narcissists for selfish reasons, such as seeking validation, feeling needed, or benefiting from the relationship in various ways. The narcissist’s control and the victim’s own psychological needs contribute to their reluctance to leave the relationship.
You! Be GRATEFUL, HONORED That Narcissist Lets You Serve, Witness Him (Sacrificial Entitlement)
The text discusses the concept of sacrificial entitlement in narcissists. It explains how narcissists believe they are sacrificing their divine qualities to be with their partners and expect gratitude and obedience in return. The text also delves into the narcissist’s perspective on the breakup, viewing it as ingratitude from the partner. It highlights the narcissist’s belief that they have given their partner everything and the partner’s rejection is seen as a form of devaluation.
Don’t Waste Your Love on the Narcissist (Conference Presentation)
The narcissist is incapable of both loving and being loved due to the presence of a bad object at their core. Love triggers feelings of vulnerability and inadequacy in the narcissist, leading them to reject and push away any attempts at love. They view love as a threat and seek to control and manipulate their partners to avoid feelings of weakness and potential abandonment. The narcissist’s inability to separate others from themselves and their deep-seated trauma from childhood further complicates their ability to engage in healthy, loving relationships.