Narcissism=Evil?
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the concept of evil in relation to narcissism and other personality disorders. He identifies three types of evil behavior: goal-oriented evil, pleasure-seeking evil, and indifferent or off-handed evil. Narcissists typically fall into the category of indifferent evil, as they inflict pain and hurt on others as a byproduct of their actions and choices, rather than intentionally seeking to cause harm. Vaknin also explores the reasons why people may engage in evil behavior, such as a lack of empathy, a desire to conform, or a need to exert control over their lives.
Narcissistic Termites and Our Hunter-gatherer Future
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the impact of the pandemic on society, including the stages of grief people are experiencing and the rise of conspiracy theories. He also explores the concept of organic institutions and how they have shaped human history, arguing that we are currently in the midst of a second organic revolution that will lead to a reversal of societal structures. Vaknin predicts a transition from nation-state capitalism to neo-feudalism and eventually to hunter-gatherer societies, but warns that each phase will be accompanied by anomic and suffering. The pandemic has accelerated these trends, leading to a loss of structure and detachment in society.
Covert Borderline, Classic Borderline – Psychopaths?
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the proposed new mental health diagnosis of covert borderline, which is more typical of men. He compares and contrasts the covert borderline with the classic or dysregulated borderline. Both types have mood lability and emotional dysregulation, but the classic borderline dissociates from emotions, while the covert borderline rationalizes emotions and becomes a primary psychopath. Many anti-racism activists are covert narcissists and covert borderlines who obtain indirect attention and self-gratification through their activism.
How Narcissist/Psychopath Sees YOU, his Victim, and Why Borderlines Adore Them
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the inner experiences of narcissists, psychopaths, and borderlines. He explains how narcissists idealize their partners to reinforce their own grandiosity, while psychopaths manipulate and discard their partners for entertainment or personal gain. Borderlines exhibit a complex mix of traits from other personality disorders and may transition between narcissistic and psychopathic behaviors in response to frustration. Vaknin also clarifies that cheating is just one example of a behavior that can mortify a narcissist.
From Grooming to Discard via Shared Fantasy: Cheat, Mortify, Exit
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the cycle of relationships with a narcissist, which follows a pattern of five phases: grooming, shared fantasy, interstitial one with two options, mortification or anti-fantasy, and interstitial two. The narcissist creates a shared fantasy to extract sex, supply, and services from their partner, and the shared fantasy allows them to avoid true intimacy and commitment. Cheating is an option for women who want to escape the shared fantasy and create an alternative sanctuary with another man. The fourth phase, the anti-fantasy phase, occurs when the partner tries to transition from the shared fantasy to reality, and the narcissist becomes indecisive and approach avoidant. Mortification is crucial to end the shared fantasy, and the narcissist switches to internal or external mortification
Racism and Stereotypes: Useful or Bad? Blacks, Jews, Gay, Women, and Other Cats
Stereotypes can be seen as a way to encapsulate information compactly and efficiently, providing a survival value in an age of information overload. While many stereotypes are self-reinforcing and can lead to discrimination, not all stereotypes are negative. Stereotypes can evolve to reflect changing societal roles and values, and can promote understanding of social and historical processes. As long as people think in terms of groups, stereotypes will exist, and they can be useful if they are based in reality and acknowledge diversity.
Boomers Pandemic, Millennials Cost, Bubble World – Part 2 of 2
The Great Recession damaged young workers to such an extent that they have never succeeded in recovering. Millennials were affected by structural changes in the economy, leading to a two-track labor market with high-paying jobs going to college graduates and postgraduates, while others make a pittance. Millennials are the most educated, diverse, and responsible generation, but they are still screwed by their elders who are nothing of the sort. The pandemic has exposed that if you’re young, a minority, a woman, or part of an imaginalist group, you’re screwed.
Loving the Narcissist: Shared Fantasy to Discard
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the phases of a narcissist’s relationships, including the shared fantasy, interstitial, and anti-fantasy phases. He explains the narcissist’s behavior and the impact on their partners, focusing on topics such as cognitive dissonance, cheating, and the narcissist’s emotional detachment. He also delves into the concept of object constancy and the narcissist’s use of defense mechanisms.
womanmotherNarcissist’s Partner: Admire Me, Play with Me, Mother Me
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the three stages of a narcissist’s interaction with women: admirer, playmate, and mother. Narcissists are incapable of adult intimacy with women and instead seek a mother figure, as their only experience of intimacy with a woman was with their own mother. When women refuse to adopt the role of a mother, narcissists resent them and may push them away. Narcissists are more focused on possession and control than romantic jealousy, reacting like a child when their partner shows interest in other men.
Brain, Brawn, Body, Bluff: Narcissists, Somatic, Covert, Cerebral, and Classic
Narcissists can be either somatic or cerebral, depending on whether they use their physical appearance or intellect to obtain supply. While there is no constancy, there is type dominance, with cerebral narcissists emphasizing their intellect and somatic narcissists emphasizing their physical appearance. Narcissists are competitive and ambitious in sex, using their partner’s body as an animated dildo or masturbatory object. Covert narcissists, who are mostly women, tend to be largely asexual due to deep-set inferiority complexes and body dysmorphic disorders. They may engage in body-altering behaviors such as surgeries and look-maxing, which is more prevalent among covert somatic narcissists. Altruism can also be a form of ostentatious narcissism.