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So to secure their continued collaboration in the procurement of his much-needed supply, the narcissist might resort to emotional extortion, straight blackmail, abuse or misuse of his authority over them.
The temptation to do so is universal.
No doctor is immune to the charms of certain female patients, nor are university professors asexual.
What prevents them from immorally, cynically, callously and consistently abusing their position are ethical imperatives embedded in them through the process of socialization, through the faculty of empathy.
They learn the difference between right and wrong, and having internalized this difference they choose right when they face a moral dilemma.
They empathize with other human beings, putting themselves in their shoes, and they refrain from doing unto others what they do not wish to be done to them.
This is the normal way of the world.
But at these two crucial points, the narcissist differs from other humans.
The narcissist’s socialization process, usually the product of problematic early relationships with primary objects such as parents, caregivers or role models, the socialization process is often perturbed and results in social dysfunction.
Narcissists are incapable of empathizing.
Humans are there only to supply them with narcissistic supply.
Those unfortunate people who do not comply with this overriding dictum must be made to alter their ways, and if even this fails, the narcissist loses interest in them altogether and they are classified as stupid subhuman animals, service providers, function, symbols and worse.
Hence the abrupt shifts from overvaluation, idealization of people, to devaluation while bearing the gifts of narcissistic supply, the other is idealized by the narcissist.
Narcissist shifts however to the opposite point, devaluation, contempt, disdain, when narcissistic supply dries up or when he estimates that it is about to.
Then after a phase of devaluation, he discards, becomes indifferent and apathetic.
As far as the narcissist is concerned, there is no moral dimension to abusing others, even if they are only pragmatic dimensions.
Narcissists ask themselves, will I be punished for abusing, exploiting others?
If punishment is not forthcoming, the narcissist feels free to do as he wishes.
In this sense, the vast majority of narcissists have psychopathic, antisocial traits.
Narcissist is atavistically responsive to fear and lacks any in-depth understanding of what it is to be a human being.
Trapped in his pathology, the narcissist resembles an alien on drugs, a junkie of narcissistic supply, devoid of the kind of language which renders human emotions intelligible.
