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1. 00:02 it’s a sad mad and bad world ask vlad putin if you don’t believe me but
2. 00:13 minnie and i to the rescue we intend to cheer you up today
3. 00:19 shoshanim by discussing the packeteers and misbehaviors of cluster b
4. 00:26 personality disorders is there anything more cheerful than cluster b
5. 00:32 i think not so stay with me and by the end of this episode you would consider various
6. 00:39 options which which you should never try at home at least not when alone
7. 00:45 cheers
8. 00:51 levity and contorted sense of humor side what’s going on today in the world is very concerning and worrisome
9. 01:03 and a lot of it has to do with cluster b personality disorders as i had been warning since
10. 01:10 1995 narcissistic and psychopathic leaders have taken over the world and i’m here to try to make you understand them better based on evidence in scientific research
11. 01:26 not on rants and raves and gut feelings and anecdotes with your aunt or neighbor
12. 01:34 science has a lot to tell us about these people today we’re gonna focus on two issues the borderline’s making strategies how does she select mates and what does
13. 01:46 she do to them and that would lead us to aggression
14. 01:52 what’s happening with aggression and anger with cluster b why do borderlines narcissists psychopaths why are they so angry all the time
15. 02:03 why is aggression the hallmark of this personality disorders to a certain
16. 02:09 extent it is also characteristic in common in other personality disorders such as for example paranoid personality
17. 02:16 disorder but still class to be the dramatic or the erratic cluster
18. 02:22 is definitely typified and characterized by unusual expressions and
19. 02:28 manifestations of aggression so let us start with the borderline’s
20. 02:34 mating strategies mating a mating strategy is a
21. 02:40 method or a way or a modest branding method of operation of picking up a mate picking
22. 02:47 up an intimate partner now the borderline hooks up with potential partners using two mating strategies and these mating strategies both are
23. 02:59 self-defeating so borderlines in their intimate lives in their intimate relationships always self-defeating and self-destructive
24. 03:11 the first mating strategy of the borderline is to offer the full gamut the full monopoly of sex immediately within minutes within hours she is
25. 03:23 available to have sex with you any kind of sex you name it she will do it she is a technicolor production of sexuality a whole
26. 03:35 menu menu a la carte the second strategy
27. 03:41 is to reveal her mental illness yes sounds bizarre but that’s exactly
28. 03:48 what borderlines do usually even on a first date they tell you everything you wanted to know and a lot of what you did not want to know about their mental illness they disclose
29. 03:59 their checkered and dubious personal history they decompensate they act out in front
30. 04:07 of you in full view and they become dysregulated disregulated and unbounded and all
31. 04:14 within the first date this is a strategy this is not real
32. 04:20 this is a choice this is a manipulative ploy and i will explain in a minute what it
33. 04:27 is intended to accomplish but to summarize these are the two ways the borderline comes at you
34. 04:34 either she offers you sex the kind of wet sex that had only populated and occupied your fantasies she promises to make all your fantasies come true on a first date on a first
35. 04:46 encounter within the first hour or a different strategy is to reveal to you
36. 04:52 to expose to you her inner life her torment her torture her pain her hurt her
37. 04:59 dysregulation her lack of boundaries her very um
38. 05:05 unusual shall we say gently personal history including relationship history history in the workplace what people had done to her etc etc casting herself in
39. 05:16 most cases is the victim of both her mental affliction and the
40. 05:22 way people had leveraged this affliction to take advantage of her these are the two mating strategies the first strategy but as i said both these strategies are
41. 05:33 self-defeating they lead nowhere they have countervailing outcomes not
42. 05:40 beneficial to the borderline we can say therefore the borderlines are not self-efficacious in selecting mates they’re also very likely to select mates who are
43. 05:52 unavailable emotionally unavailable or legally unavailable married for instance now i keep saying she although a large portion of
44. 06:03 borderline personality disorder diagnosis and ever increasing portion now goes to men men are being diagnosed increasingly more with borderline personality
45. 06:14 disorder but men men’s borderline traits and borderline
46. 06:20 behaviors manifest differently owing probably to cultural and societal strictures and maurice men be borderline men behave differently so everything i’m saying right now applies and pertains to female borderlines
47. 06:36 they are definitely distinct from male borderlines male borderline borderlines are closer to what i call covert borderline and i encourage those of you who are interested to have a look or to
48. 06:48 watch my videos on covert borderline this video is dedicated to female borderlines
49. 06:55 the first strategy offering unbridled sex kinky unlimited fantastic
50. 07:03 degrading lurid even within within the hour
51. 07:09 to any stranger that crosses their path and who may become an intimate partner
52. 07:15 in their fantasy at least this strategy appeals to predators and to players predatory men and men who play the field with no
53. 07:26 intention to commit or to invest in a relationship they’re very attracted to unbounded broken damaged borderline
54. 07:34 women they use the borderline sexually usually only once and then these men move on leaving the borderline hurt
55. 07:45 dumbfounded and perplexed she she doesn’t understand
56. 07:51 why have they moved on why aren’t they coming back why aren’t they making contact why are
57. 07:57 they avoiding her she has succumbed to all their kinky and even lurid fantasies on a first
58. 08:04 encounter she thought she got them addicted she believes that her sexuality is of an
59. 08:10 addictive nature kind of a drug and will lure them back to her
60. 08:16 but they never come back they never stay and she’s utterly confused about this
61. 08:23 the typical borderline woman has dozens of stories of encounters with men
62. 08:30 which had turned to be one-night stands although initially and originally the intention was to try to develop a relationship so borderline women are very gullible in this sense because they inhabit a fantasy when they come across a potential
63. 08:47 intimate partner they create a fantasy about that potential and then they
64. 08:53 move into the fantasy they relocate from reality to the fantasy and they develop impaired momentary momentarily and impaired reality testing
65. 09:04 and so when they’re faced the not the morning after the with harsh reality they’re unable to cope and they go through process of heartbreak and even acting out
66. 09:16 so the first strategy leads them to bad places sleazy encounters and
67. 09:23 in about one-third of the cases to sexual assault borderline women are re-victimized much more often than any other group of women in terms of sexual assault and rape the second strategy
68. 09:39 is to reveal the borderline’s soul the borderline grants the potential
69. 09:45 intimate partner almost immediately access to her innermost recesses and
70. 09:51 secrets she tells him how broken and damaged she is how promiscuous she had been
71. 09:58 how dr how often she gets drunk or drugged abuses substances
72. 10:04 she tells him how fragile and vulnerable she is how needy how clingy she exposes
73. 10:11 all this why does she do this in most cases it would frighten away any
74. 10:17 healthy men well she does this because she tends to attract unhealthy
75. 10:23 men the second strategy attracts masochistic men
76. 10:29 saviors fixers and rescuer types there is the famous carpman drama
77. 10:35 triangle and i encourage you to watch a video that i’ve made about this drama triangle but in a nutshell to sketch the drama triangle involves
78. 10:48 the borderline hair abuser and a rescuer a savior a fixer type who’s going to make everything better he’s going to rescue the borderline he’s going to save her from her abuser and then he’s going to fix her
79. 11:04 what cartman had discovered is that the rolls fluctuate
80. 11:10 it’s all in flux it’s all fluid the borderline becomes later the savior the savior becomes the abuser and so on
81. 11:18 the the this flux within the drama triangle
82. 11:25 renders the borderline’s attachments very unpredictable very libel and very unstable coming back to the issue the second mating strategy
83. 11:37 of telling the intimate partner i’m broken i’m damaged i’m fragile i’m bleeding
84. 11:45 is intended to elicit in the intimate partner a reflex to save and to fix and to heal and to rescue the borderline and
85. 11:57 many unhealthy men fall in this trap myself included they try
86. 12:03 to heal the borderline to fix her to save her and to rescue her exactly as she had
87. 12:10 intended she had exposed to she exposes to these men her vulnerability and childlike
88. 12:18 fragility and neediness and very few men or unhealthy men can resist
89. 12:24 resist this but even these men whose patience is very close to infinite even these men
90. 12:31 when they’re exposed to the borderline’s transient aggression approach avoidance
91. 12:38 promiscuity acting out even they ultimately
92. 12:44 give up on her so the borderlines are the borderline’s mating strategies are undermined essentially by her aggression
93. 12:56 even when she prefers and offers sex unmitigated unbridled unconstrained sex
94. 13:03 and boundaries sex fantastic amazing sex
95. 13:09 even this is done very aggressively she pursues the sex
96. 13:15 she almost coerces the men around her to have sex with her not that they not that they need
97. 13:21 coercion but he does feel a bit forced he does feel forced and he does feel
98. 13:27 effortful the outcome of some effort there is a clear agenda behind it it’s
99. 13:33 very manipulative and it’s very it comes on as um in many cases as golden or or as
100. 13:44 some kind of manipulative ploy to accomplish something long-term hidden ulterior motives
101. 13:51 under the surface so many men recoil actually the borderline is very aggressive even in
102. 13:57 the first mating strategy when she offers sex she definitely becomes aggressive and sometimes violent with a
103. 14:05 second strategy when she teams up with an intimate partner who is trying to change her to modify her
104. 14:12 to heal her because healing is about change and borderlines exactly like
105. 14:18 narcissists are very grandiose they don’t think that they should change they don’t think that anything’s wrong with them they think they have alloplastic defenses they blame men they
106. 14:29 blame the world they blame society the period in history they blame feminism
107. 14:35 they blame misogyny they never blame anything except themselves it’s very difficult for them to see where they had
108. 14:42 contributed and how they had contributed to their own mishaps repeated mishaps
109. 14:48 so there’s a clash between the agenda of the rescuer and savior and fixer and
110. 14:55 healer the new intimate partner and the borderline because the borderline doesn’t want to hear that she needs fixing and healing she had presented herself as mentally
111. 15:07 ill as fragile as vulnerable as broken but her message was not
112. 15:14 please come and fix me please come and heal me please come and change me please
113. 15:20 please make sure that this doesn’t happen again that’s not her message is her message is am i not amazing
114. 15:28 am i not unique my mental illness renders me a precious flower
115. 15:35 my brokenness makes me special it’s a locus of grandiosity the borderline is grandiosely invested
116. 15:46 caffected emotionally invested in her own illness exactly like the narcissist the
117. 15:53 narcissist is proud of his narcissism because he thinks that narcissism renders him superior the next
118. 16:00 stage in the evolutionary ladder same with the borderline in a way she is proud of her mental
119. 16:07 illness because she thinks it renders her colorful exotic
120. 16:13 ultra special unprecedented super unique hyper complex
121. 16:20 a treasure she doesn’t want her mental illness to go away what would be left
122. 16:26 if her mental illness were to be cured all that would be left behind was an emptiness
123. 16:32 this deep inside the borderline is an is an empty shell she’s hollowed out she’s a black hole exactly like the narcissist she is endowed
124. 16:44 with empathy and with emotions but nothing much more besides
125. 16:53 she’s terrified of intimacy because intimacy would expose her for what she is again an empty shell she uses her mental illness as a point of interest is an attraction
126. 17:10 it’s like sightseeing in a new city you know her mental illness and all the
127. 17:16 variegations and variants of the mental illness and manifestations and the expressions of a mental illness the way
128. 17:22 her behaviors are influenced by her mental illness the traits everything all this mishmash
129. 17:29 all this concoction all this compendium of human misery and suffering that she
130. 17:35 hands over to the rescuer and savior and fixer and healer this is her gift
131. 17:41 she regards her promiscuity for example as a gift her acting out as expression
132. 17:48 of true overpowering overwhelming strong emotions she regards herself as
133. 17:55 more authentic and more genuine than most people she does not suppress or deny who she
134. 18:02 really is she is a crystal she is pure
135. 18:08 purity is the essence of the borderline in her own eyes and she thinks she is her mental illness
136. 18:16 take that away nothing will be left behind so she is not into being changed she
137. 18:22 resents this she feels engulfed and enmeshed and digested and consumed and
138. 18:28 assimilated and she doesn’t want this she feels that she’s vanishing so this creates approach avoidance
139. 18:34 and then she loses control her defenses collapse she becomes a secondary psychopath and she acts out in some
140. 18:42 cases she acts out with other men in other cases she becomes violent with inanimate objects she can do horrible things she can betray she can cheat
141. 18:53 she can lie she often lies and all these are manifestations of
142. 18:59 aggression and to to understand the borderline in depth we need to we need to understand the role of aggression in cluster b personality disorders
143. 19:12 healthy aggression possible to to be clear aggression is healthy
144. 19:18 it’s a healthy instinct it’s part of the survival instinct it’s part of the flight of fight um
145. 19:25 response mode without aggression we would be dead so aggression guarantees
146. 19:31 our ongoing existence and prevents us separates us from extinction
147. 19:38 healthy aggression exactly like healthy narcissism healthy aggression is externalized and
148. 19:44 sublimated healthy aggression is directed outward it’s directed at people at institutions it causes
149. 19:56 social activism for example and it’s directed outward it’s externalized
150. 20:03 in socially accepted ways this constrained
151. 20:09 that healthy aggression is socially acceptable only the socially acceptable forms of
152. 20:15 aggression are healthy this is known as sublimation so healthy aggression is both externalized but it is also sublimated it is rendered socially commendable or
153. 20:27 socially acceptable but not all people externalize aggression some people internalized aggression they had learned that to express
154. 20:39 aggression openly overtly is dangerous to your health you should refrain it’s illegitimate to express anger you need to suppress it subdue it deny
155. 20:52 it absorb it somehow so these people internalize aggression they almost never
156. 21:00 externalize it when aggression is internalized it induces mental illness
157. 21:06 aggression is a form of energy it’s use it or lose yourself
158. 21:13 so you can either externalize it and then waste it or spend it away and
159. 21:19 then it’s gone and you’re back to balance in equilibrium and homeostasis or if you don’t if you internalize the aggression if you swallow your anger if you bottle it up
160. 21:31 then it induces mental illness now there are many forms of mental illness mild forms like boredom
161. 21:38 boredom is a form of self-directed aggression it’s kind of rejection of reality in the world and everything it has to offer it’s isolating yourself
162. 21:49 boredom isolates you from the world and from the stimulation that the world offers
163. 21:55 and so you are killing yourself bottom is a form of slow-mo suicide at least mental
164. 22:02 and hedonia lack of ability to find pleasure in anything you don’t find any activity
165. 22:10 any object any stimul stimulus pleasurable so boredom and anhedonia are forms of
166. 22:17 internalized self-directed aggression the same with dysphoria the same with depression and even suicidal ideation or suicide it is not the next it is not by
167. 22:28 accident that 11 of people with borderline personality disorder end up committing suicide they
168. 22:36 tend to internalize aggression infants in and in a minute i will come to the question of of if the borderline internalizes aggression how come she is aggressive towards other people i’ll come to it in a minute bear
169. 22:52 with me but take it for granted at this stage that borderlines tend to internalize some of their aggression now infants internalize aggression that’s important
170. 23:03 to to understand it starts with internalization aggression at the very beginning of life
171. 23:10 is internalized babies babies cry babies throw temper tantrums
172. 23:17 babies throw objects and break them these are all forms of externalized aggression but this aggression is limited to object or it’s very diffuse
173. 23:29 in infancy externalized aggression is not directed aggression it’s diffuse
174. 23:36 and it’s usually directed in it at objects including the baby’s body
175. 23:43 itself which is perceived as an object the first object actually so infants
176. 23:49 internalize aggression when they’re frustrated and there’s a very simple reason for this
177. 23:55 it feels unsafe to aggress against mummy
178. 24:01 mother frustrates the child it denies the child her breasts it leaves the room
179. 24:08 it disappears for short periods of time or it may be absent or depressed it may be sick and go away for a few weeks there are numerous reasons children are
180. 24:19 frustrated from from day one and they have two options they can either externalize this frustration and frustration creates aggression so they can either externalize the aggression that is wrought on by frustration
181. 24:36 or they can internalize it again mothers frustrate children
182. 24:43 mothers frustrate babies and infants because they’re not always there to cater to the immediate needs of the
183. 24:49 infant or the baby so the baby of the infant becomes frustrated and frustration creates aggression that is the famous frustration aggression hypothesis by
184. 25:00 dullard in 1939 so this aggression what to do with the aggression the child or the infant can externalize it or internalize it but it feels unsafe to
185. 25:13 externalize it because if the baby shows mommy that he is angry at her if the baby
186. 25:19 directs his aggression at mommy mommy might just go away and never come back
187. 25:25 the baby depends on money for shelter for warmth and for food for other issues
188. 25:32 as well like tactile contact so the baby is highly dependent on money dependent on money for his life if he were to show mommy aggression
189. 25:43 he would he would take the risk of mommy just walking out and never coming back and then the baby would die so initially in the first two years of life
190. 25:54 it’s very dangerous for the baby for the infant to externalize aggression so
191. 26:00 babies tend mostly to internalize aggression and when they do externalize it it’s not directed at anyone it’s just diffuse this starts to change when babies separate individuate they separate from mummy and they become
192. 26:17 their own individuals in order to set boundaries because the process of separation
193. 26:25 and individuation involves setting personal boundaries first time in his life
194. 26:32 the infant makes clear where he ends and the world begins where money
195. 26:38 ends and he begins so he is protecting he’s defending his perimeter with boundaries but to do so he needs to be aggressive separation individuation is a very aggressive act because it sends a message stay out stay
196. 26:57 away i’m going my own way i’m separate from you i’m my own individual i have my boundaries and you ought to respect them i’m becoming i’m becoming a human being i’m no longer merged with you mommy i’m no longer fused with you mommy i’m no longer one with you mommy the symbiotic
197. 27:19 relationship is over i’m on my way that’s an aggressive message so
198. 27:25 separation individuation involves aggression and this time
199. 27:31 the aggression is both externalized and directed the baby at the age of 18 months to 24 months begins to make
200. 27:42 her first steps away from mommy she begins to disengage from my to
201. 27:48 detach from her she begins to explore the world she begins to form a sense of
202. 27:54 identity she begins to constellate herself she begins to set boundaries where mommy
203. 28:00 should not transgress these boundaries isolate the baby from mommy she is gradually becoming separate separateness
204. 28:11 separateness leads to individuation but there’s no separateness without actively
205. 28:17 and aggressively rejecting mummy rejecting the other many
206. 28:23 immature mothers take this as a form of narcissistic injury they take it badly they don’t want the child to separate and into to individuate but in a healthy separation individuation
207. 28:38 aggression is externalized and is directed at mummy and that’s a very healthy development because it fosters
208. 28:47 self-efficaciousness the externalized aggression in the case of separation individuation
209. 28:53 is both appropriate and self-efficacious we could say we could use another way of looking at it
210. 29:00 we could say that the infant or the baby learns to regulate her anger
211. 29:06 regulate her aggression direct it at the right object at the right time
212. 29:14 for the right purposes the purpose is to become her own person
213. 29:20 personhood to separate from mummy and become an individual failure
214. 29:26 in separation individuation inevitably creates fixations
215. 29:34 when separation individuation fails it also means that the management of aggression had
216. 29:41 failed because separation individuation involves maximum aggression towards the most important primary object mother
217. 29:52 until age 18 the baby the baby identified herself as a part of mummy
218. 29:58 they were one they were single organism symbiosis merger fusion total enmeshment total engulfment now it’s a schism is a traumatic break money and the baby become two separate
219. 30:14 entities and when this separation individuation process fails the aggression
220. 30:20 the aggression remains stuck in limbo it cannot be properly directed properly
221. 30:26 externalized and it cannot be fully internalized
222. 30:32 so a failed separation individuation phase engenders fixated
223. 30:39 grandiosity some cases narcissism and codependency all of these involving fixated or aggression in limbo
224. 30:51 aggression without an address aggression which
225. 30:57 the child is not sure whether he should direct outwards or inwards and whom there’s a total confusion aborted and aborted phase of separation
226. 31:08 individuation renders aggression management in the individual
227. 31:14 very difficult if not impossible because it’s not clear whether the aggression should be
228. 31:20 externalized or internalized externalizing the aggregation can be dangerous because mummy refuses to let
229. 31:27 go should it be internalized it feels bad it feels destructive
230. 31:33 and the child has a survival instinct like any other organism so it’s not a good idea but then if it’s
231. 31:39 not externalized and it’s not internalized what to do with it it’s sort of it’s a fix it’s a floating
232. 31:46 fixed point it’s it’s it’s difficult to tell what to do so in this
233. 31:52 in this state of failed separation individuation we have a solution of narcissism
234. 31:58 we have a solution of codependency in some cases and in these mental health disorders
235. 32:04 narcissism and codependency aggression is both externalized
236. 32:10 inappropriately and internalized self-destructively i’m gonna repeat this sentence why yes you got the answer right i love my
237. 32:21 voice okay in men in mental health disorders which are the
238. 32:28 outcomes of failed or aborted separation individuation mental health disorders
239. 32:35 such as narcissism mental health disorders such as codependency mental health disorders such as borderline all of them involving an inability to separate from mummy and
240. 32:48 to become an individual in all these disorders there is a problem with aggression what
241. 32:54 to do with it cannot be externalized the baby is afraid to internalize
242. 33:00 so what he does he both externalizes it and internalizes it but he externalizes it
243. 33:07 inappropriately he cannot direct it at money because that’s dangerous so he redirects it at
244. 33:14 other people that’s inappropriate these people did nothing
245. 33:20 to the child and yet he’s angry at them because he can’t be angry at mummy when this child grows up and becomes an adult this inappropriate direction of aggression continues he continues to be angry at the wrong people because he doesn’t dare
246. 33:36 to be angry at the right people himself included and then there’s internalization
247. 33:42 remember in these mental health disorders the aggression is both externalized
248. 33:48 and internalized healthy people externalized externalized aggression
249. 33:54 mentally unhealthy people both externalized and internalized and in the case of the narcissist or codependent the aggression is internal and borderline of course the aggression is
250. 34:06 internalized self-destructively the baby becomes her own source of
251. 34:12 frustration because she can’t make up her mind and because she cannot separate an individual she becomes very angry at herself she internalizes this aggression she
252. 34:23 internalizes this rage and this anger she becomes very self-destructive
253. 34:29 and this ambivalent duality inappropriately externalized aggression coupled with self-destructively internalized aggression this ambivalent duality is the source of
254. 34:41 approach avoidant behaviors the borderline the narcissist
255. 34:47 the codependent they approach and then they avoid and then they avoid and then they approach
256. 34:53 and it’s a never-ending pendulum it’s a they oscillate it’s a cycle
257. 34:59 it’s very very disorienting and confusing every approach behavior is followed by
258. 35:06 extreme withdrawal and avoidance aggressive withdrawal and avoidance and one moment the borderline is all love and flowers and sweets and wine and
259. 35:17 roses and the next moment she hates your guts and she wants you dead and she takes steps to make sure that you are
260. 35:25 this approach avoidance throws people off but throws intimate partners the intimate partners of the
261. 35:31 borderline off-balance they don’t they don’t know how to cope with it it creates intermittent reinforcement the trauma bond it’s a mess
262. 35:42 this approach avoidance is a direct outcome of the inability to externalize aggression consistently and
263. 35:48 appropriately the aggression is externalized inappropriately
264. 35:54 at the loving intimate partner but then it’s internalized self-destructively
265. 36:02 and the borderline withdraws from the intimate partner it’s a form of self-destruction or self-defeat and so approach avoidance is motivated or generated or engendered by
266. 36:18 inappropriate inappropriate locus of aggression similarly
267. 36:24 the acting out acting out that involves decompensation switching between substates from
268. 36:31 borderline to secondary psychopath all this kind of thing when the borderline loses it
269. 36:37 loses it and loses control over herself then acts in ways which are utterly psychopathic
270. 36:44 disempathic violent aggressive and horrible so when this happens to her it’s also the outcome of misdirected aggression it’s aggression that head has to find an outlet has to be expressed but the
271. 37:02 borderline doesn’t know how so she externalizes it inappropriately at the intimate partner and then she internalizes it self-destructively by acting recklessly
272. 37:15 and dangerously by taking risks by destroying things including her relationships or objects by becoming violent by disappearing for a few days
273. 37:27 cluster b patients including the borderline first need to practice externalizing
274. 37:34 aggression sometimes with the aid of a transitory object like a punching bag
275. 37:41 they need they need to be in a holding or containing environment like therapy
276. 37:47 psychotherapy and in this environment they need to be encouraged to externalize aggression initially again at a transitory object but then if
277. 37:58 need be at the therapist via the process of transference so
278. 38:05 aggression needs to be externalized and cluster b patients need to learn the skills of externalizing aggression in a sublimatory way in a way that is socially acceptable and
279. 38:17 that is not self-destructive gradually these cluster b patients having learned
280. 38:23 to express to externalize aggression safely in a safe environment gradually they can move on to sublimating aggression for example by becoming social justice
281. 38:35 activists moral crusaders soldiers cops
282. 38:41 surgeons entrepreneurs other similar aggressive professions there is a lot of sublimated legitimized aggression in our world
283. 38:52 in the professional sphere as a form of career and there are many ways many more ways
284. 38:58 today to externalize aggression appropriately than there’s ever been cluster b patients need to focus on this at the core of their mental illnesses
285. 39:10 at the core of their dysfunctional behaviors is this issue of wrongly externalized
286. 39:17 inappropriately directed and um wrong in internalized aggression