Narcissists Rule: Narcissist in Positions of Authority
Narcissists are incapable of empathizing and view humans as only a means to supply them with narcissistic supply. They are prone to emotional extortion, blackmail, abuse, and misuse of authority to secure their supply. Narcissists lack a moral dimension and are atavistically responsive to fear, resembling an alien on drugs.
Contract with Your Abuser – Part I
Abuse is a complex phenomenon, and it is difficult to prevent or control the abuser’s behavior. Attempts to broach the subject of the abuser’s mental health problems frequently end in fights or worse. The delineation of boundaries and reaching an agreement on coexistence are the first important steps towards minimizing abuse in relationships. Personal boundaries are not negotiable, and the abuser should have no say in setting boundaries or upholding them.
Borderline Personality Disorder Patient Therapy Notes
Do is a 26-year-old female diagnosed with borderline personality disorder. She struggles with maintaining a stable sense of self-worth and self-esteem, and her confidence in holding onto men is low. She has had six serious relationships in the past year, all of which ended due to violent fights over trivial matters. Do admits to physically assaulting three of her ex-partners and has suicidal ideation, which sometimes manifests in minor acts of self-injury and self-mutilation. She also struggles with drug use, shopping addiction, and binge eating.
Narcissistic Grandiosity Bubbles
Grandiosity bubbles are a rare event in the life of a narcissist. They involve the creation of an imagined, self-aggrandizing narrative that the narcissist weaves around elements of his real life. The narcissist modifies his behavior to conform to the newly adopted roles and gradually morphs into the fabricated character he has created. The deflation of a grandiosity bubble is met with relief by the narcissist, who views it as an experiment at being someone else for a while.
Narcissist: You are Cardboard Cutouts, Avatars
Narcissists lack object constancy, which means they struggle to see people as reliable, predictable, and trustworthy. Instead, they create mental representations of people, which are often confabulations and projections of their inner world. These substitutes provide the narcissist with narcissistic supply, but they have little to do with reality. When confronted with real people, the narcissist is often dismayed and refuses to accept the facts, preferring to interact with their mental avatars instead.
Narcissist of Substance vs. Narcissist of Appearances
There are two types of narcissists: those who derive ample narcissistic supply from mere appearances and those whose narcissistic supply consists of doing substantial deeds. The former type of narcissist aims for celebrity, defined as being famous for being famous, while the latter type aims for careers in the limelight. The celebrity narcissist has a short attention span, is indolent, and prefers the path of least resistance. The career substantial narcissist is very concerned with leaving his mark and stamp of the world with his legacy, is a natural-born leader, and is willing and able to negotiate, compromise, and network.
Narcissist: Women as Sluttish Huntresses or Sexless Saints
Heterosexual narcissists desire women but are frustrated by their inability to interact with them meaningfully. They hate women virulently, passionately, and uncompromisingly, and their hate is primal, irrational, and the progeny of mortal fear and sustained abuse in early childhood. Narcissists are infinitely pessimistic, bare-tempered, paranoid, and sadistic, and their daily routine is a rigmarole of threats, complaints, hurts, eruptions, moodiness, and rage. They are their own worst enemy and cannot conceive of life in one place with one set of people, doing the same thing in the same field with one goal within a decades-old game plan or career path or relationship.
Can You Love the Narcissist and Rescue Him?
Victims of narcissists often resort to fantasies and self-delusions to cope with their pain, believing that they can rescue the narcissist from their misery and misfortune. However, loving a narcissist is difficult, and any attempt to relate to them emotionally is doomed to failure. Narcissists are addicts in pursuit of gratification through the drug known as narcissistic supply, and they hone in on potential suppliers like cruise missiles. Victims of narcissists can become bitter and self-centered, lacking in empathy, and become more like the narcissist over time.
Narcissist Mother’s Pet: Her Child
The study of narcissism is still unresolved, with two central debates remaining undecided. The first is whether there is such a thing as healthy narcissism or if all manifestations of narcissism in adulthood are pathological. The second debate is whether pathological narcissism is the result of abuse or spoiling. Narcissism is a defense mechanism intended to shield the narcissist from an injurious world, but as they turn adult, it becomes the main source of hurt and the main generator of injuries. Some narcissists are forced to retreat into a land of delusion and fantasy, even into psychosis.
Narcissist: Why Self-help?
Narcissists can take steps to cope with their disorder before deciding whether to attend therapy. The first step is self-awareness, which involves admitting that something is wrong and accepting responsibility for their role in their misfortune. The second step is confronting a more realistic view of themselves, which can be achieved by people who care about the narcissist confronting them with the truth about themselves and their life. The third step is committing to a regime of therapy, which involves adopting a humble frame of mind and being constructively and productively active in their own therapy. However, few narcissists see why they should embark on this massive quest.