Tip: click a paragraph to jump to the exact moment in the video. Sociosexual Narcissist: CRM vs. Agency Models (Clip Skopje Seminar Opening, May 2025)

1. 00:19 Boerto Bonjour and Guten Guten Morgan. Yes. Guten Morgan. Bonjour. Madame. Sorry. Gob. Yes. I lived I lived in Czech Republic for uh I live in Poland also but I lived in Czech Republic. I lived in in all these areas. Yeah. Okay. I’m going to answer a few questions that
2. 00:54 I’ve received and there are additional questions which you can ask later during the questions and answers sessions when I’m not here. No. Right. Okay. Dove, you’re smiling. That’s a good sign. You are my calibrator. Questions and answers. You can ask the question. You know, in
3. 01:17 in my case, it’s all your answers questioned, not all your questions answered. Okay. The first uh the first question obviously had to do with uh sex. And um narcissists are what what we call um
4. 01:37 narcissists are what we call socioexual. Socioexual people are people who are willing to have sex outside a committed relationship. So they are open to sexual opportunities outside the committed relationship. But social social sexuality is an attitude.
5. 01:58 It’s an attitudinal dimension of the personality. It does not mean that it leads to action. It just means that the person is in principle all for it. But it doesn’t always lead to action. Socioexual uh social socioexuality is associated with a model and the model is
6. 02:19 called contextual reinforcement model or CRM. The contextual reinforcement model of narcissism says that narcissists seek novelty. They they are they like new things. For example, $400 million airplanes. You know, they like this. They like uh unstable, instability, not stability.
7. 02:45 When they are in a stable environment, they feel suffocated. They feel that they’re dying. So they like to destabilize situations and relationships and so on to introduce to inject instability and they like short-term contexts over long-term context. So narcissists for
8. 03:05 example are much more likely to engage in casual sex than in committed sex in long-term relationships. So this is the contextual reinforcement model which is one of the uh dominant model. Another another model of narcissism is called the agency model.
9. 03:24 The agency model has five elements. And this is just an answer to your questions. Yes, it’s not today’s lecture. The agency model has five elements. Number one, the narcissist is more focused, more interested in agency. In other words, the narcissist is
10. 03:40 interested in performance, in acting, in obtaining outcomes. The narcissist is exactly like the psychopath. goal oriented. The difference between the narcissist and the psychopath is that the narcissist’s only goal is narcissistic supply. Whereas the psychopath has
11. 04:00 multiple goals. For example, sex, money, contacts, access. So narcissists are agentic. They are not communal. In other words, narcissists do not emphasize being liked or being loved or being agreeable or being conscientious or anything has to do with the community.
12. 04:20 Narcissists couldn’t care less about they care about agency with one exception. The communal pro-social narcissist. Communal pro-ocial narcissist is a variant of narcissist. variant like v virus is a variant of narcissist who is into community values. The grandiosity
13. 04:41 of this narcissist is about being moral, being altruistic, being charitable. So you see all these narcissists on television ostentatiously announcing big donations and projects they’re initiating and how great they are and how loving and how
14. 04:59 charitable and how altruistic and so on. That’s a pro-social communal narcissist, an ostentatious dogooder. That’s the only exception. It’s a tiny minority. All other narcissists couldn’t care less about the community. This is element number one in the agency model. Element
15. 05:15 number two is the narcissist has surprise surprise inflated self-concept or inflated self-use. Number three, self-enhancement and self-regulation. The narcissist self-enhances, solicits input from others. solicits feedback to support an inflated, fantastic, grandiose, unrealistic,
16. 05:36 counterfactual self-image or self-concept. Number four is entitlement and number five is approach orientation. Approach orientation in psychology means you are emphasizing the rewards much more than the dangers, much more than the risk, much more than the the cost. So narcissists
17. 05:58 are focused on what can what is it what’s in it for me what can I get what can I extract how can I benefit this is called approach uh attitude approach uh orientation and they don’t focus on what is going to what’s the cost uh what are the consequences what’s
18. 06:18 going to happen to me they don’t focus on this they focus on the immediate gratification instant gratification of so this is the agency model. I’m introducing you to these models because today we are going to discuss the dominant model of narcissism. These two
19. 06:33 are not the dominant models. We’re going to discuss the dominant model known as the psychonamic model psychonamic model of narcissism. So I’m introducing you to others before we do before we do so. Um let’s see if there’s anything else that I’ve missed. Um, one second.
20. 06:57 No, basically I covered all the questions that that you have sent me.