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1. 00:01 there are many differences between narcissists and Psychopaths I advise you to head over directly to the comorbidities playlist on this channel and spot the videos which deal with these differences one difference of course is the narcissist uses narcissistic Supply to regulate his
2. 00:20 internal environment his moods his emotions his cognitions and so on the psychopath is in no need of external input the psychopath self-regulates another difference is that psychopaths are perfectly able to tell the difference between reality and fantasy
3. 00:36 they have intact reality testing they also able to tell the difference between external objects and internal objects both of which are denied to The Narcissist the narcissist is unable to tell the difference between reality and fantasy he’s fully invested emotionally
4. 00:53 he’s fully cathected in his own shared fantasy and believes it to be true and there are many other differences but today I’m going to discuss one crucial difference as as far as the victims are concerned the narcissist manipulates you very differently to the psychopath and
5. 01:11 this is the topic of today’s video my name is sakne I’m the author of malignant self- love narcissism Revisited and a professor of psychology so the psychopath and the narcissist are maavan in other words they manipulate people they manipulate people for different
6. 01:35 ends the only goal of the narcissist is narcissistic Supply narcissists of course Avail themselves of your sex of services that you can provide of your presence which instills in in them a sense of secure base or safety and so on so narcissist
7. 01:54 take a lot of things from you there’s no denying this but what they really need what they really aspire to what they really subsist on what they really consume and what they cannot exist without is narcissistic Supply the inflow of feedback and input
8. 02:13 from the environment that somehow butresses and upholds their inflated fantastic grandio self-concept self-image and self- perception this is the ultimate goal of the narcissist everything The Narcissist does and everything The Narcissist refrains from doing has to do with
9. 02:37 securing a regular undisturbed flow of narcissistic Supply the psychopath is a lot more varied the psychopath is goal oriented or goal focused the psychopath seeks money or sex or power or access or what have you so they’re both goal oriented but
10. 02:59 the narcissist is a lot more constricted a lot more rigid than the psychopath the psychopath’s reparatory is much wider and both of them manipulate you to obtain their goals but here’s here’s a major difference the psychopath distorts your perception of
11. 03:17 external Reality by manipulating your internal reality The Narcissist distort your perception of internal Reality by manipulating your external reality it’s as if the psychopath and the nesis were mirror images of each other when it comes to makavelian manipulation of people
12. 03:43 manipulativeness let me expand a bit on what I have said it sounds cryptic but it’s pretty straightforward actually the psychopath’s aim is to to distort your perception of external reality the psychopath gaslights you he wants you to distrust your own judgment of reality he wants
13. 04:08 you to feel disoriented dislocated he wants to induce in you dissociative defenses psychopath’s aim is to isolate you from the world to take you away from the universe from reality from your environment from your social mil and therefore and thereby
14. 04:30 exert total control over you which would allow the psychopath to obtain or to realize or to attain his or her goals most Psychopaths of men by the way and how does a psychopath achieve this how does he accomplish this um induced delusionality in the victim how does he
15. 04:50 divorce the victim from the victim’s grasp of reality from the victim’s ability to gauge and evaluate what’s true and what’s not what’s real and what’s unreal how does a psychopath accomplish this by manipulating your internal reality the psychopath pushes
16. 05:08 your buttons leverages your vulnerabilities penetrates your armor the psychopath brainwashes you in some ways whatever the case may be the psychopath uses internal psychological Dynamics in you uses chinks in your armor weaknesses shortcoming vulnerabilities in order to make you
17. 05:35 distrust your own senses to make you doubt and become suspicious of data emanating from the environment to make you question everything that’s happening to you and everyone around you rendering the psychopath the only stable presence in your life the only
18. 05:55 person you can trust the only rock you can LAN against the only shoulder you can cry on so let’s summarize this bit the psychopath manipulates your internal reality in order to distort your perception of external reality which is a great definition of
19. 06:17 gaslighting the narcissist does exactly the opposite the narcissist distorts your perception of your internal reality the narcissis entrains you The Narcissist installs an introject a representation of himself in your mind the narcissist talks to you from within
20. 06:39 your mind the narcissist takes over your mind you Outsource many functions to The Narcissist ego functions and so on and by through this hostile takeover through this merger Union Fusion through this symbiosis induced biosis The Narcissist regresses you infantilizes you renders
21. 07:05 you a helpless infant a helpless toddler a baby once again so narcissist work very hard on distorting your perception of who you are on destroying your core identity on negating your being in existence on taking away your agency personal autonomy and Independence
22. 07:31 having done this they proceed to manipulate your external reality now you’re defenseless now you’re weak Now You’re vulnerable now you’re broken and damaged and now you’re available to participate in the narcissist fantasy to lie to yourself that the fantasy is
23. 07:51 reality to become delusional when it comes to the narcissist and to his paracosm his alternative reality in short The Narcissist plays with your mind invades your mind takes over your mind in order to impair your reality testing to destroy your capacity to gauge and evaluate
24. 08:14 reality properly the outcome is sometimes perceived by the victims to be identical and yet the paths the trajectories that lead to the outcome are completely different the damage in the case of the narcissist is far more pervasive and extensive and
25. 08:35 sometimes lifelong it’s trauma the damage in the case of the psychopath is usually something external for example losing money or having coercive sex or
26. 08:50 um introducing the psychopath to uh to people or so the psychopath is focused on Surface outcomes on external consequences whereas the narcissist is laser focused on becoming you on taking over on subsuming and consuming you so that nothing much is Left
27. 09:14 Behind and I will reiterate what I said at the beginning in order to manipulate your internal reality in order to make you subservient and submissive and compliant the narc the py gaslights you he distorts your perception of external reality rendering you dependent on the
28. 09:38 psychopath what the narcissist does is exactly the opposite the narcissist um plays with your mind to start with and because he rearranges the furniture within your mind you lose touch with reality and again you become dependent on him as the only reality
29. 09:59 Tester the only Touchstone of reality the outcome is pretty identical the goals are different and the way to the outcomes um the ways to the outcome are different now this has massive implications when it comes to the treatment of the aftermath of narcissistic abuse versus
30. 10:25 Psychopathic abuse the case of Psychopathic abuse we are faced with the equivalent of PTSD post-traumatic effects it’s coming across a psychopath is the equivalent of having been uh in a natural disaster or an accident or a crash the exposure to The Narcissist has
31. 10:48 far reaching consequences much wider than the exposure to the psychopath The Narcissist has taken over who you are has denuded you of your identity and has become you is you you’re an extension of the of the narcissist you’re a figment of his imagination you’re participant in his
32. 11:09 script or play theater play or movie you are no longer it’s not that not only that you’re no longer you but you’re no longer and so in the aftermath in the wake of narcissistic abuse we need to reconstruct the victim from scratch basically and this is why I’m
33. 11:36 aass when people make a distinction between useful helpful admirable narcissist and all other narcissist you see victims of narcissist online castigating narcissist chastising them criticizing them attacking them hating on them and then admiring ing other
34. 12:01 narcissist who are powerful rich and
35. 12:07 accomplished so it seems like there are two classes of narcissist there’s The hrum Pedestrian narcissist and they are monsters and they’re evil and they are to be exted and they are to be obliterated and eliminated and incarcerated and then there’s a small
36. 12:25 Elite of narcissists these are the super rich narciss nist the super powerful narcissist the super accomplished narcissist or those narcissist who manage their public relations and and image so well that they become admired and adored gurus public intellectuals
37. 12:45 and so on and these narcissist for some reason are special they’re exempt they have the right to be grandio they have the right to abuse other people they’re accepted they’re perfectly okay they’re forgiven because of their alleged real contributions to
38. 13:02 society the grandiosity of these narcissist is not perceived as fantastic because it is grounded in real life achievements these real life achievements real or imagined by the way give them the right to abuse people they’re forgiven and this is really
39. 13:23 bad this attitude of discriminating between classes of narcissist is really bad as far as the victims go because it allows the narcissist access to the victim psyche and most of these accomplished Super Rich super powerful narcissist are actually malignant narcissist they’re
40. 13:48 Psychopaths as well as narcissist you have been warned