Conscience is not Empathy

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people often confuse empathy and conscience they are not the same thing they're absolutely not the same thing although one can lead to the other conscience has little to do with empathy conscience is inwardly directed conscience is about internal processes empathy is directed at other people in the absence of other people there's no empathy but in the absence of other people you could have a conscience conscience having a conscience is motivational because having a conscience involves guilt remorse reasoning moral judgment and conscience is actionable it leads you to act act in order to mitigate these feelings of guilt and remorse which are very dissonant so conscient having a conscience is a way to reduce anxiety having

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  1. 00:01 people often confuse empathy and conscience they are not the same thing they're absolutely not the same thing although one can lead to the other conscience has little to do with empathy conscience is inwardly directed conscience is about internal processes
  2. 00:21 empathy is directed at other people in the absence of other people there's no empathy but in the absence of other people you could have a conscience conscience having a conscience is motivational because having a conscience involves guilt remorse reasoning moral judgment
  3. 00:44 and conscience is actionable it leads you to act act in order to mitigate these feelings of guilt and remorse which are very dissonant so conscient having a conscience is a way to reduce anxiety having a conscience leads you to actions which are anxolytic whereas empathy is not
  4. 01:10 motiv motivational it doesn't often lead to action rarely actually empathy is observational you observe other people and then you put yourself in other people's shoes you empathize with their alleged ostensible emotions and cognitions by deciphering and decoding
  5. 01:33 for example their facial expressions their body language so empathy is about observing other people and then somehow recreating their state of mind within your own mind this facilitates the ability to interact socially with other people it creates a bridge this bridge
  6. 01:57 is known as the inter subjective space conscious has nothing to do with any of this you could have a conscience without empathizing conscious is about what's right and what's wrong what you should and ought to have done and what you haven't whether you should
  7. 02:17 feel guilty and remorseful and regretful whether you you shouldn't reasoning and moral judgment are involved con conscious therefore is an introjected societal parental construct it's a set of rules and regulations and instructions and expectations and demands which help you
  8. 02:42 to conform to society to become socially acceptable to sublimate unacceptable urges and drives and this is conscience empathy on on the other hand is neurobiological it's hereditary it's an inexurable unfolding of psycho psycho biological processes people become empathic
  9. 03:08 in an early age actually they're born with reflexive empathy then they develop cognitive empathy and then emotional empathy whereas having a conscious crucially depends on your exposure to the right parents the right upbringing the right environment if you were born
  10. 03:29 into a criminal family of criminals you're very unlikely to develop a conscience you're likely to become a psychopath so these are the major differences between conscience and empathy yes you could have a conscience and not have empathy actually
  11. 03:48 several studies have demonstrated that narcissists are capable of having a conscience and yet they're highly disempathic they're lacking they don't have emotional or effective empathy similarly you could have empathy but not a conscience you could definitely
  12. 04:06 identify with other people understand them fully put yourself in their shoes grasp rock and realize their state of mind and not have a conscience at all not be motivated to act in the right way psychopaths for example have a heightened level of empathy they're empaths
  13. 04:27 and at the same time they don't possess a conscience
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people often confuse empathy and conscience they are not the same thing they're absolutely not the same thing although one can lead to the other conscience has little to do with empathy conscience is inwardly directed conscience is about internal processes empathy is directed at other people in the absence of other people there's no empathy but in the absence of other people you could have a conscience conscience having a conscience is motivational because having a conscience involves guilt remorse reasoning moral judgment and conscience is actionable it leads you to act act in order to mitigate these feelings of guilt and remorse which are very dissonant so conscient having a conscience is a way to reduce anxiety having

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