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4. 01:03 the uncanny valley reaction is the unease and discomfort that we feel when we are in the presence of narcissists and psychopaths it derives its name from the uncani valley reaction first described by the Japanese roboticist Masahiro Mori in 1970
5. 01:26 mori discovered that as robots become more and more humanlike more and more humanoid the level of discomfort and unease that people experience when they interact with these robots increases and this is crucial to understand narcissists and psychopaths are robots of this kind
6. 01:53 the reaction the discomfort the unease the feeling that something is wrong something is off key something has gone all right is because the narcissist and the psychopath it's a work in progress it's an incomplete inexact inaccurate simulation of a human being
7. 02:21 many things are missing for example empathy effective empathy emotional empathy access to positive emotions and so on and it is these missing parts that create the uncanny valley reactions reaction in people around the narcissist and the psychopath narcissist and the psychopath
8. 02:47 are on the way to becoming human beings they're halfbaked they're not full-fledged and this precisely triggers what Mori Masahiro Mori has described but when does this uncanny valley reaction occur when does it happen actually according to some studies in
9. 03:09 Harvard Lombadi and others within the first 3 seconds many many other studies have shown that the uncanny value reaction in the presence of narcissists is triggered within 30 seconds 30 this is true even when the exposure to the narcissist is via a single photo a
10. 03:34 30-cond video an email so narcissists trigger the uncanny valley reaction even vicariously by proxy indirectly again it's not because they are a perfect simulation it's not because they're perfectly humanoid it's not because they're indistinguishable from other people it's
11. 03:57 because they are because they are distinguishable because they are imperfect because they are a work in progress because they are incomplete and so people react this way and the uncanny valley reaction leads to cognitive dissonance on the one hand here's the narcissist there's the
12. 04:21 narcissist and the narcissist looks like anybody else the narcissist behaves more or less like other people and so on and yet there are emanations there are transmissions there are broadcasts that undermine this exudation of normality there is a challenge implicit in the
13. 04:45 narcissist's presence and behaviors to the very implicit statement I am just like you i am normal and people react to this with extreme discomfort
14. 05:00 and this cognitive dissonance what I see is not what I get what I perceive and apprehend sometimes unconsciously what my intuition tells me what my gut feeling instructs me to do doesn't sit well with the apparition or with the presence that I'm exposed to this
15. 05:18 dissonance leads is the found is the reason for the uncanny valley reaction one way to resolve the dissonance is to deceive yourself and to lie to yourself and to say that something is wrong with you not with a narcissist and I've discussed this in other videos so just a
16. 05:37 clarification on the mechanism and the source of the uncanny value reaction presumably if narcissists were miraculously or or through some kind of treatment if they were to become full-fledged human beings if they were to become indistinguishable from other people if they were to
17. 05:56 acquire empathy and and or even imitate effective empathy and imitate positive emotions convincingly the uncanny value reaction would have would disappear but they're unable to do this they're unable to do this because for example the narcissist
18. 06:14 doesn't have a functioning self and is subject to identity disturbance exactly like the borderline the psychopath on the other hand has is an extreme case of lack of effective empathy is goal oriented and is very machine-like and so these people narcissists and
19. 06:34 psychopaths are never going to become full-fledged human beings and they're going to trigger in other people forever throughout the lifespan they're going to trigger this sense of things are not as they ought to be something is wrong here listen to your intuition and to your gut
20. 06:56 instinct they're right 90 close to 90 85 90% of the time according to studies if you feel uncomfortable in the presence of someone walk away it's a warning