Here’s the breaking news. Alpha males are not males with muscles. Combat one, it’s complicated. I know slowly, rewind it, replay it. I know you’re in the manosphere, but you will get it finally.

Alpha males are not males who have muscles. Alpha males are not males who are good looking. I mean, alpha males can be good looking. Just look at me. Alpha males can have muscles. Don’t look at me, but they don’t have to.

An alpha male is someone who is endowed, has endowments, intelligence, sense of humor, for example, are much more important to women than muscles. Someone who has life accomplishments, someone who has a healthy psychology and a strong core, someone who is reliable, someone who is communicative, someone who dominates his environment without being a jerk, vain, grandiose, pompous, and verbose. In other words, without being vain.

This is an alpha male.

Now, some alpha males cultivate their bodies as much as they cultivate their minds. But your average run-of-the-mill bodybuilder is not an alpha male. It’s a loser with muscles.

Now, you go into all these conventions of manosphere and red pill and black pillowsand all they talk about is how to develop the muscles.

Well, I guess if you don’t have much of a brain, you would try to develop your brain and muscles.

What do you do if you don’t have both? Probably you join the manosphere, miktau, incels, red pillows, and black pillows. And you come up with nonsensical observations using phrases you don’t understand at all, like alpha males and evolutionary psychology.

Right, we got that out of the way. Let’s go back to serious business with half-intelligent people.

Casual sex is way less satisfying than relationship sex. That has been substantiated in I don’t know how many studies, the most recent of which is by these sociologists, Paula England of New York University. In her studies, 31% of men and 11% of women had orgasm in casual sex. Isn’t this a shocking number? Even in one night’s tens, only one person of men ejaculate.

Because the male orgasm cannot be faked. Either you make it or you break it. And even then, 69% of men didn’t have sufficient hard-on or erection to ejaculate. And only 11% of women had orgasm. That’s in casual sex. In relationship sex, the figures are 84% of men, 84% of men, and 67% of women had orgasm regularly.

So, not question whatsoever, that if orgasm is your thing, you should find a stable long-term relationship. Because your partner gets to learn your preferences and so on and so forth.

The 2017 Singles in America survey was led by Helen Fisher, anthropologist. And she teamed up with the Kinsey Institute, which is the leading institute for sex studies in the United States. And she found, they found yet another disturbing number. Single millennials, millennials are like 35 years old. I mean, the oldest ones are about 35 years old. Single millennials were 66% less likely than previous generations to enjoy receiving oral sex. Especially the women.

The women were averse to oral sex, not the men.

This is the common myth.

Now put the two together. Casual sex is highly dissatisfying, highly dissatisfying. And 66% of young people under the age of 35 are having less sex. They’re having less sex, but when they’re having sex, they’re having casual sex.

When you put the two together, what do you get?

None of them has an experience of good sex. They don’t have relationships. They hate, they hate the good parts of sex, like oral sex. They’re influenced by pornography, which pornography means pain, objectification, bad sex.

And then they take all these baggage and they are having hookups in one night’s sense and casual sex when they do have sex. We’ll come to it in a minute. And casual sex sucks. Even if there is sucking in casual sex, it still sucks.

No one can come in casual sex. It’s not working.

And one of the main things that is involved in casual sex, that prevents people from enjoying casual sex, is the aforementioned narcissistic inhibitions. You remember how we started the video when we were all much younger, that people hate their bodies, that they are ashamed of their bodies, that they don’t want to show their bodies. Of course, this makes sex, especially casual sex, especially casual sex when you don’t know your partner, makes sex very awkward, very unpleasant, very anxiety increasing.

And indeed, most women reported that they feel anxious in sex, most young women. It’s all about the young generations, that they feel anxious during sex.

So inhibition is something, anything, that interferes or prevents aroused poor body image, I mentioned.

But another reason for inhibition is that people have too much on their minds. Again, we’ll come to it in a minute.

Emily Nagoski wrote a book and she suggested that inhibitions are more powerful than the excitatory system. In other words, your wish to have sex, your need to have sex, your drive, your urge to have sex is less powerful than your inhibitions.

If you’re inhibited, you’re not going to have sex. Do you understand now?

Why about two thirds and in college settings, more than 80% of men and women had sex only after they got drunk because they needed to reduce their inhibitions.

And even so, a sizable minority reported close to 40% reported sexual assault. And a majority reported rising depression and anxiety rates.

Sexual assault, depression, anxiety, and antidepressants all reduce desire.

Shocking, isn’t it? You would have thought differently. Sex enhances happiness, but unhappiness reduces sex. And it’s a vicious circle. You’re unhappy. You don’t have sex. You don’t have sex. You’re more unhappy. You’re more unhappy. You have even less sex. It’s a vicious cycle. And it’s a vicious cycle that is very, very typical of narcissists, even somatic narcissists. It’s a somatic narcissist, his master base with his partner’s body.

As far as a somatic narcissist is concerned, his partner is an animated dildo. If he’s a woman or homosexual or a sex doll, if he’s a heterosexual somatic narcissist, again, we are seeing linkages to the rising tsunami of narcissism, narcissistic traits, behaviors, and personality styles among the young documented at the time by Twenge and Campbell before they retracted some of their studies.

People don’t, I mean, we don’t understand that sex is use it or lose it. It’s not like riding a bicycle. And I’ve done both. I failed in one. I will not tell you which.

Sex is not like riding a bicycle or driving a car or whatever. It’s not a skill that you acquire once and for example, people who are sexually experienced at age 18, sexually inexperienced at age 18. Now sexually experienced is a very long phrase for virgins at age 18. About 80% of them will become sexually experienced, will get laid by age 25. But the 20% that don’t get laid by age 25 will have to wait another 20 years.

You heard me correctly. The 20% who don’t getlaid by age 25 will get laid by age 45, according to a 2009 study in the Journal of Sexual Medicine.

In other words, it’s a make or break. It’s now or never. It’s use it or lose it. It’s a skill that you have to exercise all the time.

According to Michael Rosenfeld of Stanford University, there’s a problem. There’s a problem because in every year that he has bothered to examine and to study, only 50%, 50% of heterosexual single women in their 20s went on any dates whatsoever.

And by the way, not dates that ended with sex, 2,000 of them did not end with sex, date. Date, like you want to have a drink? 50% went on a date.

Do you remember your math from school? If 50% went on a date, how many did not go on a date?

Yeah, you got it right. Probably you’re not an insult. 50% did not go on a date.

The 50% that went on a date, left 50% who did not go on a date.

With all the women, women above the age of 25, the numbers precipitously collapsed. By age 35, fewer than 20% of women dated a man once in the preceding year.

Now, all these women reported depression, anxiety, sleep deprivation.

And so in one of the studies, they were encouraged to sleep one more hour, one hour longer.

The women who got an extra hour of sleep had 14%, one 4% more sex the next day.

In other words, one in seven suddenly had sex after she had one hour extra sleep.

So what I’m trying to say is, yes, there is rising narcissism and all these commitment outcomes.

Prozac is their body image problems, but it’s also modern life.

Modern life. We don’t sleep well. We don’t eat well. We’re under tremendous stress. We are subject to distractions, you know.

Laurie Brotto, which is an obstetrician, gynecologist at the University of British Columbia, she conducted research in the lab and she kind of injected background noise and all kinds of distractions and so on and so forth. And she measured, there’s a special device, don’t ask, which measures blood flow to the relevant areas. And so the more, the bigger the number of distractions, the more intrusive the distractions, the less arousal was experienced by men and women.

So modern life fucks up sex for us, provokes flight and fight responses.

Of course, the outcome of all this is a collapse in birth rates. Collapse in birth rates. Toys are us. When they went bankrupt, it’s a chain of toys in the United States. When they went bankrupt, what did they say? They said, we went bankrupt because there are no children left to buy our toys.

Following birth rates, in 2017, there were half a million fewer American babies than in 2007. Seven. That’s 10 years difference.

We’re not talking like two centuries. Half a million fewer babies. And in 2017, there were more women at the age of childbearing, so there were more women available to bring children to the world, but far fewer babies and the number of children, the average woman declined from 2.1 to 1.76.

America actually needs immigration, just for the population not to be decimated. From 1991 to 2017, the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, they ran a study, a survey called Youth Risk Behavior Survey. And they found that the percentage of high school students who have had intercourse, intercourse is a polite term for got-laid sex. So percentage of high school students who had sex dropped from 54% in 1991 to 40% in 2017.

A majority used to have sex when I was in my 30s. A majority are not having sex now, that I’m at an undisclosed age.

Well, you could say, well, it’s because people are having more oral sex. They’re not having more oral sex, actually. Women are having less oral sex.

Teen pregnancy rate plummeted by 70%. 7-0. Is that good news? Yeah, it’s good news for the babies. It’s good news for the teen mothers, or they wouldn’t be teen mothers.

But it’s an indicator. It’s like a thermometer. It’s like temperature, fever. It’s a symptom, a symptom of sexlessness. The decline started exactly in the same period, more or less, in the 1990s.

And there’s a woman psychologist that I keep quoting all the time because I love her work, Jean Twenge. And she works usually with another guy called Brian Temple. And she’s a psychology professor at San Diego State University. And she published many articles and researches. She’s a prime scholar of pathological narcissism. More recently, she focused on the younger generations.

And one of her recent books, a few years ago, I think, four years ago, is called iGen. And so she discovered that today’s young adults have fewer sex partners than the two preceding generations. And people in their early 20s are two and a half times as likely to be abstinent than Generation X were at the same age. 15% of young adults today reported having had no sex whatsoever.

Even the Generation X and Baby Boomers, me, me, me, even we have less sex today than previous generations did. It’s kind of a sexless age, the death of sex.

That’s the title of my book, The Death of Sex and the Demise of Monogamy, now in its second edition.

From the 1990s until 2014, according to data from the General Social Survey, the average adult, so in 1990s, the average adult had 62 times a year sex. I should meet this adult and ask him for his secret. 62 times a year, wow, one can only dream of.

But now the same adult is having only 54 times a year, six. Let me say it’s nothing, you know, eight, a drop of eight. A drop of eight is what, 15% drop? Are you kidding me?

Such changes used to take millennia. These are species transforming changes. They used to take centuries or millennia.

But the last time there has been such a change in sexual behavior, it took well over 300 years between the 17th century and the Victorian age. And the situation got even worse since 2016.

And this is confirmed by another survey, annual survey, called Singles in America. It’s conducted by Metch.com and Helen Fisher, they aforementioned anthropologists, rich, more or less the same conclusion.

So for more than 25 years, fewer people have been married, and people who got married, get married, get married much later. You could say, yeah, but who cares? There are many alternatives to marriage nowadays. You don’t have to get married to have children. You don’t have to get married to have a common household.

And that’s all true. But marriage is again like a symptom parameter, an indicator. The share of people living together hasn’t risen in the same period. There was a decline in marriage, but the share of people living together rose a bit, not enough to have said the decline.

So its consequence is 60% of adults. Are you listening well? I am mind-boggled by these numbers. 60% of adults, that’s 6-0 under age 35, now live without a spouse, without a partner. 34% of adults under age 35 live with their parents, the kids, 35-year-old kids, they live with their parents.

Do you remember my previous videos?

Narcissism is intimately connected. If it’s connected with anything, it’s connected with this.

Refusal to grow up.

The narcissist is aware of Eterna, eternal adolescent, eternal child. He does not want to assume adult responsibilities and chores, not even sex. He does not want to be autonomous, to be independent. He parasitically feeds off his parents or someone else, the state, others.

And when he does live alone, he’s a lone wolf, he’s a schizoid, he’s dysfunctional. It’s like the Atlantic called it the sex recession. It’s a sex recession, but it’s a narcissistic sex recession.

People are in love with their bloody selves. They are so much in love with themselves, they don’t have love for anyone else.

That’s not me. That’s another Jew, Sigmund Freud, much better looking than me. Sigmund, my old pal, said that if a libido is not directed at objects outside to someone, it’s directed at yourself.

You become a bloody narcissist.

And so if you summarize all the studies and you ask why people are not having sex, so I will read to you the list.

The hookup culture, economic pressures, surging anxiety rates, psychological problems, widespread anti-depressant use, streaming television, environmental pollution, digital pornography, sex toys, dating apps, option paralysis, helicopter parents, carrism, the smartphone, the news cycle, information overload, sleep deprivation, obesity, decrease in childhood sexual abuse, as when you’re abused as a child, you become promiscuous, changing gender mores, diverse sexual orientations, including asexuality, prioritizing school or work over love and sex, and a more discriminating mate selection.

I would add to that the previous argument that women are avoiding bad sex. In 2007, there was a study and people provided 237 reasons why they were having sex with other people. And I think there’s at least this number of why they’re not having sex.

Britain has, of course, a respectable sounding, venerable national survey of sexual attitudes and lifestyles. Everything in Britain is very proper. And this survey of sexual lifestyle, mind you, reported in 2001 that people between the ages of 16 and 44 were having sex more than six times a month. I don’t know where all these people are. I’m here. Where are you?

Anyhow, these people between 16 and 44 were having six times a month.

So fast forward 11 years, 2012, 11 years, this rate dropped to 4.7 times. Australians, wild Australians in the backwoods, down under, went from having sex 1.8 times a week to 1.4 times a week. I don’t know what they’re doing with a 04.

There’s a study in Finland called Finsex, appropriately. And it found declines in intercourse frequency along with rising rates of masturbation, probably to compensate for the declining rates of intercourse.