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1. 00:01 my name is Sam back name and I’m the author of malignant self-love narcissism revisited abuses emit subtle almost subliminal signals in their body language but these are observable indiscernible learn to read the Narcissistic abusers body language serve yourself a world of
2. 00:25 trouble and of hurt the first time is a haughty arrogant body language the abuser adopts a physical posture which implies and exudes an air of superiority seniority hidden powers mysteriousness unused indifference though the abuser usually maintains sustained and piercing
3. 00:51 eye contact he often refrains from physical proximity he keeps a personal territory around him abusers take part in social interactions even near banter but they do so condescendingly from a position of supremacy and fault magnanimity enlarges even when the
4. 01:17 abuser feigns gregariousness he rarely mingles socially he prefers to remain the observer or the lone wolf the second
5. 01:29 sign is entitlement marker abusers immediately ask for special treatment they don’t want to wait their turn they want to have a longer or shorter for a creative session they want to talk directly to authority figures and no two assistants or secretaries they want to
6. 01:50 be granted special payment terms they want to enjoy a custom tailored arrangements this goes well with the abuses I love plastic defenses his tendency to shift responsibility to others or to the world at large for his own needs failures heavier CH choices mishaps missteps
7. 02:12 the sentence must be landed on abusers is not what you made me do the abuser is the one who vocally in Tim in a demonstratively demands the undivided attention of the head waiter in a restaurant monopolizes the hostess or latches on to celebrities in a party the
8. 02:35 abuser reacts with ragin indignantly when denied his wishes and when treated the same as others whom he always deemed inferior have users frequently and embarrassingly dressed down service providers such as cab drivers the next sign is idealization followed by
9. 03:00 devaluation abusers instantly idealize or devalue their interlocutors they flatter add or admire and applaud the target in an embarrassingly exaggerated and profuse manner or when rebuffed they sulk the abused and humiliated abuses are polite only the presence of a
10. 03:25 potential would-be victim and made collaborator in other words the source of law statistics of life but they are unable to sustain even perfect or a civility in very fast deteriorate to Barb’s and Feeny evaders Timothy to verbal or other violent displays of
11. 03:46 abuses rage attacks or old detachment or to sadistic humor then there is the membership posture abusers always try to belong yet at the very same time the abuser maintains his stance is an outsider the abuser seeks to be admired for disability to integrate and ingratiate
12. 04:08 himself but without investing the efforts which are commensurate with such undertaking for instance if the abuser talks to a psychologist or therapist the abuser first states emphatically that he never studied psychology but then to make seemingly effortless use of
13. 04:27 obscure professional terms thus demonstrating that he mustered the discipline all the same and this is supposed to prove that he is exceptionally exceptionally intelligent or introspective in other ways superior in general abusers always prefer
14. 04:44 show-off to substance one of the most effective methods of exposing an abuser is by trying to delve deeper the abuser is shallow he is a pond pretending to be an ocean he likes to think of himself as a Renaissance man a jack-of-all-trades or a genius abusers never admit to
15. 05:05 ignorant all true failure in anything yet typically they are ignorant and they are losers it is surprisingly easy to penetrate the gloss in the veneer of the abusers self-proclaimed omniscience success wealth and omnipotence abusers brag and
16. 05:28 boast they do so incessantly an abusive
17. 05:35 speech is peppered with I mind myself and mine this is called pronoun density abusers describe themselves as intelligent of rich or modest or intuitive or creative but always excessively always implausibly always extraordinarily so the abuses biography
18. 05:58 summons you unusually rich and complex these achievements are in commensurate with his age with his education or Wheatley’s renown yet his actual condition is evidently and demonstrably incompatible with his claims very often the abusers lives of fantasies are
19. 06:17 easily discernible he always named drops that appropriates other people’s experiences and accomplishments as his own abusers use emotion free language
20. 06:30 they like to talk about themselves and only about themselves if the abuser is not interested in others or they have to say he shows it he’s never reciprocal he acts disdainful even angry if he feels an intrusion on his precious time in general abusers are very impatient
21. 06:50 easily bored with strong attention deficits unless and until they become
22. 06:58 the topic of discussion one can dissect all aspects of the intimate life of the abuser providing the discourse is not emotionally tainted if us to relate directly to his emotion the abuser intellectualize rationalizes speaks about himself in the third person in a
23. 07:18 detached scientific tone or composes a narrative with a fictitious character in it suspiciously autobiographical most abusers get enraged when required to deliver deeper into their motives fears hopes wishes and needs they use violence to cover up their perceived weaknesses
24. 07:39 in sentimentality they distance themselves from their own emotions and from their loved ones by alienating and hurting them finally abusers are serious
25. 07:53 if they are dead serious about themselves the abuser may possess a fabulous sense of humor scathing and cynical but rarely is his self-deprecating the abuser regard himself as being on a constant mission whose importance is cosmic and whose consequence is a global if the abuser is
26. 08:13 aside this is always in the throes of revolutionary insights if he’s a journalist is in the middle of the greatest story ever if he’s an aspiring businessman he’s on the way to concluding the deal of the century woe betide those who doubt his grandiose
27. 08:29 fantasies and impossible schemes and claims this self misperception is not a minimal to lightheadedness or self-effacement the abuser is easily parrot and insulted even the most innocuous remark or act are interpreted by the abuser as belittling intruding or coercive slicin
28. 08:49 demands the abusers time is more valuable than other people’s therefore it cannot be wasted on highly important methods such as social intercourse family obligations household chores inevitably the abuser fields constantly misunderstood in underestimate any suggested help advice
29. 09:10 or concerned inquiry are immediately Catford the abuser is intentional humiliation implying that the abuser is in need of help and counsel and therefore imperfect any attempt to set an agenda is to the abuser and intimidating act of enslavement in this
30. 09:28 sense the abuser is both Skiz rates avoid company impairment abuses are
31. 09:36 sometimes statistic and they have inappropriate effect in other words they find the obnoxious the he heinous the shocking funny or even gratifying they are sexually set up as a mystic or deviant or alter erotic they like to talk to torment and to hurt people treat
32. 09:53 people’s feelings they are they do it sometimes humorous or with bursting honesty but it stays sadistic while some abuses are stable and conventionals other er are antisocial the impulse control is called they are very reckless self-destructive simply fitting and just plain
33. 10:12 destructive the engaging war communism alcoholism drug abuse ethological gambling compulsory shopping or reckless driving in this the lack of empathy the aloofness disdain the sense of entitlement the restricted application of humor the unequal treatment the
34. 10:31 sadism and the paranoia do not render the abuser a social misfit this is because the abuser mistreats only his closest his nearest and supposedly dearest he abuses his fellows his children or more rarely colleagues friends and neighbors to the rest of the
35. 10:50 world those who don’t know him intimately the abuser appears to be composed rational and functioning abuses a very adept at casting a veil of secrecy often with the debate of the ratings over there dysfunction and misbehavior the great actors and they succeeded in deceiving
36. 11:10 the entire world or people all the time