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1. 00:02 The other day I made a mistake of uploading a post about the narcissist’s mother and auntie mother. Immediately all the aicionados of fam fatals emerged from the woodwork insisting valuably viferously on further elaboration of the exact nature of the fatal. What is she capable
2. 00:27 of doing to the narcissist? what is a narcissist capable of doing to her and what both of them are capable to doing to you of doing to you. So today I’m going to make a brief note uh regarding the psychopathic n psychopathic female. Now the majority of psychopaths are male.
3. 00:49 We um have a diagnosis in the diagnostic and statistical manual antisocial personality disorder and at the extreme end of the spectrum we have psychopathy as measured by the PCL PCLR test
4. 01:07 designed by Robert Hair. So majority of people diagnosed with psychopathy or antisocial personality disorder are men. Only a small minority anywhere between one quarter and one/ird are women. That is as opposed to narcissistic personality disorder where women finally
5. 01:25 attained the long sought equality with men and now half of all narcissists are women. Still there is um tangible minority of psychopaths who are women. And to some extent they are distinguished. They are distinct. They’re not the same as male psychopaths. Whereas male psychopaths
6. 01:48 tend to be mostly what is known as factor one psychopaths, primary psychopaths. Female psychopaths tend to be secondary psychopaths, factor 2 psychopaths. In other words, they tend to be very strong on impulse or lack of impulse control. They’re very impulsive.
7. 02:06 They tend to be they tend to have emotion dysregulation which is reminiscent of borderline personality disorder. They are reckless. They are defined exactly like the primary narcissist. And in this sense they’re the same as um as the male um psychopath,
8. 02:21 but they are still distinct in the sense that um they have emotions. These emotions are overwhelming. They even have empathy and negative effects such as shame and guilt. So there is a there is a a serious difference between factor one and factor two psychopaths and women tend to
9. 02:41 concentrate in the letter. Still female psychopaths can definitely destroy your life. The psychopathic female creates a crazy making space. It is reminiscent or the equivalent of the narcissist shared fantasy. Within this crazy making space she entertains, she lures into, baits
10. 03:07 into and then entertains, incorporates, digests, assimilates people around her. This crazym space is a vortex. It’s a whirlpool into which the psychopathic female sucks in everinccreasing concentric circles everyone around her. She abuses people. But whereas the
11. 03:33 primary psychopath abuses people because of some goal. Primary psychopath is goal oriented. He wants sex, he wants money and so on. The um secondary psychopath mainly the female psychopath abuses people relationally in interpersonal relationships.
12. 03:53 In in this sense, the female psychopath is very reminiscent of the male narcissist. So she abuses people in interpersonal relationships, smear campaigns. She would cheat with your best friend or colleague or with with the spouses of best friends and colleagues. She
13. 04:13 manipulates people by flirting or by begging for pity and sympathy, casting men in rescuer savior roles. She charms She beguiles always the long sought soulmate, the twin flame, a perfect resonance and fit the other long lost half. This is a role that female psychopaths play.
14. 04:40 The female psychopath sex is fantasy come true. Fantasy in the flesh. Again, in this sense, female psychopaths are very reminiscent of females with borderline personality disorder. Female psychopaths can even play the demure or shy um individual. They can bait and lure others
15. 05:07 by displaying ostentatiously, exhibiting their vulnerabilities and neediness. And in this sense, female psychopaths are very good at imitating codependence or female psychopaths can be extroverted and histrionic. And whatever role the female psychopath
16. 05:29 chooses and yes, it can the female psychopath can switch between these roles because they’re not they they’re not reflective of her true character or true nature. These are just assumed um cosplays. So whichever role she chooses to play, the shy, vulnerable, fragile, brittle,
17. 05:47 in need of of protection, in need of help, damselled in distress on the one hand, or the extroverted, histrionic, sex bomb, sex pot, uh honey honeypot, uh, you know, trap or whatever, whichever role she somehow introduces into her fantasy, into her crazym space,
18. 06:11 Even the most reluctant her chaos has what we know what we call in in chaos theory an attractor. She attracts people from without and from within. So a female psychopath is highly attractive not necessarily in the sexual sense but in the total sense. Her totality is inexurable,
19. 06:40 irresistible and luring and intoxicating and addictive and you don’t even know why. Because if you analyze each of the ingredients or each of the elements or each of the components separate separately, there’s nothing very special about the female psychopath. Sometimes she’s ugly,
20. 07:01 sometimes she’s stupid, sometimes she’s, you know, manly, sometimes very often the female psychopath is an amazing elomeration of deficiencies and deformities and and uh disadvantages and frailties and weaknesses and vulnerabilities and and you know, and
21. 07:25 yet when you put all of them together, they somehow constitute a source of energy. They somehow empower the female psychopath over you and you can’t help it. So this is if you find yourself in the orbit of a woman who exerts influence over you in ways
22. 07:47 which are a mystery, which you cannot decode, which you cannot understand, cannot comprehend, you’re very likely in the presence of a female psychopath, especially if she introduces into the relationship a lot of drama, a lot of acting out, a lot of crazym, a lot of
23. 08:04 unpredictability, uncertainty, indeterminis, which is with a with a tinge of menace, something ambiently threatening, something ill-fitting and and causes you to to be upset or unsettled or ill at ease. And this is the uncanny value reaction. The role of the crazymaking
24. 08:28 space, exactly like the shared fantasy of narcissism, is to provide an optimal environment for the expression of the psychopath’s grandiosity and sadism, as well as for the attainment of her goals. The goal of the female psychopath is no different to the goal of the male
25. 08:46 psychopath. Power. Money is power. Sex is power. Sex is having power over someone. And the psychopath sex is usually aggressive, sometimes violent, coercive in many cases. The narcissist sex is not coercive because the narcissist needs to feel irresistible. The psychopath sex is
26. 09:09 coercive because the psychopath needs to be in control, needs to own, needs to possess. The p power is power is the narcissistic supply of the psychopath. Power is the fuel that keeps the psychopath going. And so the female psychopath is no different. And whereas
27. 09:29 a narcissist shared fantasy um has several functions which are which have nothing to do with power. The narcissist shared fantasy is about re enacting or replaying uh conflict early childhood conflicts with parental figures especially the mother. The
28. 09:47 narcissist shed fantasy is about generating a paracosm within which the narcissist is godlike and therefore safe. It’s about safety and stability and so on. These are the functions of shared fantasy in narcissism. The functions of the psycho psychopath
29. 10:03 shared fantasy. The the psychopath crazy making space is about power. Chaos
30. 10:11 renders the psychopath the only island of stability. Chaos empowers the psychopath. Chaos makes the psychopath indispensable. The only form of protection and the only found of predictability and stability. So chaos is crucial. Um psychopaths create chaos in order to accumulate
31. 10:35 power and then rule over people and make them do their bidding. So this goal orientation is not absent in the female psychopath. The the female psychopath’s space, dramatic space is a theater set, a stage upon which she enacts her antisocial immorality play. Um
32. 11:02 um and in in the psychopath’s amorality play, there’s no good and evil. There’s no right and wrong. There’s only it works, it’s not working. It doesn’t work. So if efficacy is the key. Whereas in a typical morality play, it’s good versus evil. It’s money.
33. 11:24 In the psychopath’s immorality play, the emphasis is on efficacy and attainment, goal attainment. So, but it has to be done in a way that would convert people or reduce people into actors in a theater production or a movie into two-dimensional NPCs in a
34. 11:47 video game. No. And the only way to accomplish this is to terrify people, destabilize them, threaten them to the point that they lose agency and come to rely on the psychopath. And of course, the narcissist to much more minimal extent uses the same technique with intermittent
35. 12:10 reinforcement. Okay. So there is this immorality play and everyone in this female psychopath’s life is a prop. A prop in the theater production and the play is about her. The play is about her antisocial impulses, the gratification of these impulses, the elevation and my
36. 12:32 mythologizing of these impulses and so on. She renders she converts her psychopathy into an ideology. I would even say a religion within this dramatic space. It’s theater at the disposal and at the service of a private religion with everyone around her as a worshipper
37. 12:54 without remorse or guilt or shame or empathy. The female psychopath mercilessly and relentlessly meets out what she considers to be just desserts, what people deserve. She rewards people. She punishes people. She takes advantage of people if they are stupid enough to
38. 13:15 be taken advantage of, which is their fault. She is there to consume. She is the great consumer and people are raw materials. People are fed into the psycho the psychopathic device of the psychopathic machine. They’re processed. The female psychopath acts mechanically,
39. 13:38 fearlessly, impulsively, and with determination like some kind of inexurable automaton or juggernaut, a force of nature. In a way, culturally conditioned as we are to regard all women as weak and ineffectual, a feetat, well-meaning and maternal, but a feat to
40. 13:58 some extent stupid and incapable of attaining goals the way men men are. That’s a stereotype. And no, we haven’t got rid of it yet. It’s still prevalent. Look at the United States nowadays. So we are used to see women this way and the female psychopath uses this. She
41. 14:19 leverages this blind spot the our blindness our the stereotype that blind blinds us to the reality of femininity and and so on. And the female psychopath uses this against against us. And that renders her far more insidious, nefarious, penicious, subterranean, and
42. 14:40 dangerous than the male uh her male kin, her male brother, so to speak. The male psychopath is could be underhanded. The male psychopath could be a great thespian, great actor. the male psychopath could pretend to be pro-social and communal and
43. 15:03 and in this sense sometimes you don’t see the male psychopath coming but v but by virtue of being a male the the male psychopath is less dangerous than the female psychopath because our defenses are up. We we are we regard men as much more efficacious and therefore much more
44. 15:26 dangerous. So when whenever we come across a men someone with a the one set of genitalia we become more defensive, more protective, more alert, more hypervigilant, more suspicious. And we tend to lower our guard and lose these defenses with a female. And the
45. 15:44 female psychopath knows it. And she’s subtle. She’s passive aggressive. She’s surreptitious. She stealthily undermines the foundations rather than overtly bombard or siege the fortress of the citadel. The male psychopath thespian capacity is hampered by the male psychopath
46. 16:06 grandiosity. He feels humiliated by the very need to pretend and to act, to manipulate and to supplicate. This female of the of the species, the female psychopath is not averse to any of this. She would cling. She would act needy. She would display her vulnerability,
47. 16:26 alleged ostensible vulner vulnerabilities. She would beg. She would beg. She would supplicate. She would demean and humiliate herself. She would do anything to capture you, to captivate you, to lasso you in, to put you on a leash, to and then to confine you to a cage in her zoo,
48. 16:49 and to force you to play a role in a script of which she’s a sole producer and director and uh in this act of authorship because she’s an author. She she creates something. It’s a it’s a creative act. In this drama that she that she puts on on on her stage, on her personal stage,
49. 17:14 you are an inert element in many ways. Even as a victim, even as a sufferer, um you are not perceived as someone who should have any grounds to complain. You don’t have any right to any grievance because to be a victim or a suffering entity sufferer in the big theater
50. 17:43 of of the of the female psychopath is an honor. You should be grateful for the role allocated and assigned to you. Your suffering is meaningful and it is rendered meaningful by the presence especially presence of mind of the female psychopath. In this sense, the
51. 18:03 female psychopath is a religious cult leader and create cults. But she will not hesitate to tear you apart to shreds, to annihilate and eliminate and eradicate and obliterate you and everything and everyone that’s dear to you. She will not think twice.
52. 18:24 There’s no hesitancy. She’s ruthless and callous and relentless to the extreme. You are foder cannon foder. You’re raw material. You’re nothing. You’re nobody. You’re non entity. And it is this impersonal nature of the female psychopath’s abuse that drives
53. 18:46 people insane, drives them crazy. And they’re trying to make sense of the female psychopath. They can’t wrap their minds around the fact that as far as she’s concerned, people are numbers, statistics, um, minerals. She’s on she’s
54. 19:05 kind of on a on an extraction mission. and she’s a she’s a minor in a mine and she extracts these minerals and and so on and then she molds them and shapes them and it’s again there is a strong artistic streak in this endeavor and the the female psychopath regards
55. 19:32 her victims the way a sculptor would regard a slab of marble. She sees the victimhood potential in them and then she chips at the marble until they become the perfect victims. Perfection matters to the female psychopath. And throughout this throughout this absolutely in insane
56. 19:55 um sequence of events, the female psychopath can and does experience empathy, flashes of empathy, overwhelming emotions, including including remorse, shame, and guilt. And yet they are somehow not actionable. They don’t drive her to action. It’s as if she’s experiencing these
57. 20:18 emotions vicariously by proxy or as if she’s watching them through a virtual reality goggles. It’s she she is experiencing the emotions but they’re not really hers. They’re simulated. They’re virtual. Yeah. So there is she is removed from her emotions. There is a
58. 20:40 remove there. there’s some distance between the female psychopath and her emotions or generally speaking between the secondary psychopath and his or her emotions. And it is this incapacity to convert emotions into attitudes and motivations. It is this incapacity that renders the
59. 21:01 female psychopath as dangerous as the male psychopath uh the primary psychopath. And whereas the primary psychopath’s motivations are usually money, sex, power, access, contacts, you name it, material goods, wealth, the motivations or the goals of the
60. 21:21 female secondary psychopath, typically secondary psychopath, her motivations, her goals are to express herself. And who are you? You’re the canvas. You’re the slab of marble. you have the raw material to be molded and shaped in her artistic endeavor. She
61. 21:46 legitimizes her antisocial impulses, her psychopathic urges and drives. Freud would have said that there is an id with no super ego and to some extent no ego because the primary the the all all types all stripes of psychopaths are defiant and reckless. But it’s her quest is
62. 22:10 self-actualization. And it is unfortunate the the only way for her to self-actualize is to stage dramas that involve the suffering and victimization and annihilation and humiliation and disintegration of other people. It’s unfortunate. It’s the same way a serial
63. 22:32 killer. The only way for a serial killer to express himself is to kill people. Sadistic The only way for the sadistic uh sexual predator to express himself is sadistic sex. And the only way for the pedophile to express himself is by having sex with children. It’s same with
64. 22:48 a with a secondary psychopath. Her only way to express herself is to victimize people, to sacrifice them. It’s a religion. She is the godhead or the goddess and human sacrifice is part of the religion and and you are the human part of the human sacrifice. Before you
65. 23:08 know it, your life and your health, a gun, your mind is traumatized beyond repair, exposed as you were to the self to the soft pulitude of almost alien evil raified. Jordan Peterson got it right when he said that it is the encounter with evil that traumatizes,
66. 23:33 not any objective reality, but the fact that you suddenly wake up to the realization that you have been embraced and you have made love to and you have shared your life with evil incarnated.