Grandpa Sam’s Thoughts for a New Year
The text discusses various topics including New Year’s greetings, narcissism, relationships, intelligence, impulse control, and societal issues. It emphasizes the importance of changing one’s environment, addressing toxic relationships, and striving for personal growth. The text also delves into the dynamics of narcissistic shared fantasies and the impact of early childhood experiences on personality development. Additionally, it touches on the concepts of faking kindness, the fear of positive emotions, and the pursuit of contentment. The author concludes by encouraging readers to initiate positive changes in their lives and strive for inner and outer peace.
Fascism is Political Malignant Narcissism (Brussels Morning)
Sam Vaknin discusses the accusation that Donald Trump is leading the United States towards fascism. He argues that it is important to address narcissists in politics and prevent them from attaining power. Vaknin delves into the characteristics and tensions within fascist movements, and concludes that Trump exhibits traits of a fascist.
Why YOU Exist Through Other People’s Gaze? (Compilation)
Homosexuality is a biological sexual orientation that is not determined by upbringing or parental roles. It involves a failure in the process of “othering,” where individuals cannot perceive others as separate external entities. This leads to a reliance on sexual partners to complete one’s sexual identity, which is not fully integrated. Homosexuality is not a pathology but a form of external regulation limited to sexual identity. It is distinct from narcissism and borderline personality disorder, which involve more pervasive external regulation. Homosexual relationships can be healing by providing the experience of an integrated sexual identity.
Why Abuse Survivors are DISBELIEVED: Narcopath’s Double Face (Isolation, Compartmentalization)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the reasons why people disbelieve victims and survivors of abuse. He delves into the psychological defense mechanisms of compartmentalization and isolation, and their role in the behavior of narcissists and psychopaths. He also explores the concept of doublet and its connection to these defense mechanisms.
Shy/Quiet Borderline “Diagnosis”, Reality vs. Phantasy/Fantasy
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the book “A Little Life” and emphasizes the importance of relying on scientific evidence rather than personal anecdotes. He rejects the proposed diagnosis of “shy or quiet borderline” and explains the differences between narcissistic and borderline fantasies. He also delves into the psychodynamics of narcissistic and borderline personality disorders, highlighting their distinct etiologies and behaviors.
Narcissist’s Revenge: Signs YOU are in DANGER
The text discusses the life of a narcissist, their response to frustration, and their transition to borderline and psychopathic states. It also delves into the narcissist’s use of revenge and aggression, and the different types of revenge, including punitive, narcissistic, and pragmatic restorative. The text emphasizes the narcissist’s perception of frustration as narcissistic injury and their use of aggression to eliminate the source of frustration. It also highlights the dangerous potential for violence in some narcissists.
Narcissistic Abuse Inside Out: Charles Bowes-Taylor Interviews Compilation
Sam Vaknin discusses his work on narcissism, emphasizing that he is not the originator of the term “narcissistic supply,” but he has redefined and adopted terms from other psychological disciplines to describe narcissism and narcissistic abuse. He explains that narcissists lack a true self and ego, relying on external input to regulate their internal environment and self-perception. Vaknin also describes narcissism as a positive adaptation in modern society, where narcissistic traits can lead to favorable outcomes. He distinguishes between overt and covert narcissism, explaining that covert narcissists are more dangerous due to their hidden nature and passive-aggressive tendencies. Vaknin suggests that narcissism is not just a personality disorder but also a post-traumatic condition and a form of dissociation, similar to multiple personality disorder. He advocates for treating narcissism with approaches used for childhood disorders, trauma-related disorders, and multiple personality disorders, which he has integrated into his cold therapy treatment.
Narcissistic Parents Possessive: Envy, Destroy Their Children, Offspring
Narcissistic parents view their children as extensions of themselves and seek to control and manipulate them to fulfill their own needs. This can lead to children feeling insecure, codependent, and prone to repeating dysfunctional relationship patterns as adults. Narcissistic parents may interfere with their children’s love lives and sabotage their relationships to maintain control and a constant supply of admiration and attention. The impact of narcissistic parenting can be profound and long-lasting, affecting the child’s sense of self and ability to form healthy relationships.
Narcissist and YOU: Tour the Nightmare (with Monique Rigney)
The text is a conversation between two individuals discussing various topics, including narcissism, memory, and societal issues. They touch on the impact of trauma on memory, the role of victimhood in society, and the decline of human interaction in the digital age. The conversation also delves into the impact of feminism and the changing dynamics between men and women.
War as Narcissistic Fantasy (with Trisha Goddard on TALKTV)
Sam Vaknin discusses the dehumanization of the enemy in war, emphasizing the psychological defense mechanism of splitting and the role of war in creating a new order. He also delves into the language of war as a fantasy defense and its impact on perception of the enemy. Vaknin draws parallels between war and narcissistic behavior, highlighting the antisocial and psychopathic aspects of war.