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1. 00:05 We feel ill at ease. When when you meet a narcissist, there’s something off note. There’s something off key. There are these snippets. There’s these smidgens. There are these flashes of wrongness, ill-fitting things, ill-fitting expressions. They are called micro expressions, ill-fitting behaviors. And you can’t put everything together. It’s like a jigsaw puzzle with one of the pieces wrong. One of the piec pieces coming from another box. So the jigsaw puzzle is never complete. And you have We feel ill at ease. When when you meet a narcissist, there’s something off note. There’s something off key. There are these snippets. There’s these smidgens. There are these flashes of wrongness, ill-fitting things, ill-fitting expressions. They are called micro expressions, ill-fitting behaviors. And you can’t put everything together. It’s like a jigsaw puzzle with one of the pieces wrong. One of the piec pieces coming from another box. So the jigsaw puzzle is never complete. And you have
2. 00:46 this ill background background ill at ease. Your intuition keeps keeps ringing alarm in the background keeps telling you, “Hey, wake up. Something’s wrong.” But you you don’t want to you don’t want to wake up from this dream until until it’s well advanced and you begin to realize that it’s actually a nightmare. It’s realistic lucid dreaming because you’re inducing this dream. You are you’re you’re cocreating it. You’re collaborating it. Had you just listened this ill background background ill at ease. Your intuition keeps keeps ringing alarm in the background keeps telling you, “Hey, wake up. Something’s wrong.” But you you don’t want to you don’t want to wake up from this dream until until it’s well advanced and you begin to realize that it’s actually a nightmare. It’s realistic lucid dreaming because you’re inducing this dream. You are you’re you’re cocreating it. You’re collaborating it. Had you just listened
3. 01:19 to your intuition and followed the aforementioned four rules, believe me, 90% of your relationship trouble would have never happened. And philosophers have a lot to tell you about your gut feeling and whether when and how you should trust it. There was a Polish combo combo philosopher, psychologist, poet, his name was Kajime Dorovski. Yet another unpronouncable name which qualifies you as a psychologist and he came up with a theory of positive disintegration TPD. Dowski was essentially an existentialist to your intuition and followed the aforementioned four rules, believe me, 90% of your relationship trouble would have never happened. And philosophers have a lot to tell you about your gut feeling and whether when and how you should trust it. There was a Polish combo combo philosopher, psychologist, poet, his name was Kajime Dorovski. Yet another unpronouncable name which qualifies you as a psychologist and he came up with a theory of positive disintegration TPD. Dowski was essentially an existentialist
4. 01:57 because existentialist came up with a concept of angst. Angst is mistransated as anxiety. Angst is not anxiety. Angst has a component of anxiety but it also has a component of tension of stress. It’s like the stress of existing existence itself exerts such enormous amount of stress so many conflict laden tensions that it generates anxiety and this is this complex is called angst and dabski said that anx is necessary for growth he said that there are processes that disintegrate us but he regarded because existentialist came up with a concept of angst. Angst is mistransated as anxiety. Angst is not anxiety. Angst has a component of anxiety but it also has a component of tension of stress. It’s like the stress of existing existence itself exerts such enormous amount of stress so many conflict laden tensions that it generates anxiety and this is this complex is called angst and dabski said that anx is necessary for growth he said that there are processes that disintegrate us but he regarded
5. 02:36 them as positive he said that people who don’t disintegrate don’t reintegrate. They remain stuck in what he called primary integration. He said to move from primary integration to secondary integration. To progress, to grow, to mature, to become an adult, a true full-fledged adult with all its dimensions, you need first to disintegrate. In and if you don’t disintegrate and then reintegrate, you lack true individuality. You must advance courageously and sometimes you must induce personally them as positive he said that people who don’t disintegrate don’t reintegrate. They remain stuck in what he called primary integration. He said to move from primary integration to secondary integration. To progress, to grow, to mature, to become an adult, a true full-fledged adult with all its dimensions, you need first to disintegrate. In and if you don’t disintegrate and then reintegrate, you lack true individuality. You must advance courageously and sometimes you must induce personally
6. 03:13 your own disintegration because it’s a hierarchy. There’s always a higher level of development. But you can’t move into this higher level of developmental potential if you don’t first destroy creative destruction, destroy the previous phase. And he said that it all depends on what he called overexitability above average reactions to stimuli. As I mentioned before, he said that overexitability is the thing that pushes you. That’s the energy. That’s the fuel that pushes you towards personal growth. your own disintegration because it’s a hierarchy. There’s always a higher level of development. But you can’t move into this higher level of developmental potential if you don’t first destroy creative destruction, destroy the previous phase. And he said that it all depends on what he called overexitability above average reactions to stimuli. As I mentioned before, he said that overexitability is the thing that pushes you. That’s the energy. That’s the fuel that pushes you towards personal growth.
7. 03:49 And I think intuition plays a critical part in this. We’ll come to it in a minute. Dorovski shares something has something in common with Jordan Peterson and in this sense Peterson would hate me for saying it. Petersonen is actually an existentialist but both Dowski and Petersonen suggest that suffering is crucial that in order to grow and to develop and so you need to suffer not I’m not talking you need to be disappointed I’m not talking you need to have pain or you need to suffer you need to suffer as the condition of And I think intuition plays a critical part in this. We’ll come to it in a minute. Dorovski shares something has something in common with Jordan Peterson and in this sense Peterson would hate me for saying it. Petersonen is actually an existentialist but both Dowski and Petersonen suggest that suffering is crucial that in order to grow and to develop and so you need to suffer not I’m not talking you need to be disappointed I’m not talking you need to have pain or you need to suffer you need to suffer as the condition of
8. 04:24 your existence he said that intense personal suffering self-infliction of suffering you know this is the key to healing mental illness. He said that the shaping of personality depends on on on on this on processes of suffering which lead such extreme suffering which lead uh leads to disintegration. He said that one of the major factors he called it the second factor one of the major factors in growing and developing and evolving and suffering is socialization. Socialization is mediated is conveyed to your existence he said that intense personal suffering self-infliction of suffering you know this is the key to healing mental illness. He said that the shaping of personality depends on on on on this on processes of suffering which lead such extreme suffering which lead uh leads to disintegration. He said that one of the major factors he called it the second factor one of the major factors in growing and developing and evolving and suffering is socialization. Socialization is mediated is conveyed to
9. 05:02 us via peer pressure. Society informs us how it expects us to behave. Society communicates to us its norms and mores, its values and its prescriptive behaviors. Society tells us all this, conditions us, shapes us, molds us. Use any words you want. Any any word you want. Society does this via peers mostly peer pressure. And he says that when we we uh when we challenge this, when we break through this, when we do not accept peer pressure, when we are essentially defined, then we grow. Now this is debatable of course because if us via peer pressure. Society informs us how it expects us to behave. Society communicates to us its norms and mores, its values and its prescriptive behaviors. Society tells us all this, conditions us, shapes us, molds us. Use any words you want. Any any word you want. Society does this via peers mostly peer pressure. And he says that when we we uh when we challenge this, when we break through this, when we do not accept peer pressure, when we are essentially defined, then we grow. Now this is debatable of course because if
10. 05:45 defiance is taken to the extreme, it renders you a psychopath. But if there’s no defiance whatsoever, you become a robopath. Robopath is a term coined by a systems biologist. His name was Fon Bertalanfi. My apologies again. And Fon Beralanfi suggested that people who have modified, who adhere 100% to what society tells them to do, who mold and shape shift in order to fit into their peer group. These people are not human. They’re robotic. They’re robots. They’re not only robots, they’re sick robots. defiance is taken to the extreme, it renders you a psychopath. But if there’s no defiance whatsoever, you become a robopath. Robopath is a term coined by a systems biologist. His name was Fon Bertalanfi. My apologies again. And Fon Beralanfi suggested that people who have modified, who adhere 100% to what society tells them to do, who mold and shape shift in order to fit into their peer group. These people are not human. They’re robotic. They’re robots. They’re not only robots, they’re sick robots.
11. 06:20 And so disintegration requires requires fighting back society, fending back, fending society off. It requires countering countering, countermanding, undermining social signaling and pressures. And then the question arises, how do you spot these signals? And my answer is intuition. I think major part of what we call intuition is signal picking up signals. Picking up signals mainly from others. And we have this radar, this detector, this scanner that is constantly on and we scan all the time exactly like narcissists and And so disintegration requires requires fighting back society, fending back, fending society off. It requires countering countering, countermanding, undermining social signaling and pressures. And then the question arises, how do you spot these signals? And my answer is intuition. I think major part of what we call intuition is signal picking up signals. Picking up signals mainly from others. And we have this radar, this detector, this scanner that is constantly on and we scan all the time exactly like narcissists and
12. 07:08 psychopaths. The difference between normal people, healthy people, and narcissists and psychopaths. The narcissist and the psychopath, they scan, but they scan and they have no emotional reaction to what the scanning reveals about other people. You, you do, you have an emotional reaction. So, but everyone, narcissists, psychopaths, normal people, healthy people, everyone is scanning all the time, picking up signals all the time. Beep beep beep. is like this project of SETI the project for discovering alien life in the psychopaths. The difference between normal people, healthy people, and narcissists and psychopaths. The narcissist and the psychopath, they scan, but they scan and they have no emotional reaction to what the scanning reveals about other people. You, you do, you have an emotional reaction. So, but everyone, narcissists, psychopaths, normal people, healthy people, everyone is scanning all the time, picking up signals all the time. Beep beep beep. is like this project of SETI the project for discovering alien life in the
13. 07:44 universe you know we are trying to pick up signals and we’re trying to make sense of these signal to to discover structures repetitiveness rules and I think this is what we call intuition this is where where um this is where this Polish um psychologist Drosvski fits into the video today because I think the missing part in his theory of positive disintegration is what mediates the communication. What is the communication channel? What is the transmission mechanism between individual and society, individual and universe you know we are trying to pick up signals and we’re trying to make sense of these signal to to discover structures repetitiveness rules and I think this is what we call intuition this is where where um this is where this Polish um psychologist Drosvski fits into the video today because I think the missing part in his theory of positive disintegration is what mediates the communication. What is the communication channel? What is the transmission mechanism between individual and society, individual and
14. 08:22 peers and you know what individual and himself or herself? What is this communication channel? And I think this communication channel is intuition. And if we introduce intuition into Drosvski’s work, it is rendered complete. It’s a fascinating work. Encourage you to go online and look look for whatever you can you can find. Let’s go to let’s now begin to discuss intuition problem. Prophets in the Bible and scientists they’re both in the business or were in the business of making peers and you know what individual and himself or herself? What is this communication channel? And I think this communication channel is intuition. And if we introduce intuition into Drosvski’s work, it is rendered complete. It’s a fascinating work. Encourage you to go online and look look for whatever you can you can find. Let’s go to let’s now begin to discuss intuition problem. Prophets in the Bible and scientists they’re both in the business or were in the business of making
15. 08:56 predictions. Both these types prophets and scientists resort to metaphysical frameworks as the source of their knowledge. The prophet will tell you I got my knowledge from God and the science scientist will tell you I obtained my knowledge via the scientific method. It’s another argument whether science is not actually a religion. Put that aside. Both prophets and scientists vehemently deny the role of intuition in their output. If you challenge a prophet, if I could talk to Muhammad or to Jesus and and challenge predictions. Both these types prophets and scientists resort to metaphysical frameworks as the source of their knowledge. The prophet will tell you I got my knowledge from God and the science scientist will tell you I obtained my knowledge via the scientific method. It’s another argument whether science is not actually a religion. Put that aside. Both prophets and scientists vehemently deny the role of intuition in their output. If you challenge a prophet, if I could talk to Muhammad or to Jesus and and challenge
16. 09:34 them and tell them actually you’re not talking to God, you’re talking to yourself. It’s intuition. They would challenge me. They would have challenged me. They would have told me you’re wrong. I am talking to God. Or if they if they would really be in an advanced stage, they would say, “This what you call intuition is the voice of God.” The prophet claims to possess privileged access to a transcendental being. And the prophet says, “I’m merely serving as a conduit.” The this supreme being has them and tell them actually you’re not talking to God, you’re talking to yourself. It’s intuition. They would challenge me. They would have challenged me. They would have told me you’re wrong. I am talking to God. Or if they if they would really be in an advanced stage, they would say, “This what you call intuition is the voice of God.” The prophet claims to possess privileged access to a transcendental being. And the prophet says, “I’m merely serving as a conduit.” The this supreme being has
17. 10:04 his own thoughts, his own intentions. I am nothing. I’m a a channel. I’m channeling God. The scientist insist that his work is objective and rational. Of course, God forbid intuition. No way. And that in principle, this work can be emulated by a computer, for example. There’s an open question. Now in the age of artificial intelligence, why do we assume that computers cannot have intuition? Leave it aside for a minute. Both scientists and prophets actually transform deep set unconscious his own thoughts, his own intentions. I am nothing. I’m a a channel. I’m channeling God. The scientist insist that his work is objective and rational. Of course, God forbid intuition. No way. And that in principle, this work can be emulated by a computer, for example. There’s an open question. Now in the age of artificial intelligence, why do we assume that computers cannot have intuition? Leave it aside for a minute. Both scientists and prophets actually transform deep set unconscious
18. 10:39 processes into structural statements, sentences, laws. They think that if they take what is profound, what is deep, what is unconscious and they convert it via language to something that is communicable, it had lost its profoundity and its inexplicability. I think it’s a very dubious proposition that you talk about some something doesn’t change its essence. And there is a problem with intuition. There is a problem with the essence of intuition. And if you listen carefully from from now to the end of the video, you will processes into structural statements, sentences, laws. They think that if they take what is profound, what is deep, what is unconscious and they convert it via language to something that is communicable, it had lost its profoundity and its inexplicability. I think it’s a very dubious proposition that you talk about some something doesn’t change its essence. And there is a problem with intuition. There is a problem with the essence of intuition. And if you listen carefully from from now to the end of the video, you will
19. 11:22 learn a lot about your gut feeling and your intuition and how how and when and where should you trust them. And it will come handy when you date the next narcissist or when your next relationship falls apart or when it succeeds or when you have children or when you start a new job. Intuition is arguably a much more critical part of decision making than rational rational rationalization. Our ratio our reasoning um are not what they are made made out to be and our intuition is very powerful. First let’s let’s clear the field. There learn a lot about your gut feeling and your intuition and how how and when and where should you trust them. And it will come handy when you date the next narcissist or when your next relationship falls apart or when it succeeds or when you have children or when you start a new job. Intuition is arguably a much more critical part of decision making than rational rational rationalization. Our ratio our reasoning um are not what they are made made out to be and our intuition is very powerful. First let’s let’s clear the field. There
20. 12:04 are three types of intuition and uh I’m I will start by describing the first type. The first type is called idetic intuition. Intuition is supposed to be a form of direct access. When when I when I ask you what is intuition, you would say, well, I directly receive an answer to something. I didn’t even know that I had the question, but suddenly I have the answer. are three types of intuition and uh I’m I will start by describing the first type. The first type is called idetic intuition. Intuition is supposed to be a form of direct access. When when I when I ask you what is intuition, you would say, well, I directly receive an answer to something. I didn’t even know that I had the question, but suddenly I have the answer.