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1. 00:01 okay modeling interludes over we can move on to betrayal trauma the basic Assumption of betrayal trauma is that trauma is independent of the reaction to trauma betrayal trauma was was coined and described by Jennifer fright f-r-e-y-d I hope I’m pronouncing her name correctly Jennifer freed Maybe she introduces the terms betrayal trauma and betrayal trauma Theory long ago in 1991 she made a presentation at the Langley Porter psychiatric Institute it is absolutely to the distracted of the profession okay modeling interludes over we can move on to betrayal trauma the basic Assumption of betrayal trauma is that trauma is independent of the reaction to trauma betrayal trauma was was coined and described by Jennifer fright f-r-e-y-d I hope I’m pronouncing her name correctly Jennifer freed Maybe she introduces the terms betrayal trauma and betrayal trauma Theory long ago in 1991 she made a presentation at the Langley Porter psychiatric Institute it is absolutely to the distracted of the profession
2. 00:43 that betrayal trauma theory is not much more dominant than possibly the dominant theory of trauma it definitely guides me in my studies so Fred made this presentation it was titled memory repression dissociative States and other cognitive control processes involved in adults sequelier of childhood trauma and it was August 1991 and I want to quote from this talk that she gave she said I proposed that the core issue is betrayal a betrayal of trust that produces conflict between external reality and a necessary system of social that betrayal trauma theory is not much more dominant than possibly the dominant theory of trauma it definitely guides me in my studies so Fred made this presentation it was titled memory repression dissociative States and other cognitive control processes involved in adults sequelier of childhood trauma and it was August 1991 and I want to quote from this talk that she gave she said I proposed that the core issue is betrayal a betrayal of trust that produces conflict between external reality and a necessary system of social
3. 01:27 dependence of course a particular event may be simultaneously a betrayal trauma and life-threatening rape is such an event perhaps most childhood traumas are such events betrayal trauma Theory she says involved the psychic pain involved in detecting betrayal as in detecting a cheater is it’s an evolved adaptive motivator for changing social alliances in general it is not to our survival or reproductive advantage to go back for further interaction to those who have betrayed us however if the person who dependence of course a particular event may be simultaneously a betrayal trauma and life-threatening rape is such an event perhaps most childhood traumas are such events betrayal trauma Theory she says involved the psychic pain involved in detecting betrayal as in detecting a cheater is it’s an evolved adaptive motivator for changing social alliances in general it is not to our survival or reproductive advantage to go back for further interaction to those who have betrayed us however if the person who
4. 02:12 has betrayed us is someone we need to continue interacting with despite the Betrayal then it is not to our advantage to respond to the Betrayal in the normal way what you’re saying is we must distinguish two situations if we depend on the person if we can’t go no contact if we have to continue to be in touch with someone because we need him then we deny the trauma we deny the Betrayal because it’s not to our advantage to confront him we may lose him so for example a child with mother has betrayed us is someone we need to continue interacting with despite the Betrayal then it is not to our advantage to respond to the Betrayal in the normal way what you’re saying is we must distinguish two situations if we depend on the person if we can’t go no contact if we have to continue to be in touch with someone because we need him then we deny the trauma we deny the Betrayal because it’s not to our advantage to confront him we may lose him so for example a child with mother
5. 02:47 a child betrayed by an abusive distant dead emotionally unavailable selfish narcissistic instrumentalizing parentifying objectifying matter such a child cannot confront that mother he cannot get rid of that mother he cannot go no contact with that mother he cannot even think bad things about love because he needs mother for survival and that’s a perfect example of denying the trauma denying the Betrayal trauma and then if you are not dependent on the person you can just say goodbye you can just walk away but many people don’t a child betrayed by an abusive distant dead emotionally unavailable selfish narcissistic instrumentalizing parentifying objectifying matter such a child cannot confront that mother he cannot get rid of that mother he cannot go no contact with that mother he cannot even think bad things about love because he needs mother for survival and that’s a perfect example of denying the trauma denying the Betrayal trauma and then if you are not dependent on the person you can just say goodbye you can just walk away but many people don’t
6. 03:24 have this option okay instead she says we if we are dependent on the person if we can’t go no contact if we can just walk away instead we essentially need to ignore the Betrayal if the Betrayed person is a child and the betrayer is apparent it is especially essential that the child does not stop behaving in such a way that he will inspire attachment for the child to withdraw from a caregiver he is dependent on would further threaten the child’s life both physically and mentally thus the trauma of child abuse by the have this option okay instead she says we if we are dependent on the person if we can’t go no contact if we can just walk away instead we essentially need to ignore the Betrayal if the Betrayed person is a child and the betrayer is apparent it is especially essential that the child does not stop behaving in such a way that he will inspire attachment for the child to withdraw from a caregiver he is dependent on would further threaten the child’s life both physically and mentally thus the trauma of child abuse by the
7. 04:07 very nature of it requires that information about the abuse be blocked from mental mechanisms that control attachment and attachment Behavior one does not need to position any particular avoidance of psychic pain per se here instead what is of functional significance is the control of social behavior brilliant brilliant on multiple levels first of all she contextualized trauma within the realm of social interactions even Freud himself entered hinted to this when he said that the superior ego has very nature of it requires that information about the abuse be blocked from mental mechanisms that control attachment and attachment Behavior one does not need to position any particular avoidance of psychic pain per se here instead what is of functional significance is the control of social behavior brilliant brilliant on multiple levels first of all she contextualized trauma within the realm of social interactions even Freud himself entered hinted to this when he said that the superior ego has
8. 04:42 relational mechanisms mechanisms related to other people and of course in object relations Theory this already blossomed and flourished into a full-fledged tenet and foundational concept but what she did she recasts trauma as a social interaction and the second major contribution is to say that we cannot not it’s not always we can’t always acknowledge the trauma the Betrayal and controlled that Tormentor in our abuser because our circumstances where what we need to do in order to survive is to deny the relational mechanisms mechanisms related to other people and of course in object relations Theory this already blossomed and flourished into a full-fledged tenet and foundational concept but what she did she recasts trauma as a social interaction and the second major contribution is to say that we cannot not it’s not always we can’t always acknowledge the trauma the Betrayal and controlled that Tormentor in our abuser because our circumstances where what we need to do in order to survive is to deny the
9. 05:20 trauma to block the trauma so as to allow us to continue the attachment and the interaction with the abuser and so this concept of betrayal blindness betrayal blindness is the unawareness not knowing you remember from one of my previous videos the unthought norm thought known came up with this concept so betrayal blindness is the unawareness the not knowing they’re forgetting exhibited by people when they are betrayed it’s in in a way one of the ways betrayal blindness comes into being is dissociation trauma to block the trauma so as to allow us to continue the attachment and the interaction with the abuser and so this concept of betrayal blindness betrayal blindness is the unawareness not knowing you remember from one of my previous videos the unthought norm thought known came up with this concept so betrayal blindness is the unawareness the not knowing they’re forgetting exhibited by people when they are betrayed it’s in in a way one of the ways betrayal blindness comes into being is dissociation
10. 06:07 and so again Fred introduced the concept of betrayal blindness in 1996 and expanded on it in 1999 and then together with birelle b-i-r-r-r-e-l-l in 2013. they developed betrayal trauma Theory which I’m going to discuss in a few minutes and Incorporated it in there now such blindness we can we see it for example in adultery very often the spouse or the intimate partner they have all the proof all the evidence everything they need to realize that they are being cheated on and it’s very very traumatic and so again Fred introduced the concept of betrayal blindness in 1996 and expanded on it in 1999 and then together with birelle b-i-r-r-r-e-l-l in 2013. they developed betrayal trauma Theory which I’m going to discuss in a few minutes and Incorporated it in there now such blindness we can we see it for example in adultery very often the spouse or the intimate partner they have all the proof all the evidence everything they need to realize that they are being cheated on and it’s very very traumatic
11. 06:54 and yet they suppress they repress they deny they dissociate they forget they ignore they lie to themselves they refrain they confabulate just not to confirm the trauma same in the workplace where you can’t afford to lose your job and same in society victims perpetrators Witnesses they all display betrayal blindness in order to preserve relationships or institutions or social systems because they depend on on these there was a very important and interesting essay by Eileen zerbeigen why why do they have this have these and yet they suppress they repress they deny they dissociate they forget they ignore they lie to themselves they refrain they confabulate just not to confirm the trauma same in the workplace where you can’t afford to lose your job and same in society victims perpetrators Witnesses they all display betrayal blindness in order to preserve relationships or institutions or social systems because they depend on on these there was a very important and interesting essay by Eileen zerbeigen why why do they have this have these
12. 07:35 names I think they ended up in Psychology because they have these needs it’s very traumatizing sober again whatever so she wrote an essay betrayal trauma in the 2004 election and she used the theory to give a demonstration of something called institutional betrayal institutional betrayal is when the wrongdoing the abuse is perpetrated by an institution and it’s perpetrated on individuals that depend on the institution so a failure to prevent a catastrophe like a pandemic a response that supports wrongdoing names I think they ended up in Psychology because they have these needs it’s very traumatizing sober again whatever so she wrote an essay betrayal trauma in the 2004 election and she used the theory to give a demonstration of something called institutional betrayal institutional betrayal is when the wrongdoing the abuse is perpetrated by an institution and it’s perpetrated on individuals that depend on the institution so a failure to prevent a catastrophe like a pandemic a response that supports wrongdoing
13. 08:17 suppression of Rights abuse infringement encroachment coercion rings a bell in today’s circumstances or for example in sexual assault where the system actually pathologizes it re-traumatizes re-victimizes the rape victim not the rapist so these are all institutional forms of institutional betrayal and again institutional betrayal is a part of betrayal trauma Theory and I refer you to plot Barton and Freight 2009 Smith and trade 2011. several papers Medrano Martin and Freight 2011 and the core book is blind suppression of Rights abuse infringement encroachment coercion rings a bell in today’s circumstances or for example in sexual assault where the system actually pathologizes it re-traumatizes re-victimizes the rape victim not the rapist so these are all institutional forms of institutional betrayal and again institutional betrayal is a part of betrayal trauma Theory and I refer you to plot Barton and Freight 2009 Smith and trade 2011. several papers Medrano Martin and Freight 2011 and the core book is blind
14. 09:05 to betrayal blind to betrayal highly recommended trade and Beryl 2013. I want to quote a sentence from Freight she wrote in 2008 betrayal trauma occurs when the people or institutions on which a person Depends for survival significantly violate that person’s trust or well-being childhood physical emotional or sexual abuse perpetrated by a caregiver are examples of betrayal trauma and then we come to betrayal trauma Theory and the most the earliest paper that had dealt with is the best of my knowledge to betrayal blind to betrayal highly recommended trade and Beryl 2013. I want to quote a sentence from Freight she wrote in 2008 betrayal trauma occurs when the people or institutions on which a person Depends for survival significantly violate that person’s trust or well-being childhood physical emotional or sexual abuse perpetrated by a caregiver are examples of betrayal trauma and then we come to betrayal trauma Theory and the most the earliest paper that had dealt with is the best of my knowledge
15. 09:45 is a paper by sivers Schooler and Freight uh from 2002 and there they wrote that betrayal trauma theory is a theory that predicts that the degree to which a negative event represents a betrayal by a trusted needed other will influence the way in which that event is processed and remembered now that sounds simple but it’s absolutely one of the most revolutionary approaches to trauma and to the consequences as equality of trouble I’ll read it again more slowly this time pay attention betrayal trauma Theory is a theory that is a paper by sivers Schooler and Freight uh from 2002 and there they wrote that betrayal trauma theory is a theory that predicts that the degree to which a negative event represents a betrayal by a trusted needed other will influence the way in which that event is processed and remembered now that sounds simple but it’s absolutely one of the most revolutionary approaches to trauma and to the consequences as equality of trouble I’ll read it again more slowly this time pay attention betrayal trauma Theory is a theory that
16. 10:28 predicts that the degree to which a negative event represents a betrayal by a trust that needed other than degree will influence the way in which that event is processed and remembered the more you depend on someone the more your you you need someone financially for survival to raise the kids together whatever you you could be rendered homeless you could be rendered destitute you could lose your children you could use your job the more dependent you are on someone the less you will perceive that predicts that the degree to which a negative event represents a betrayal by a trust that needed other than degree will influence the way in which that event is processed and remembered the more you depend on someone the more your you you need someone financially for survival to raise the kids together whatever you you could be rendered homeless you could be rendered destitute you could lose your children you could use your job the more dependent you are on someone the less you will perceive that
17. 11:10 that person is abusing you tormenting you taunting you violating your boundaries and throughout the 1990s and in a seminal article published in 1994 in in the book in 1996 Freight together with others like the prince glees um expounded on it and so she gradually refined the concept of betrayal trauma it’s interested in the trauma perpetrated by someone with whom the victim is close to and Reliant upon for support and survival and so betrayal trauma Theory the first appearance of this phrase was that person is abusing you tormenting you taunting you violating your boundaries and throughout the 1990s and in a seminal article published in 1994 in in the book in 1996 Freight together with others like the prince glees um expounded on it and so she gradually refined the concept of betrayal trauma it’s interested in the trauma perpetrated by someone with whom the victim is close to and Reliant upon for support and survival and so betrayal trauma Theory the first appearance of this phrase was
18. 11:54 in in 1994 by of course Jennifer Frank it’s situations when people or institutions on which you rely you’re relying for protection you you trust for resources and survival these people violate your trust well-being break your boundaries and sometimes statistically in and egregiously betrayal is the core antecedent of many many mental health manifestations for example when you use betrayal Theory you have perfect explanation for dissociation you know because dissociation is intended to preserve the relationship in in 1994 by of course Jennifer Frank it’s situations when people or institutions on which you rely you’re relying for protection you you trust for resources and survival these people violate your trust well-being break your boundaries and sometimes statistically in and egregiously betrayal is the core antecedent of many many mental health manifestations for example when you use betrayal Theory you have perfect explanation for dissociation you know because dissociation is intended to preserve the relationship
19. 12:32 with a caregiver when you can’t go no contact and the child dependent on the caregiver for support will have a higher need to dissociate traumatic experience from conscious awareness in other words you can begin to regard the false self that the child creates as a form of dissociation it’s like a repository it’s like the child says okay I’m exposed to abuse I’m exposed to trauma by for example mother but I can’t I can’t be conscious of it because if I if I become conscious of with a caregiver when you can’t go no contact and the child dependent on the caregiver for support will have a higher need to dissociate traumatic experience from conscious awareness in other words you can begin to regard the false self that the child creates as a form of dissociation it’s like a repository it’s like the child says okay I’m exposed to abuse I’m exposed to trauma by for example mother but I can’t I can’t be conscious of it because if I if I become conscious of
20. 13:13 the abuse and the trauma if I develop negative emotions if I get hurt then I won’t be able to attach to Mommy I won’t be able to bond with Mommy and I won’t be able to receive from Mommy what I need in order to survive that’s a dangerous buff so exactly as Melanie Klein suggested the child splits but in a pathological dysfunctional family environment where the mother is a dead mother the child doesn’t split the mother into good in bed because it’s no good this only bed so the child cannot split the mother the abuse and the trauma if I develop negative emotions if I get hurt then I won’t be able to attach to Mommy I won’t be able to bond with Mommy and I won’t be able to receive from Mommy what I need in order to survive that’s a dangerous buff so exactly as Melanie Klein suggested the child splits but in a pathological dysfunctional family environment where the mother is a dead mother the child doesn’t split the mother into good in bed because it’s no good this only bed so the child cannot split the mother
21. 13:51 instead the child splits himself healthy normal children split mummy into bad mother good mother bad breast good breast that’s Melanie Klein children when they develop when they grow between the ages of six months and two years The Mummy sometimes is good sometimes it’s frustrating sometimes it’s there sometimes it’s absent so the child learns to separate these aspects into a good mother and a bad mother and but with enough and and later on by the way the child and Nexus appropriates instead the child splits himself healthy normal children split mummy into bad mother good mother bad breast good breast that’s Melanie Klein children when they develop when they grow between the ages of six months and two years The Mummy sometimes is good sometimes it’s frustrating sometimes it’s there sometimes it’s absent so the child learns to separate these aspects into a good mother and a bad mother and but with enough and and later on by the way the child and Nexus appropriates
22. 14:29 the bad aspects so that he can idealize other but it’s always it’s always clear that there is a unitary a unitary child and a kind of disjointed mother the the need to split mother is critically in development then did not the child who later develops into a narcissist made a wrong turn in Split instead of splitting the bed in good aspects of mother he splits his own his personality fractures and fragments in a dissociative process and that gives rise to the fourth set he cannot split mother into good and bad the bad aspects so that he can idealize other but it’s always it’s always clear that there is a unitary a unitary child and a kind of disjointed mother the the need to split mother is critically in development then did not the child who later develops into a narcissist made a wrong turn in Split instead of splitting the bed in good aspects of mother he splits his own his personality fractures and fragments in a dissociative process and that gives rise to the fourth set he cannot split mother into good and bad
23. 15:14 because it’s no good in mother so he’s pleased himself betrayal trauma Theory also integrates evolutionary processes mental moduli social cognitions developmental needs and even ethics because there’s a violation of trust is highly unethical there’s a question of foundations of morality we know and it’s common and accepted and Orthodox thinking that empathy underlies morality it’s not possible to be a moral being an ethical being without empathy so in such situations ethics the because it’s no good in mother so he’s pleased himself betrayal trauma Theory also integrates evolutionary processes mental moduli social cognitions developmental needs and even ethics because there’s a violation of trust is highly unethical there’s a question of foundations of morality we know and it’s common and accepted and Orthodox thinking that empathy underlies morality it’s not possible to be a moral being an ethical being without empathy so in such situations ethics the
24. 15:52 development of morality is is challenged all people from a very early age to react to Injustice we have two years old reacting to Injustice in numerous studies so we realize when there’s a violation of the social contract we realize when our trust is betrayed we realize when our boundaries are breached there are cheat detectors and so they in the context of abusive relationships you want to escape that’s your first your first urge your reflex is to run away you know flight fight Etc you touch you touch a hot plate you development of morality is is challenged all people from a very early age to react to Injustice we have two years old reacting to Injustice in numerous studies so we realize when there’s a violation of the social contract we realize when our trust is betrayed we realize when our boundaries are breached there are cheat detectors and so they in the context of abusive relationships you want to escape that’s your first your first urge your reflex is to run away you know flight fight Etc you touch you touch a hot plate you
25. 16:34 withdraw your head withdrawal avoidance the flight response is fundamental second most fundamental is the fight response then there is the freeze response and finally the phone response but in in abuse and Trauma initially in healthy situations it’s like but what do you do if if Escape is not a viable option if your cheater detecting mechanism leads you to to want to avoid and want to escape and want to flee from a person upon whom your your survival depends they can’t you can’t you can’t go away withdraw your head withdrawal avoidance the flight response is fundamental second most fundamental is the fight response then there is the freeze response and finally the phone response but in in abuse and Trauma initially in healthy situations it’s like but what do you do if if Escape is not a viable option if your cheater detecting mechanism leads you to to want to avoid and want to escape and want to flee from a person upon whom your your survival depends they can’t you can’t you can’t go away
26. 17:17 you will die so what you do you suppress your cheetah detecting mechanism for the higher goal of survival it’s psychogenic Amnesia it’s designed to to perpetuate attachment by blocking painful experiences and we have this in in romantic betrayal early literature pre-pre-freed yeah everyone was talking about betrayal of an unspoken agreement like betrayal of trust there was an unspoken agreement and it was breached and this is the source of the of the pain but betrayal trauma Theory suggests that all you will die so what you do you suppress your cheetah detecting mechanism for the higher goal of survival it’s psychogenic Amnesia it’s designed to to perpetuate attachment by blocking painful experiences and we have this in in romantic betrayal early literature pre-pre-freed yeah everyone was talking about betrayal of an unspoken agreement like betrayal of trust there was an unspoken agreement and it was breached and this is the source of the of the pain but betrayal trauma Theory suggests that all
27. 18:01 these manifest all these behaviors like domestic violence cheating and so on they involve a betrayal of of trust but when the victim has no viable exit strategy or option when the victim remains or returns to the abuser does not report the abuse under reports the severity of the abuse experiences shame and anxiety which are also mechanisms mental mechanisms intended to downplay what’s happening or to repress to deny what’s happening all these this is an attachment injury and it’s a component that is critical in these manifest all these behaviors like domestic violence cheating and so on they involve a betrayal of of trust but when the victim has no viable exit strategy or option when the victim remains or returns to the abuser does not report the abuse under reports the severity of the abuse experiences shame and anxiety which are also mechanisms mental mechanisms intended to downplay what’s happening or to repress to deny what’s happening all these this is an attachment injury and it’s a component that is critical in
28. 18:45 betrayal trauma Theory it’s not only in a betrayal of trust like in the classic literature it’s a betrayal of trust in a time of need Independence in this combination is what is what destroys erodes and corrodes the victim that the the victim had been betrayed at its most vulnerable moment at her most vulnerable moment she dependent she depended on her abuser she believed her abuser she relegated functions to her abusers sometimes ego functions internal functions and then the Betrayal betrayal alone is bad betrayal trauma Theory it’s not only in a betrayal of trust like in the classic literature it’s a betrayal of trust in a time of need Independence in this combination is what is what destroys erodes and corrodes the victim that the the victim had been betrayed at its most vulnerable moment at her most vulnerable moment she dependent she depended on her abuser she believed her abuser she relegated functions to her abusers sometimes ego functions internal functions and then the Betrayal betrayal alone is bad
29. 19:32 but betrayal We Trust betrayal with need betrayal with survival betray death that’s horrible and in the context of intimate partner violence vulnerability fear relationship relationship expectations shame low self-esteem communication issues these are all outcomes of the exposure to betrayal trauma and their barriers not only to escape but also barriers to um forming new relationships you see ironically if you the if you cheat if you cheat on an abusive partner it’s a sign of Health it’s a sign of partial Health let’s be but betrayal We Trust betrayal with need betrayal with survival betray death that’s horrible and in the context of intimate partner violence vulnerability fear relationship relationship expectations shame low self-esteem communication issues these are all outcomes of the exposure to betrayal trauma and their barriers not only to escape but also barriers to um forming new relationships you see ironically if you the if you cheat if you cheat on an abusive partner it’s a sign of Health it’s a sign of partial Health let’s be
30. 20:20 precise because at least you are taking care of yourself at least you’re trying to solve your wounds you’re trying to self-administer some medication it’s a dysfunctional solution there are much better Solutions no contact is the best solution gray rock second best solution but cheating is a solution that indicates partial health what is not healthy is to deny to minimize to under-report to reframe to lie to yourself about the abuse the trauma and the torture that you’re experiencing I want to introduce precise because at least you are taking care of yourself at least you’re trying to solve your wounds you’re trying to self-administer some medication it’s a dysfunctional solution there are much better Solutions no contact is the best solution gray rock second best solution but cheating is a solution that indicates partial health what is not healthy is to deny to minimize to under-report to reframe to lie to yourself about the abuse the trauma and the torture that you’re experiencing I want to introduce
31. 20:58 you another concept and it’s a concept of assumptive assumptive world in 1992 Jennifer b-o-l-m-a-n she I mean identified he identified three assumptions one the world is benevolent two the world is Meaningful three the world is worthwhile is Worthy these three highly optimistic I call them malignantly optimistic assumptions put together create what he called the assumptive world the assumptive world is the core belief system individuals perceive the world as essentially good secure and fair you another concept and it’s a concept of assumptive assumptive world in 1992 Jennifer b-o-l-m-a-n she I mean identified he identified three assumptions one the world is benevolent two the world is Meaningful three the world is worthwhile is Worthy these three highly optimistic I call them malignantly optimistic assumptions put together create what he called the assumptive world the assumptive world is the core belief system individuals perceive the world as essentially good secure and fair
32. 21:48 and these assumptions are shattered by distorted social behavior anti-social Behavior even a social behavior when social behavior becomes anomic seek pathologized then this worldview is is at risk it’s threatened maybe the world is not benevolent maybe it’s not meaningful and maybe it’s not worthwhile and so I’ll commit suicide in the context of betrayal trauma Theory when caregivers or intimate Partners in close relationships when they violate you they destroy your assumptive world and these assumptions are shattered by distorted social behavior anti-social Behavior even a social behavior when social behavior becomes anomic seek pathologized then this worldview is is at risk it’s threatened maybe the world is not benevolent maybe it’s not meaningful and maybe it’s not worthwhile and so I’ll commit suicide in the context of betrayal trauma Theory when caregivers or intimate Partners in close relationships when they violate you they destroy your assumptive world
33. 22:37 and and they impair your ability to reconstitute the assumptive word because if you’re burned once badly it’s difficult after that to be naive pathologically naive malignantly optimistic it’s difficult to trust really to trust the game and so they damage you for life watch my previous video about self-stalking the damage you for life and they contribute to avoidance not only of the trauma experience which which is betraying yourself but avoidance of future possibilities to remedy the damage and and they impair your ability to reconstitute the assumptive word because if you’re burned once badly it’s difficult after that to be naive pathologically naive malignantly optimistic it’s difficult to trust really to trust the game and so they damage you for life watch my previous video about self-stalking the damage you for life and they contribute to avoidance not only of the trauma experience which which is betraying yourself but avoidance of future possibilities to remedy the damage
34. 23:16 and this this is a part of post-traumatic stress disorder or complex post-traumatic stress disorder an individual who may experience little or not conscious awareness of their trauma still develop PTSD or cptsd it shows you that Consciousness awareness and not everything if the trauma does not have conscious knowledge the effects of the abuse still manifest physically via somatization or psychological symptoms such as dissociation watch my video presentation to the conference about signs of narcissistic and this this is a part of post-traumatic stress disorder or complex post-traumatic stress disorder an individual who may experience little or not conscious awareness of their trauma still develop PTSD or cptsd it shows you that Consciousness awareness and not everything if the trauma does not have conscious knowledge the effects of the abuse still manifest physically via somatization or psychological symptoms such as dissociation watch my video presentation to the conference about signs of narcissistic
35. 23:56 abuse many found that dissociation can be a predictor of the of developing PTSD after a trauma so dissociation proceeds actually trauma it’s not true that people who have PTSD or cptsd are conscious that’s one of the reasons that I keep railing railing against the over diagnosing and and self-attribution of cptsd every victim in his dog has CPT that’s not true PTSD and cptsd are very often preceded by a denial of the abuse denial of what is happening repression forgetting dissociation abuse many found that dissociation can be a predictor of the of developing PTSD after a trauma so dissociation proceeds actually trauma it’s not true that people who have PTSD or cptsd are conscious that’s one of the reasons that I keep railing railing against the over diagnosing and and self-attribution of cptsd every victim in his dog has CPT that’s not true PTSD and cptsd are very often preceded by a denial of the abuse denial of what is happening repression forgetting dissociation
36. 24:40 that’s why the body is reacting in the mind is rebelling against this lie this confabulation the body is telling you hey wake up you’ve been traumatized then your mind is telling you listen I’m in trouble I’ve been badly damaged stop invalidating me stop denying what had happened face up to it dissociative identity disorder is at the end of this spectrum because some trauma victims deploy a protective response such as dissociation or repression to block awareness to the of the trauma to that’s why the body is reacting in the mind is rebelling against this lie this confabulation the body is telling you hey wake up you’ve been traumatized then your mind is telling you listen I’m in trouble I’ve been badly damaged stop invalidating me stop denying what had happened face up to it dissociative identity disorder is at the end of this spectrum because some trauma victims deploy a protective response such as dissociation or repression to block awareness to the of the trauma to
37. 25:16 the end to to the extreme for example in childhood sexual abuse some interpersonal injuries they they create dissociative reaction that is so bad that it leads to dissociative identity disorder previously called multiple personality disorder and it’s connected intimately with overwhelming talk and or with with a very very long exposure to complex trauma this trauma can create identity diffusion or identity disruption or disturbance your very identity is challenged by the trauma and the abuse partly because you the end to to the extreme for example in childhood sexual abuse some interpersonal injuries they they create dissociative reaction that is so bad that it leads to dissociative identity disorder previously called multiple personality disorder and it’s connected intimately with overwhelming talk and or with with a very very long exposure to complex trauma this trauma can create identity diffusion or identity disruption or disturbance your very identity is challenged by the trauma and the abuse partly because you
38. 25:58 are denied it’s like you’re internalizing energy bad energy Freud use this metaphor he said that unconscious content has energy and this energy is like a volcano like like tectonic energy along fault lines and this energy finally flares up erupts and fractures you then this is multiple personality dissociative identity and in borderline borderline Border Lines are on the verge of this they’re like on the edge that’s why they’re called Border Lines they’re on the border between neurosis and psychosis are denied it’s like you’re internalizing energy bad energy Freud use this metaphor he said that unconscious content has energy and this energy is like a volcano like like tectonic energy along fault lines and this energy finally flares up erupts and fractures you then this is multiple personality dissociative identity and in borderline borderline Border Lines are on the verge of this they’re like on the edge that’s why they’re called Border Lines they’re on the border between neurosis and psychosis
39. 26:38 they are so dysregulated and they lack narcissistic defenses for example they for example they do have access to their negative and positive emotions and they have empathy so bodilates don’t have defenses and whenever they experience hurt and humiliation and rejection or even anticipated they fracture they’re at high risk of a psychotic episode or suicide 10 of people diagnosed with borderline personality disorder end up committing suicide and about 30 to 40 self-mutility and self-harm so they are so dysregulated and they lack narcissistic defenses for example they for example they do have access to their negative and positive emotions and they have empathy so bodilates don’t have defenses and whenever they experience hurt and humiliation and rejection or even anticipated they fracture they’re at high risk of a psychotic episode or suicide 10 of people diagnosed with borderline personality disorder end up committing suicide and about 30 to 40 self-mutility and self-harm so
40. 27:16 distinct personalities sometimes are the only solution remember the splitting that I told you before this multiple personality when the child is faced with overwhelming inexorable uncontrollable abuse and Trauma the child fractures breaks apart splits in the fullest sense of the world the false self is another personality the true self is another personality what is this if not multiple personality the narcissist is dissociative identity disorder it’s a private case of did he has two personalities with distinct distinct personalities sometimes are the only solution remember the splitting that I told you before this multiple personality when the child is faced with overwhelming inexorable uncontrollable abuse and Trauma the child fractures breaks apart splits in the fullest sense of the world the false self is another personality the true self is another personality what is this if not multiple personality the narcissist is dissociative identity disorder it’s a private case of did he has two personalities with distinct
41. 27:52 perception cognition sense of self agency I mean they are so disparate the true self and the false will the person may experience the person with such a conditional experiences gaps in the recall of everyday events or traumatic events same with the narcissists narcissists try to bridge these gaps by confabulating and so they are perceived to be Liars few losses lie actually they don’t need to their whole life is a Lie the false self is false it’s all a fantasy it’s all a confabulation there’s perception cognition sense of self agency I mean they are so disparate the true self and the false will the person may experience the person with such a conditional experiences gaps in the recall of everyday events or traumatic events same with the narcissists narcissists try to bridge these gaps by confabulating and so they are perceived to be Liars few losses lie actually they don’t need to their whole life is a Lie the false self is false it’s all a fantasy it’s all a confabulation there’s
42. 28:24 not a shred of Truth in any of it the least of all in what the narcissist knows about himself and the continuity of his life the narcissist is discontinuous and of course narcissists trying like everyone else try to somehow self-soothe and self-medicate with alcohol with drugs with women with with something with what work work all this addictive behaviors interpersonal trauma such as betrayal trauma is intimately connected to addictive behaviors especially substance abuse so childhood physical and sexual abuse not a shred of Truth in any of it the least of all in what the narcissist knows about himself and the continuity of his life the narcissist is discontinuous and of course narcissists trying like everyone else try to somehow self-soothe and self-medicate with alcohol with drugs with women with with something with what work work all this addictive behaviors interpersonal trauma such as betrayal trauma is intimately connected to addictive behaviors especially substance abuse so childhood physical and sexual abuse
43. 29:02 increases the risk for substance abuse and betrayal trauma and also shifts the locus of control from internal to external once you’re traumatized and abusing especially if you can’t you’re not allowed to have a voice especially if you’re terrified to verbalize to actualize to manifest your pain and your hurt especially if you suppress the rants at the beginning of each video especially then um you would you would tend tend to feel that you are no longer in control of your life that the control over your increases the risk for substance abuse and betrayal trauma and also shifts the locus of control from internal to external once you’re traumatized and abusing especially if you can’t you’re not allowed to have a voice especially if you’re terrified to verbalize to actualize to manifest your pain and your hurt especially if you suppress the rants at the beginning of each video especially then um you would you would tend tend to feel that you are no longer in control of your life that the control over your
44. 29:44 life your inner life and your life generally your biography has shifted from the inside to the outside starting with your abuser your abuser is in control is it the driver’s seat intermittent reinforcement he decides what day is good what days make sometimes what moment is good what moment is bad so handing over the control to alcohol or to drugs is a natural extension when you talk to alcoholics they tell you they drink made me do it the drug made me do it I mean they they refer to the drink or the drug like for life your inner life and your life generally your biography has shifted from the inside to the outside starting with your abuser your abuser is in control is it the driver’s seat intermittent reinforcement he decides what day is good what days make sometimes what moment is good what moment is bad so handing over the control to alcohol or to drugs is a natural extension when you talk to alcoholics they tell you they drink made me do it the drug made me do it I mean they they refer to the drink or the drug like for
45. 30:21 like a kind of abuser it’s a way to cope with post-traumatic negative effect traits such as avoidance tension reduction self-medication and now we come to personality disorder and and disorders and most particularly to borderline personality disorder borderline personality disorder his their numerous studies which show that it has links to early maltreatment and attachment difficulties in early childhood the mild treatment is emotional physical verbal well very frequently sexual abuse but by like a kind of abuser it’s a way to cope with post-traumatic negative effect traits such as avoidance tension reduction self-medication and now we come to personality disorder and and disorders and most particularly to borderline personality disorder borderline personality disorder his their numerous studies which show that it has links to early maltreatment and attachment difficulties in early childhood the mild treatment is emotional physical verbal well very frequently sexual abuse but by
46. 30:56 caregivers by people in whom the child plays trust to perpetuate and maintain this its survival betrayal trauma Theory incorporates a attachment this disruptions attachment dysfunctions and damage from caregiver it’s part of the of the definition and it is the only marriage I’m aware of between attachment Theory and abuse Theory it includes dissociation as a diagnostic Criterion of borderline personality disorder and some people say that betrayal trauma Theory explains the dissociation that borderlines experience caregivers by people in whom the child plays trust to perpetuate and maintain this its survival betrayal trauma Theory incorporates a attachment this disruptions attachment dysfunctions and damage from caregiver it’s part of the of the definition and it is the only marriage I’m aware of between attachment Theory and abuse Theory it includes dissociation as a diagnostic Criterion of borderline personality disorder and some people say that betrayal trauma Theory explains the dissociation that borderlines experience
47. 31:40 because dissociation is a defense mechanism against childhood trauma High betrayal traumas have been implicated in the development of Trace indicative or borderline personality disorder and it goes further and further it’s very deep betrayal trauma theory is very deep it explains hyperreflection in the schizophrenia spectrum and other psychotic disorders it explains hallucinations so they they tend to suggest that childhood abuses intimately linked to hallucinic hallucinations um when you reduce betrayal trauma via talk because dissociation is a defense mechanism against childhood trauma High betrayal traumas have been implicated in the development of Trace indicative or borderline personality disorder and it goes further and further it’s very deep betrayal trauma theory is very deep it explains hyperreflection in the schizophrenia spectrum and other psychotic disorders it explains hallucinations so they they tend to suggest that childhood abuses intimately linked to hallucinic hallucinations um when you reduce betrayal trauma via talk
48. 32:17 therapy hallucinations disappear there’s no need for for medication it’s it’s an amazing Theory which I really advise you to to go more deeply into they seem to be intergenerational effects individual levels of dissociation are correlated with betrayal trauma experienced by the individual but also with the Betrayal trauma experienced by the mother of the individual so it seems that the mother is handing her betrayal trauma If the child becomes the repository of her betrayal draw her therapy hallucinations disappear there’s no need for for medication it’s it’s an amazing Theory which I really advise you to to go more deeply into they seem to be intergenerational effects individual levels of dissociation are correlated with betrayal trauma experienced by the individual but also with the Betrayal trauma experienced by the mother of the individual so it seems that the mother is handing her betrayal trauma If the child becomes the repository of her betrayal draw her
49. 32:52 pain her hurt she offloads it to the child it’s um it’s perhaps that mothers would betrayal trauma or dissociative symptoms maybe they have more difficulty in creating a safe environment for the children maybe they are pretty supposed to becoming Dead Mothers they can’t become safe a safe base so let’s summarize this part of the video betrayal trauma says that there is a social utility in remaining unaware of trauma when the perpetrator is a caregiver and it’s based on the study of social pain her hurt she offloads it to the child it’s um it’s perhaps that mothers would betrayal trauma or dissociative symptoms maybe they have more difficulty in creating a safe environment for the children maybe they are pretty supposed to becoming Dead Mothers they can’t become safe a safe base so let’s summarize this part of the video betrayal trauma says that there is a social utility in remaining unaware of trauma when the perpetrator is a caregiver and it’s based on the study of social
50. 33:27 contracts it explains why and how humans are excellent at detecting the trail and that under some circumstances detecting betrayal maybe counter counterproductive to survival and there are cases where the victim is dependent on the caregiver and so Survivor may require that she remains unaware of the Betrayal or even denies it and so there are examples of childhood sexual abuse and childhood psychological abuse to substantiate this the traditional assumption in trauma research has been that fear is the core contracts it explains why and how humans are excellent at detecting the trail and that under some circumstances detecting betrayal maybe counter counterproductive to survival and there are cases where the victim is dependent on the caregiver and so Survivor may require that she remains unaware of the Betrayal or even denies it and so there are examples of childhood sexual abuse and childhood psychological abuse to substantiate this the traditional assumption in trauma research has been that fear is the core
51. 34:05 of the response to trauma afraid changed it and it is not not to the Merit or the credit of my profession that the revolution that she had introduced did not go further afraid as early as 20 years ago in 2001 noted that traumatic events differ in degree of fear of betrayal depending on the context and characteristics of the event research suggests that the distinction between fear and betrayal is very important to the post-traumatic outcomes the prince in the same year 2001 found that self-reported betrayal predicted of the response to trauma afraid changed it and it is not not to the Merit or the credit of my profession that the revolution that she had introduced did not go further afraid as early as 20 years ago in 2001 noted that traumatic events differ in degree of fear of betrayal depending on the context and characteristics of the event research suggests that the distinction between fear and betrayal is very important to the post-traumatic outcomes the prince in the same year 2001 found that self-reported betrayal predicted
52. 34:48 PTSD and dissociative symptoms much more than self-reported fear so it seems that the critical element is not a fear is the the violation of trust it’s a betrayal and there are numerous other studies that that have confirmed this that betrayal is that the psychologically toxic substance that creates dissociation that leads to post-traumatic conditions including PTSD I refer you to Kelly to weathers to Mason to porno as late as 2012. and um I also encourage you to go online and have a look at trades two-dimensional PTSD and dissociative symptoms much more than self-reported fear so it seems that the critical element is not a fear is the the violation of trust it’s a betrayal and there are numerous other studies that that have confirmed this that betrayal is that the psychologically toxic substance that creates dissociation that leads to post-traumatic conditions including PTSD I refer you to Kelly to weathers to Mason to porno as late as 2012. and um I also encourage you to go online and have a look at trades two-dimensional
53. 35:33 model for traumatic events it places everything neatly everywhere now a few frequently asked questions one is it necessary for the victim to be conscious of the Betrayal in order to call it betrayal trauma the answer is no I will quote from The Prince and trade it’s an article they published in 2002. the role of betrayal in betrayal trauma theory was initially considered an implicit But Central aspect of some situations if a child is being mistreated by a caregiver he or she is dependent upon this is by definition model for traumatic events it places everything neatly everywhere now a few frequently asked questions one is it necessary for the victim to be conscious of the Betrayal in order to call it betrayal trauma the answer is no I will quote from The Prince and trade it’s an article they published in 2002. the role of betrayal in betrayal trauma theory was initially considered an implicit But Central aspect of some situations if a child is being mistreated by a caregiver he or she is dependent upon this is by definition
54. 36:09 betrayal whether the child recognizes the Betrayal explicitly or not indeed the memory impairment and gaps in Awareness that betrayal trauma Theory predicted were assumed to serve in part to ward off conscious awareness of mistreatment in order to promote the dependent child’s survival goals while conscious appraisers of betrayal may be inhibited at the time of trauma and for as long as the trauma victim is dependent on the perpetrator eventually the trauma Survivor may become conscious of strong feelings of betrayal of course betrayal whether the child recognizes the Betrayal explicitly or not indeed the memory impairment and gaps in Awareness that betrayal trauma Theory predicted were assumed to serve in part to ward off conscious awareness of mistreatment in order to promote the dependent child’s survival goals while conscious appraisers of betrayal may be inhibited at the time of trauma and for as long as the trauma victim is dependent on the perpetrator eventually the trauma Survivor may become conscious of strong feelings of betrayal of course
55. 36:44 we we still have to study in depth the emotional perception of betrayal how betrayal is experienced the distress the subjective experience of distress and what’s the connection to recovery how does it prognosticate recovery and brown entry started to do this work in 2008 but it’s far from complete next question is gender a factor do men or women experience trauma betrayal betrayal trauma more often it seems that men experience not betrayal traumas um more than women women experience betrayal traumas more than men this goes we we still have to study in depth the emotional perception of betrayal how betrayal is experienced the distress the subjective experience of distress and what’s the connection to recovery how does it prognosticate recovery and brown entry started to do this work in 2008 but it’s far from complete next question is gender a factor do men or women experience trauma betrayal betrayal trauma more often it seems that men experience not betrayal traumas um more than women women experience betrayal traumas more than men this goes
56. 37:25 well with other discoveries that women attach more deeply and differently they’re more empathy and so on I am not sure how valid this is nowadays it’s the number of narcissistic women today equals the number of narcissistic men and many women have begun to develop Psychopathic features Psychopathic behaviors and traits many women especially and and also post traumatized women women who had gone through cpusd are indistinguishable from borderlines and so I don’t know how this how valid well with other discoveries that women attach more deeply and differently they’re more empathy and so on I am not sure how valid this is nowadays it’s the number of narcissistic women today equals the number of narcissistic men and many women have begun to develop Psychopathic features Psychopathic behaviors and traits many women especially and and also post traumatized women women who had gone through cpusd are indistinguishable from borderlines and so I don’t know how this how valid
57. 38:00 this is this is here but Goldberg infrade um in a series of articles in 2004 2006 said that men experience betrayal trauma less and the impacts of betrayal trauma on men and women according to the prince are also different men have impact is less significant with women um these gender differences probably have to do with socialization some factors of socialization even acculturation because gender roles as you recall from my previous videos gender roles are learned they’re not real they’re not this is this is here but Goldberg infrade um in a series of articles in 2004 2006 said that men experience betrayal trauma less and the impacts of betrayal trauma on men and women according to the prince are also different men have impact is less significant with women um these gender differences probably have to do with socialization some factors of socialization even acculturation because gender roles as you recall from my previous videos gender roles are learned they’re not real they’re not
58. 38:44 embedded in biology 99 of gender role is learned it’s it’s mediated and communicated via socialization agents like mother and later father so we learned these roles and we can by the way unlearn these role or the learning process can be disrupted and then we end up being gender undifferentiated very confused about how to be a man how to be a woman how to be me a b you know Middle Ground so it seems that socialization factors also affect how one experiences betrayal and Trauma and so now there’s a question embedded in biology 99 of gender role is learned it’s it’s mediated and communicated via socialization agents like mother and later father so we learned these roles and we can by the way unlearn these role or the learning process can be disrupted and then we end up being gender undifferentiated very confused about how to be a man how to be a woman how to be me a b you know Middle Ground so it seems that socialization factors also affect how one experiences betrayal and Trauma and so now there’s a question
59. 39:24 about how is betrayal trauma related to um the Stockholm syndrome and I want to quote from a website dedicated to Freight’s work Stockholm syndrome named for a 1973 Bank hostage situation in Sweden refers to what seems at first a paradoxical reaction to being held hostage this reaction involves positive feelings towards the captors the kidnappers the hostage takers Stockholm syndrome is a term applied to this special case of those feelings developing after a hostage takeover as when an individual or group is kidnapped about how is betrayal trauma related to um the Stockholm syndrome and I want to quote from a website dedicated to Freight’s work Stockholm syndrome named for a 1973 Bank hostage situation in Sweden refers to what seems at first a paradoxical reaction to being held hostage this reaction involves positive feelings towards the captors the kidnappers the hostage takers Stockholm syndrome is a term applied to this special case of those feelings developing after a hostage takeover as when an individual or group is kidnapped
60. 40:02 and held for ransom from a theoretical perspective Stockholm syndrome reaction may possibly be understood as a special kind of betrayal trauma the unusual aspect of Stockholm syndrome compared with most betrayal trauma situations is the strong emotional attachment occurs after the abduction and without the pre-existing context of an enduring caretaker or trusting relationship it is usually considered that for Stockholm syndrome to occur the capitals the hostage takers must show a certain amount of kindness and held for ransom from a theoretical perspective Stockholm syndrome reaction may possibly be understood as a special kind of betrayal trauma the unusual aspect of Stockholm syndrome compared with most betrayal trauma situations is the strong emotional attachment occurs after the abduction and without the pre-existing context of an enduring caretaker or trusting relationship it is usually considered that for Stockholm syndrome to occur the capitals the hostage takers must show a certain amount of kindness
61. 40:37 or at least a lack of Cruelty towards the hostages from a betrayal trauma perspective the most important elements of predicting Stockholm syndrome would not be kindness per se but rather caretaking behavior on the part of the captors and in precede or explicit belief on the part of the victims that survival depends upon the hostage takers and so the victims would have to experience the captors the hottest takers is a source of caretaking and is necessary for survival in order to develop the emotional attachment or at least a lack of Cruelty towards the hostages from a betrayal trauma perspective the most important elements of predicting Stockholm syndrome would not be kindness per se but rather caretaking behavior on the part of the captors and in precede or explicit belief on the part of the victims that survival depends upon the hostage takers and so the victims would have to experience the captors the hottest takers is a source of caretaking and is necessary for survival in order to develop the emotional attachment
62. 41:12 necessary to create a betrayal trauma once the captors are experienced as necessary caretakers a process much like that in infancy could occur such that the victims have a good reason for attaching to the hostage takers and thus eliciting caretaking behaviors at that point at that point a certain amount of reality Distortion might be beneficial to the victims such that seeing the Capitals in a positive light might support an Adaptive response to the victim’s predicament these theoretical possibility leads to an empirical necessary to create a betrayal trauma once the captors are experienced as necessary caretakers a process much like that in infancy could occur such that the victims have a good reason for attaching to the hostage takers and thus eliciting caretaking behaviors at that point at that point a certain amount of reality Distortion might be beneficial to the victims such that seeing the Capitals in a positive light might support an Adaptive response to the victim’s predicament these theoretical possibility leads to an empirical
63. 41:50 prediction that remains to be tested anecdotal support for the premise that features of dependence and survival are at the heart of the development of Stockholm syndrome can be found in an FBI online article about the Stockholm syndrome and I’m quoting from that article by the FBI in cases where Stockholm Syndrome has occurred the captive is in a situation where the capital has tripped nearly all forms of Independence and gained control of the victim’s life as well as basic needs for survival prediction that remains to be tested anecdotal support for the premise that features of dependence and survival are at the heart of the development of Stockholm syndrome can be found in an FBI online article about the Stockholm syndrome and I’m quoting from that article by the FBI in cases where Stockholm Syndrome has occurred the captive is in a situation where the capital has tripped nearly all forms of Independence and gained control of the victim’s life as well as basic needs for survival
64. 42:22 some experts say that the hostage regresses to perhaps a state of infancy the captive must cry for food remains silent and exist in an extreme state of dependence like a baby in contrast the perpetrator serves as a mother figure protecting her child from threatening outside world including law enforcement’s deadly weapons the victim then begins to struggle for survival both relying on and identifying with the capital I also refer you to an article by fabric romano veki and Van hasselt a 2007 article which elaborates upon it a some experts say that the hostage regresses to perhaps a state of infancy the captive must cry for food remains silent and exist in an extreme state of dependence like a baby in contrast the perpetrator serves as a mother figure protecting her child from threatening outside world including law enforcement’s deadly weapons the victim then begins to struggle for survival both relying on and identifying with the capital I also refer you to an article by fabric romano veki and Van hasselt a 2007 article which elaborates upon it a
65. 43:05 lot it is important to note I’m continuing from the website it is important to note that Stockholm syndrome is rare whereas betrayal trauma events and reactions are unfortunately fairly common nonetheless Stockholm syndrome might prove to be a useful extreme boundary condition for investigation of betrayal trauma Theory while at the same time betrayal trauma Theory might provide useful insight into behavior of hostages that is otherwise considered paradoxical I would add to this that trauma bonding is a middle case lot it is important to note I’m continuing from the website it is important to note that Stockholm syndrome is rare whereas betrayal trauma events and reactions are unfortunately fairly common nonetheless Stockholm syndrome might prove to be a useful extreme boundary condition for investigation of betrayal trauma Theory while at the same time betrayal trauma Theory might provide useful insight into behavior of hostages that is otherwise considered paradoxical I would add to this that trauma bonding is a middle case
66. 43:37 like in the extreme when you’re really taking by kidnappers with gums you might develop Stockholm syndrome but when you are kept hostage because you are dependent on an abuser an egregious abuser even just a verbal abuser physical abuser psychological abuser sexual abuser when you’re dependent when you can’t walk away when you can’t go no contact for a variety of reasons there’s a middle ground and that’s trauma bonding it also incorporates betrayal trauma because in trouble bonding you’re like in the extreme when you’re really taking by kidnappers with gums you might develop Stockholm syndrome but when you are kept hostage because you are dependent on an abuser an egregious abuser even just a verbal abuser physical abuser psychological abuser sexual abuser when you’re dependent when you can’t walk away when you can’t go no contact for a variety of reasons there’s a middle ground and that’s trauma bonding it also incorporates betrayal trauma because in trouble bonding you’re
67. 44:12 denying the negative aspects of abuse torment torture teasing withholding ignoring humiliating rejecting and degrading you you’re denying all this and you’re denying all this so that you are able to continue to attach and bond with the source of everything that you need or the things that you need so that’s a middle ground situation next question are demands for silence a factor in not knowing about betrayal so there are implicit motivations for not knowing we describe them yeah a person is dependent on the abuser so he denying the negative aspects of abuse torment torture teasing withholding ignoring humiliating rejecting and degrading you you’re denying all this and you’re denying all this so that you are able to continue to attach and bond with the source of everything that you need or the things that you need so that’s a middle ground situation next question are demands for silence a factor in not knowing about betrayal so there are implicit motivations for not knowing we describe them yeah a person is dependent on the abuser so he
68. 44:55 denies the abuse but the victim may have other reasons for not knowing for silencing for repressing for denying for example the perpetrator might demand silence might isolate the victim from his social safety net or family or friends might establish a rule that your dirty laundry is is made only in-house you never air the dirty laundry a rule of Silence and Others May collaborate in colluding that because of discomfort and embarrassment family Society demands for silence and I refer you to to work by denies the abuse but the victim may have other reasons for not knowing for silencing for repressing for denying for example the perpetrator might demand silence might isolate the victim from his social safety net or family or friends might establish a rule that your dirty laundry is is made only in-house you never air the dirty laundry a rule of Silence and Others May collaborate in colluding that because of discomfort and embarrassment family Society demands for silence and I refer you to to work by
69. 45:35 veluis in 1999 demise for silence may lead to a complete failure to even discuss an experience to even mention it you know it’s uncomfortable it’s shameful it’s disgraceful I don’t want to embarrass anyone I don’t want to discomfort anyone so I’m not going to talk about this experiences that have never been shared by anyone else may have a different internal structure than shared experiences shareability and social support are critical in healing curing reframing and transforming veluis in 1999 demise for silence may lead to a complete failure to even discuss an experience to even mention it you know it’s uncomfortable it’s shameful it’s disgraceful I don’t want to embarrass anyone I don’t want to discomfort anyone so I’m not going to talk about this experiences that have never been shared by anyone else may have a different internal structure than shared experiences shareability and social support are critical in healing curing reframing and transforming
70. 46:07 traumatic experiences towards closure I want to link um betrayal trauma to a few other disciplines and modalities let’s start with the touchman theory John Bowlby the father grandfather and great grandfather of attachment here in the object’s relation School John baldry in 1969 identified the link between attachment processes and dissociative psychopathology see he proceeded Wagner by quite a while so he said that some attachment processes may lead to dissociation he referred to internal traumatic experiences towards closure I want to link um betrayal trauma to a few other disciplines and modalities let’s start with the touchman theory John Bowlby the father grandfather and great grandfather of attachment here in the object’s relation School John baldry in 1969 identified the link between attachment processes and dissociative psychopathology see he proceeded Wagner by quite a while so he said that some attachment processes may lead to dissociation he referred to internal
71. 46:46 representations as internal working models I call them internal objects actually the current usage is internal objects so internal working models where one can discern which internal content is dominant which internal content requires attention and which can be segregated into unconscious awareness it’s like there’s a it’s like a male male sorting facility before the age of trump where this this the mail is sorted to be taken care I mean Express mailing uh you know surface mail and to the garbage may like male in representations as internal working models I call them internal objects actually the current usage is internal objects so internal working models where one can discern which internal content is dominant which internal content requires attention and which can be segregated into unconscious awareness it’s like there’s a it’s like a male male sorting facility before the age of trump where this this the mail is sorted to be taken care I mean Express mailing uh you know surface mail and to the garbage may like male in
72. 47:24 balance and once the attachment system is activated the internal working model is identified as a guide to the formation of attachment behavior and to the appraisal of attachment emotions in the self and in others there’s a theory of mine what makes other thick tick are they attached to me are they showing signs of attachment that will be emphasizes that traumatizing experience experiences especially with one’s caregiver these are likely to result in negative impacts on a child’s attachment security balance and once the attachment system is activated the internal working model is identified as a guide to the formation of attachment behavior and to the appraisal of attachment emotions in the self and in others there’s a theory of mine what makes other thick tick are they attached to me are they showing signs of attachment that will be emphasizes that traumatizing experience experiences especially with one’s caregiver these are likely to result in negative impacts on a child’s attachment security
73. 47:59 stress coping strategies and even sense of self securely organized internal working model the evidence indicates the secure attachment is associated with positive appraisal of One’s Own attachment emotions and expectations that the child requests will be experienced as significant and legitimate by a caregiver compare this to an insecurely attached I’ll insecurely organized internal working model avoidance resistance this is associated with a negative appraisal of attachment emotions with the expectation that one’s stress coping strategies and even sense of self securely organized internal working model the evidence indicates the secure attachment is associated with positive appraisal of One’s Own attachment emotions and expectations that the child requests will be experienced as significant and legitimate by a caregiver compare this to an insecurely attached I’ll insecurely organized internal working model avoidance resistance this is associated with a negative appraisal of attachment emotions with the expectation that one’s
74. 48:38 requests for attention and attachment will be rebuffed will be received as a nuisance or an intrusion by the caregiver emotionally unavailable mother dead mother and then there’s a disorganized internal working ball it’s very common in borderline and even in narcissism this is linked to unresolved traumas and losses experienced by the caregiver and the effect they had on the subsequent attachment style of The Offspring Main and Hesse in 1990 they theorized that within betrayal trauma Theory requests for attention and attachment will be rebuffed will be received as a nuisance or an intrusion by the caregiver emotionally unavailable mother dead mother and then there’s a disorganized internal working ball it’s very common in borderline and even in narcissism this is linked to unresolved traumas and losses experienced by the caregiver and the effect they had on the subsequent attachment style of The Offspring Main and Hesse in 1990 they theorized that within betrayal trauma Theory
75. 49:12 disorganized attachment develops when the caregiver is both a source of the child’s solution and a source of the child’s fear what do you do when the same person is supposed to provide you with Safety and Security and daring an exploratory grandiosity and love the same person in this and that very person is the source of your nightmares the waking nightmare the surrealistic Dreamscape what do you do in such case you approach avoid what and this form of attachment is um leads to altered Consciousness and disorganized attachment develops when the caregiver is both a source of the child’s solution and a source of the child’s fear what do you do when the same person is supposed to provide you with Safety and Security and daring an exploratory grandiosity and love the same person in this and that very person is the source of your nightmares the waking nightmare the surrealistic Dreamscape what do you do in such case you approach avoid what and this form of attachment is um leads to altered Consciousness and
76. 49:50 this all that Consciousness is what we call dissociation It’s A disruption of conscious memory identity perception of one’s immediate environment Freight herself and her colleagues in 2007. she identified knowledge isolation the extent to which information is hidden from awareness voluses and thought known is a private case um dissociation during time of extreme stress or trauma we have we have conclusively demonstrated using functional magnetic resonance imaging that when you dissociating extreme this all that Consciousness is what we call dissociation It’s A disruption of conscious memory identity perception of one’s immediate environment Freight herself and her colleagues in 2007. she identified knowledge isolation the extent to which information is hidden from awareness voluses and thought known is a private case um dissociation during time of extreme stress or trauma we have we have conclusively demonstrated using functional magnetic resonance imaging that when you dissociating extreme
77. 50:24 stress or trauma people have been exposed for example the most horrified real life videos and photos and we saw how their brain the neural mechanisms the brain changes the functioning changes and this evidence the childhood trauma is a neurological factor is a cause of of dissociation and has massive impacts on on several areas of the brain prefrontal cortex hypocampus um hippocampus amygdala so the level of betrayal trauma experience High moderate law they influence the degree of dissociation when you have low stress or trauma people have been exposed for example the most horrified real life videos and photos and we saw how their brain the neural mechanisms the brain changes the functioning changes and this evidence the childhood trauma is a neurological factor is a cause of of dissociation and has massive impacts on on several areas of the brain prefrontal cortex hypocampus um hippocampus amygdala so the level of betrayal trauma experience High moderate law they influence the degree of dissociation when you have low
78. 51:06 betrayal trauma it’s um it’s sometimes doesn’t create dissociation but low betrayal trauma doesn’t include strong elements or violations of trust it seems again that the trust is the critical problem and we have empirical evidence that exposure to high betrayal trauma where there’s a massive violation of trust is linked to increased level of dissociation impaired memory of trauma-related words as compared to low dissociation trauma Tresor Related Disorders dissociation in person life personality disorders betrayal trauma it’s um it’s sometimes doesn’t create dissociation but low betrayal trauma doesn’t include strong elements or violations of trust it seems again that the trust is the critical problem and we have empirical evidence that exposure to high betrayal trauma where there’s a massive violation of trust is linked to increased level of dissociation impaired memory of trauma-related words as compared to low dissociation trauma Tresor Related Disorders dissociation in person life personality disorders
79. 51:48 founded on dissociation which emanate from dissociation the light borderline like narcissism all of them are connected to betrayal chore dissociation during trauma affects individuals and causes them to compartmentalize the traumatic experience from conscious awareness dissociation is an adoptive process it’s aimed to maintain self-preservation it’s a protection against psychological pain and if we look at the development of Psychopathology and tied into attachment Theory this dissociation is the core founded on dissociation which emanate from dissociation the light borderline like narcissism all of them are connected to betrayal chore dissociation during trauma affects individuals and causes them to compartmentalize the traumatic experience from conscious awareness dissociation is an adoptive process it’s aimed to maintain self-preservation it’s a protection against psychological pain and if we look at the development of Psychopathology and tied into attachment Theory this dissociation is the core
80. 52:22 feature it’s the core feature in most most I would say psychiatric disorders Association can occur and even to the point where there’s alternative personality state or self-state um as we have in borderline personality disorder and dissociative identity disorder and some models of attachment-based dissociative disorders trauma-related disorders they all involve betrayal trauma and post-traumatic stress disorder diagnostic groups personality disorders trauma and stress related disorder dissociative disorder even schizophrenia feature it’s the core feature in most most I would say psychiatric disorders Association can occur and even to the point where there’s alternative personality state or self-state um as we have in borderline personality disorder and dissociative identity disorder and some models of attachment-based dissociative disorders trauma-related disorders they all involve betrayal trauma and post-traumatic stress disorder diagnostic groups personality disorders trauma and stress related disorder dissociative disorder even schizophrenia
81. 52:59 and psychotic disorders even substance abuse disorders addiction all of them are Unified in the mechanism in the transmission vector trauma abuse dissociation onwards to the Pathology now there’s something called betrayal trauma inventory bti and it assesses betrayal trauma in patients it measures all kinds of physical emotional sexual abuse childhood in adulthood all kinds of traumas and it’s essentially Behavior behavioral it deals with behaviors like did someone Hold Your Hand your head and psychotic disorders even substance abuse disorders addiction all of them are Unified in the mechanism in the transmission vector trauma abuse dissociation onwards to the Pathology now there’s something called betrayal trauma inventory bti and it assesses betrayal trauma in patients it measures all kinds of physical emotional sexual abuse childhood in adulthood all kinds of traumas and it’s essentially Behavior behavioral it deals with behaviors like did someone Hold Your Hand your head
82. 53:40 underwater or try to drown you before you were at the age of 16. I’m not kidding you it’s one of the questions and so you see how many guests how many yeses there are you calculate the age the relationship the severity of the injuries memory of the events and it takes about 45 minutes and coupled with or founded upon the abuse and perpetration inventory API you get a pretty clear picture of any trauma or chromatic landscape before the age of 16. the brief betrayal trauma survey is adopted from the bti it includes only underwater or try to drown you before you were at the age of 16. I’m not kidding you it’s one of the questions and so you see how many guests how many yeses there are you calculate the age the relationship the severity of the injuries memory of the events and it takes about 45 minutes and coupled with or founded upon the abuse and perpetration inventory API you get a pretty clear picture of any trauma or chromatic landscape before the age of 16. the brief betrayal trauma survey is adopted from the bti it includes only
83. 54:17 11 items for traumatic experiences such as sexual physical emotional abuse and it include it there’s a question if the person was someone close to them on an interpersonal level and it looks at events prior to the age of 18. then there is the institutional betrayal questionnaire ibq created by Smith and trade in 2011. it’s even shorter it has a 10 item questionnaire it assesses into the institutional betrayal in the context of sexual assault on college campus for example similar and identifies the level of 11 items for traumatic experiences such as sexual physical emotional abuse and it include it there’s a question if the person was someone close to them on an interpersonal level and it looks at events prior to the age of 18. then there is the institutional betrayal questionnaire ibq created by Smith and trade in 2011. it’s even shorter it has a 10 item questionnaire it assesses into the institutional betrayal in the context of sexual assault on college campus for example similar and identifies the level of
84. 54:50 involvement of the institution in The Unwanted experience and in the associated experiences for example normalizing totally pathological conditions or creating environments which facilitate abuse and breach of Rights covering covering up incidents and failed policies this is all I am sure very very relevant during this pandemic and finally let’s talk about what can be done treatment for betrayal trauma is very new and no one is quite sure what to do there’s not enough evidence-based treatment involvement of the institution in The Unwanted experience and in the associated experiences for example normalizing totally pathological conditions or creating environments which facilitate abuse and breach of Rights covering covering up incidents and failed policies this is all I am sure very very relevant during this pandemic and finally let’s talk about what can be done treatment for betrayal trauma is very new and no one is quite sure what to do there’s not enough evidence-based treatment
85. 55:28 um and betrayal trauma is a very wide concept that applies to numerous pathologies which no one is quite sure how much they have in common so there’s an article by Jennifer Gomez in 2016. suggested that relational cultural relational cultural therapy may be the best treatment for betrayal trauma it’s a therapy which was established by Jean Miller it’s a feminist therapy honestly so I don’t advise men to take it and the therapist focuses on relational disconnections that their client um and betrayal trauma is a very wide concept that applies to numerous pathologies which no one is quite sure how much they have in common so there’s an article by Jennifer Gomez in 2016. suggested that relational cultural relational cultural therapy may be the best treatment for betrayal trauma it’s a therapy which was established by Jean Miller it’s a feminist therapy honestly so I don’t advise men to take it and the therapist focuses on relational disconnections that their client
86. 56:02 experiences so there’s no the therapy doesn’t deal with symptoms it deals with disruptions in relationships it works through decontextualizing the Betrayal trauma separating the self-decision making from the trauma and it’s an interesting approach because it introduces the social and cultural aspect and it implies that what we experience as symptoms are actually merely the way we experience disruptions in meaningful relationships again we are coming to sapolskis and others point of view experiences so there’s no the therapy doesn’t deal with symptoms it deals with disruptions in relationships it works through decontextualizing the Betrayal trauma separating the self-decision making from the trauma and it’s an interesting approach because it introduces the social and cultural aspect and it implies that what we experience as symptoms are actually merely the way we experience disruptions in meaningful relationships again we are coming to sapolskis and others point of view
87. 56:46 this self is the intersection of relationships take away all the relationships there’s nothing left even in pathological narcissism there’s a hive mind even there even the false self is the intersection of the Gaze of multiple others it is this intersection that gives rise to a human being in the full sense of the world when it’s disrupted you get a narcissist you get a psychopath but even then they’re not they’re not Islands The Narcissist cannot survive without narcissistic Supply which happens to this self is the intersection of relationships take away all the relationships there’s nothing left even in pathological narcissism there’s a hive mind even there even the false self is the intersection of the Gaze of multiple others it is this intersection that gives rise to a human being in the full sense of the world when it’s disrupted you get a narcissist you get a psychopath but even then they’re not they’re not Islands The Narcissist cannot survive without narcissistic Supply which happens to
88. 57:25 come from other people and the psychopath cannot achieve goals it’s goal oriented cannot achieve his goals act on his impulses be defined if there’s no one to Define anyone to take from we are social creatures Zone politicon thank you Plato thank you aristotilis and if any of you succeeds to Solve the Riddle of why I had chosen to attribute this sentence to Eugene O’Neill and not to each its originator [Music] please let me know I’ll be delighted one of you came close by me don’t let anyone come from other people and the psychopath cannot achieve goals it’s goal oriented cannot achieve his goals act on his impulses be defined if there’s no one to Define anyone to take from we are social creatures Zone politicon thank you Plato thank you aristotilis and if any of you succeeds to Solve the Riddle of why I had chosen to attribute this sentence to Eugene O’Neill and not to each its originator [Music] please let me know I’ll be delighted one of you came close by me don’t let anyone
89. 58:05 traumatize You by betraying your trust watch my video about who to trust and when to trust it’s a good introduction okay enough for jokes let’s get to the business of teaching you students and as is my habit or my new habit in my recent videos I I start by referring you to literature so I suggest that you read everything you can by dorahi d-o-r-a-h-y Van Der Hart h-a-r-t ion voice don’t ask Cathy Steele Butler Crabtree Brown can go into his some historical writings by Jeanette Jeanette Brown and also read everything traumatize You by betraying your trust watch my video about who to trust and when to trust it’s a good introduction okay enough for jokes let’s get to the business of teaching you students and as is my habit or my new habit in my recent videos I I start by referring you to literature so I suggest that you read everything you can by dorahi d-o-r-a-h-y Van Der Hart h-a-r-t ion voice don’t ask Cathy Steele Butler Crabtree Brown can go into his some historical writings by Jeanette Jeanette Brown and also read everything
90. 59:00 you can by Van de cork those of you who’ve heard of some of these gentlemen realize that today’s topic is trauma and the dissociation the trauma induces this is a topic that underlies the most modern thinking most up-to-date Leading Edge thinking on a variety of mental health disorders among them narcissistic personality disorder and borderline personality disorder but today what I want to do I want to explore one approach to dissociation which is fast becoming a dominant approach in 1893 you can by Van de cork those of you who’ve heard of some of these gentlemen realize that today’s topic is trauma and the dissociation the trauma induces this is a topic that underlies the most modern thinking most up-to-date Leading Edge thinking on a variety of mental health disorders among them narcissistic personality disorder and borderline personality disorder but today what I want to do I want to explore one approach to dissociation which is fast becoming a dominant approach in 1893
91. 59:39 that’s a bit before I was born there were two gentlemen broyer and Freud and of course having said gentlemen it’s clear that they were Jewish so these two gentlemen came up with another wrote another published an article and they suggested that individuals with trauma memories go through numbing Detachment Amnesia and avoidance of triggers and memories and they said the very same people who try to avoid triggers the best they can in a variety of ways they are triggered the most trauma was the main topic of study I that’s a bit before I was born there were two gentlemen broyer and Freud and of course having said gentlemen it’s clear that they were Jewish so these two gentlemen came up with another wrote another published an article and they suggested that individuals with trauma memories go through numbing Detachment Amnesia and avoidance of triggers and memories and they said the very same people who try to avoid triggers the best they can in a variety of ways they are triggered the most trauma was the main topic of study I
92. 60:24 would even say the Cornerstone of early psychoanalysis pre-jung when young was still a disciple in in a phoning and admiring student of Freud it was much later that Freud recanted and he realized that he was the victim of high society rich rich women with nothing better to do he was a form of entertainment they came to him and they told him stories about how they had been abused by their fathers usually and he bought it a hook line and sinker and constructed the whole Theory based on their stories and false memories would even say the Cornerstone of early psychoanalysis pre-jung when young was still a disciple in in a phoning and admiring student of Freud it was much later that Freud recanted and he realized that he was the victim of high society rich rich women with nothing better to do he was a form of entertainment they came to him and they told him stories about how they had been abused by their fathers usually and he bought it a hook line and sinker and constructed the whole Theory based on their stories and false memories
93. 61:02 memories that they came up with in order to gratify and please Freud Freud went to the extent of saying that he now disbelieves most of the trauma stories that he had heard from his patients because had they been true then he himself must have been must have been sexually abused by his own father but that’s a vignette vignette aside let’s continue um the personality is not a monolithic slab of stone it’s not um the proverbial proverbial Rock in other words it’s not an entity exactly like the living body the living memories that they came up with in order to gratify and please Freud Freud went to the extent of saying that he now disbelieves most of the trauma stories that he had heard from his patients because had they been true then he himself must have been must have been sexually abused by his own father but that’s a vignette vignette aside let’s continue um the personality is not a monolithic slab of stone it’s not um the proverbial proverbial Rock in other words it’s not an entity exactly like the living body the living
94. 61:48 body is a colony a colony of trillions of sales and in each one of our cells they are very very ancient and primitive organisms which had survived inside ourselves these organizers organisms have nothing nothing to do with us they don’t share genetic material with us mitochondria for example so we are like a giant Zoo our bodies are like giant Jews with trillions of cells organisms the gut Flora for example billions of bacteria or viruses I mean we can we carry this gigantic zoo with us wherever we go body is a colony a colony of trillions of sales and in each one of our cells they are very very ancient and primitive organisms which had survived inside ourselves these organizers organisms have nothing nothing to do with us they don’t share genetic material with us mitochondria for example so we are like a giant Zoo our bodies are like giant Jews with trillions of cells organisms the gut Flora for example billions of bacteria or viruses I mean we can we carry this gigantic zoo with us wherever we go
95. 62:28 the personality and the mind are the same it’s a zoo it’s an amalgamation of very ancient voices of constructs of defenses so different structures comprise the personality experience the personality is therefore a process a process it’s an experience it’s not a thing and some personalities experience too little some personalities experience too much this distinction is very very important some people are prone to interface with the world and with other people much more than other people the personality and the mind are the same it’s a zoo it’s an amalgamation of very ancient voices of constructs of defenses so different structures comprise the personality experience the personality is therefore a process a process it’s an experience it’s not a thing and some personalities experience too little some personalities experience too much this distinction is very very important some people are prone to interface with the world and with other people much more than other people
96. 63:17 so this important although apparently trivial insight underlies the theory of structural dissociation now before we go any further structural dissociation is one of well over 50 trauma-related theories in trauma-related Therapies which I had incorporated into cold therapy called therapy to remind you is the treatment modality that I had invented that I had created for people diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder or for people with major depression and I suggested to reconceive of narcissism so this important although apparently trivial insight underlies the theory of structural dissociation now before we go any further structural dissociation is one of well over 50 trauma-related theories in trauma-related Therapies which I had incorporated into cold therapy called therapy to remind you is the treatment modality that I had invented that I had created for people diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder or for people with major depression and I suggested to reconceive of narcissism
97. 64:00 to reconceive of narcissistic personality disorder is essentially a post-traumatic condition a post-traumatic condition and therefore requiring trauma therapies the structural dissociation was an important theoretical Foundation of of cold therapy so together with other approaches to trauma and other approaches to re-traumatization I put these together and also with child psychology and came up with cold therapy so what is what is this Theory what does it say what does it what does it teach us well to reconceive of narcissistic personality disorder is essentially a post-traumatic condition a post-traumatic condition and therefore requiring trauma therapies the structural dissociation was an important theoretical Foundation of of cold therapy so together with other approaches to trauma and other approaches to re-traumatization I put these together and also with child psychology and came up with cold therapy so what is what is this Theory what does it say what does it what does it teach us well
98. 64:44 dissociation is can be conceived as one of two things it’s a malfunction it’s a glitch in the software it’s when we can’t take very painful very threatening very harrowing experiences and the thoughts we had during these experiences and the emotions we had felt during these experiences we can’t cope with them and we can’t integrate them we can’t make them a part of our self so we kind of Hive them off we kind of push them out push them away these memories the cognitions that go with them the dissociation is can be conceived as one of two things it’s a malfunction it’s a glitch in the software it’s when we can’t take very painful very threatening very harrowing experiences and the thoughts we had during these experiences and the emotions we had felt during these experiences we can’t cope with them and we can’t integrate them we can’t make them a part of our self so we kind of Hive them off we kind of push them out push them away these memories the cognitions that go with them the
99. 65:29 thoughts the emotions that we had felt we place them in a container and therefore there is an integrative deficit it’s the functional dysfunctional integration there’s another way to look at it and that’s the older way the way of Freud than others the dissociation is actually a defense it’s when the child usually is faced with extreme abuse extreme trauma he has very few active defenses the defenses he has are very primitive like splitting and they work only only so far splitting for example is very thoughts the emotions that we had felt we place them in a container and therefore there is an integrative deficit it’s the functional dysfunctional integration there’s another way to look at it and that’s the older way the way of Freud than others the dissociation is actually a defense it’s when the child usually is faced with extreme abuse extreme trauma he has very few active defenses the defenses he has are very primitive like splitting and they work only only so far splitting for example is very
100. 66:08 threatening because if you split mother an abusive mother you split her in two there’s a bed mother and a good mother the bad mother is there she’s very frightening so even the defense mechanisms the Primitive defense might be infantile infantile defense mechanisms of the child they are not very defensive they bring the horror of the situation to the front and so the children are defenseless dissociation is one difference it’s simply not remembering forgetting or not being there or thinking of the whole thing is not threatening because if you split mother an abusive mother you split her in two there’s a bed mother and a good mother the bad mother is there she’s very frightening so even the defense mechanisms the Primitive defense might be infantile infantile defense mechanisms of the child they are not very defensive they bring the horror of the situation to the front and so the children are defenseless dissociation is one difference it’s simply not remembering forgetting or not being there or thinking of the whole thing is not
101. 66:44 real the realization depersonalization Amnesia in reverse order and so structural dissociation claims the theory claims that dissociation is an integrative deficit not so much a defense and that dissociation has two types of symptoms cycophone symptoms and somatoform symptoms and when you come to it in a in a few minutes what is integration what is this integration that the theory is is analyzing and dissecting so much the structural dissociation Theory what is integration integration first of all is an Adaptive real the realization depersonalization Amnesia in reverse order and so structural dissociation claims the theory claims that dissociation is an integrative deficit not so much a defense and that dissociation has two types of symptoms cycophone symptoms and somatoform symptoms and when you come to it in a in a few minutes what is integration what is this integration that the theory is is analyzing and dissecting so much the structural dissociation Theory what is integration integration first of all is an Adaptive
102. 67:25 Behavior it’s a behavior that helps you to survive the cope to function to propagate yourself so it it is also an Adaptive behavior on the level of the species not only on the level of the individual and it depends on two processes the first one is synthesis synthesis is when we associate when we put together when we combine in a reasonable coherent cohesive rational form combine all the components of experiences and all the functions into meaningful coherent mental structures and these metal structures are created Behavior it’s a behavior that helps you to survive the cope to function to propagate yourself so it it is also an Adaptive behavior on the level of the species not only on the level of the individual and it depends on two processes the first one is synthesis synthesis is when we associate when we put together when we combine in a reasonable coherent cohesive rational form combine all the components of experiences and all the functions into meaningful coherent mental structures and these metal structures are created
103. 68:09 on the Fly as we have an experience we immediately create a mental structure to cope with this experience this mental structure contains the memories the thoughts cognitions the emotions and the functions Associated the behaviors associated with all this and this is the mental structure that we create with each and every experience and this is called episodic mental structure in mental structures that amalgamate aggregate find common denominators across multiple experiences across time so these are the synthesis processes on the Fly as we have an experience we immediately create a mental structure to cope with this experience this mental structure contains the memories the thoughts cognitions the emotions and the functions Associated the behaviors associated with all this and this is the mental structure that we create with each and every experience and this is called episodic mental structure in mental structures that amalgamate aggregate find common denominators across multiple experiences across time so these are the synthesis processes
104. 68:52 and then there’s another process realization remember we are talking about integration integration depends on synthesis creating mental structures to cope with episodic experiences and with experiences across time that is synthesis and the second process is called realization realization is when we analyze and when we assimilate experiences but we do it in two ways personification and presentification personification is when we own the experience when we analyze the experience and then we digest it we assimilate it we own it and then there’s another process realization remember we are talking about integration integration depends on synthesis creating mental structures to cope with episodic experiences and with experiences across time that is synthesis and the second process is called realization realization is when we analyze and when we assimilate experiences but we do it in two ways personification and presentification personification is when we own the experience when we analyze the experience and then we digest it we assimilate it we own it
105. 69:39 we say it is my experience this experience to a large extent defines who is I who is me it is my self it’s a little similar to the concept of constellation in Jung although there are important differences but constellations are form of personification and then presentification presentification is when during the process of realization during the process of living through the experience during the process of experiencing we bring the past and the future into the present moment and we integrate all of it it all makes we say it is my experience this experience to a large extent defines who is I who is me it is my self it’s a little similar to the concept of constellation in Jung although there are important differences but constellations are form of personification and then presentification presentification is when during the process of realization during the process of living through the experience during the process of experiencing we bring the past and the future into the present moment and we integrate all of it it all makes
106. 70:28 sense the moment makes sense precisely because it’s a natural flowing extension of the past and it leads inexorably and seamlessly to a future which is also connected to the Past in ways which are comprehensible and acceptable and reasonable and not nightmarish so presentification is the equivalent of mindfulness and it converts reflexivity it involves the ability to regard the moment is the most important it’s the most important because it explicates it gives meaning to it organizes and it explains perfectly sense the moment makes sense precisely because it’s a natural flowing extension of the past and it leads inexorably and seamlessly to a future which is also connected to the Past in ways which are comprehensible and acceptable and reasonable and not nightmarish so presentification is the equivalent of mindfulness and it converts reflexivity it involves the ability to regard the moment is the most important it’s the most important because it explicates it gives meaning to it organizes and it explains perfectly
107. 71:15 everything that led to it the past and everything that will come forth forward will come henceforth the future in other words the present is the interpretative tool and organizing principle of Our Lives and this presentification and personification the feeling of self they are they together combine realization and you have synthesis and synthesis and realization lead of course to integration because if you feel that your experience is yours and that it’s connected to your person to your future you’re integrated everything that led to it the past and everything that will come forth forward will come henceforth the future in other words the present is the interpretative tool and organizing principle of Our Lives and this presentification and personification the feeling of self they are they together combine realization and you have synthesis and synthesis and realization lead of course to integration because if you feel that your experience is yours and that it’s connected to your person to your future you’re integrated
108. 71:53 you are put together your your paths make sense you make sense depersonalization for example when you don’t feel that you are you when you feel whatever is happening is happening to someone else when you even stand outside observing yourself observing things that are happening to that that thing that entity which looks like you depersonalization being on autopilot things are happening to me but it’s not really me I’m removed from the scene I’m detached mentally well personalization is a failure in you are put together your your paths make sense you make sense depersonalization for example when you don’t feel that you are you when you feel whatever is happening is happening to someone else when you even stand outside observing yourself observing things that are happening to that that thing that entity which looks like you depersonalization being on autopilot things are happening to me but it’s not really me I’m removed from the scene I’m detached mentally well personalization is a failure in
109. 72:34 personification because it creates semantic memory but not episodic memory it creates language memory you can describe what had happened of course you were there you were an observer you were a spectator you were documenting the events at least in your memory in your hypocampus in your long-term memory and yet you didn’t experience what was happening it was not episodic this is not an episode that had happened to you it’s only semantics only language and I have a whole video dedicated to this it’s a lecture I personification because it creates semantic memory but not episodic memory it creates language memory you can describe what had happened of course you were there you were an observer you were a spectator you were documenting the events at least in your memory in your hypocampus in your long-term memory and yet you didn’t experience what was happening it was not episodic this is not an episode that had happened to you it’s only semantics only language and I have a whole video dedicated to this it’s a lecture I
110. 73:10 prepared for my students in in one of my universities was The Southern federal University it was stovaldon in Russia and it’s a video that a video lecture that deals with collection between memory types of memory and identity and how disruptions in memory creates great disruptions in identity identity disturbance or identity diffusion so depersonalization is an example of personification failure trauma generally reduces our ability to integrate and this depends crucially on who we are some people are very very very sensitive prepared for my students in in one of my universities was The Southern federal University it was stovaldon in Russia and it’s a video that a video lecture that deals with collection between memory types of memory and identity and how disruptions in memory creates great disruptions in identity identity disturbance or identity diffusion so depersonalization is an example of personification failure trauma generally reduces our ability to integrate and this depends crucially on who we are some people are very very very sensitive
111. 73:54 to trauma they are they have pre-morbit personalities as we call them they have to start with they have low integrative capacity either because psychobiologically um you know they don’t have the the the tools or the properly developed instrument so it has something to do with genetics or biology or because they’ve been exposed in early childhood to traumatic experiences or or because they are highly sensitive people this is a tiny fraction of a population which have highly overdeveloped empathy no no to trauma they are they have pre-morbit personalities as we call them they have to start with they have low integrative capacity either because psychobiologically um you know they don’t have the the the tools or the properly developed instrument so it has something to do with genetics or biology or because they’ve been exposed in early childhood to traumatic experiences or or because they are highly sensitive people this is a tiny fraction of a population which have highly overdeveloped empathy no no
112. 74:31 not empaths empaths are grandiose terms of what I suspect to be covert narcissists I’m talking about really really hyperempathic people people who have high who have an abnormal form of empathy so they would have they would be traumatized all the time and the trauma reduces their integrative capacity and leads to recurrent dissociation but we must distinguish the association from dissociative process the associated process is any time we fail to integrate anytime you fail to integrate and this not empaths empaths are grandiose terms of what I suspect to be covert narcissists I’m talking about really really hyperempathic people people who have high who have an abnormal form of empathy so they would have they would be traumatized all the time and the trauma reduces their integrative capacity and leads to recurrent dissociation but we must distinguish the association from dissociative process the associated process is any time we fail to integrate anytime you fail to integrate and this
113. 75:08 happens a lot in normal day-to-day dissociation for example when you listen to my lectures my boring lectures your mind wanders or you fall is almost asleep or you begin to zone out cut me off tune up which proves that you’re very healthy it’s the only way to listen to my lectures but that is a normal dissociative process so we should distinguish this from trauma-induced dissociations dissociation before I go into the theory itself and what it says and what lessons we can learn from the theory when it comes to happens a lot in normal day-to-day dissociation for example when you listen to my lectures my boring lectures your mind wanders or you fall is almost asleep or you begin to zone out cut me off tune up which proves that you’re very healthy it’s the only way to listen to my lectures but that is a normal dissociative process so we should distinguish this from trauma-induced dissociations dissociation before I go into the theory itself and what it says and what lessons we can learn from the theory when it comes to
114. 75:50 Cluster B personality disorders which I personally think are post-traumatic States post-traumatic conditions I think all the so-called dramatic or erratic personality disorders and some others like for example schizotipo paranoid Etc I think many personality disorders are actually post-traumatic conditions and should be totally reconciled in terms of post trauma so this theory is very useful in an attempt to understand the wider context of what today we call in my view erroneously personality disorders these Cluster B personality disorders which I personally think are post-traumatic States post-traumatic conditions I think all the so-called dramatic or erratic personality disorders and some others like for example schizotipo paranoid Etc I think many personality disorders are actually post-traumatic conditions and should be totally reconciled in terms of post trauma so this theory is very useful in an attempt to understand the wider context of what today we call in my view erroneously personality disorders these
115. 76:30 are not personality disorders these are disorders of integration these are disorders of synthesis of personification of presentification these are disorders in these are procedural disorders these are disorders of process not disorders of substance but that’s another debate before we go to the theory itself and what it says about dissociation I have to because I used to be a journalist so we always bring the two sides so I have to mention what the Skeptics are saying the Skeptics are saying that trauma is a fantasies are not personality disorders these are disorders of integration these are disorders of synthesis of personification of presentification these are disorders in these are procedural disorders these are disorders of process not disorders of substance but that’s another debate before we go to the theory itself and what it says about dissociation I have to because I used to be a journalist so we always bring the two sides so I have to mention what the Skeptics are saying the Skeptics are saying that trauma is a fantasies
116. 77:07 um dissociation does exist but it produces fantasies of trauma the person is asking herself why why am I forgetting things why am I dissociating ah probably I was traumatized and then when was I traumatized wait a minute let me think did my father ever touch me inappropriately let me think real hard let me imagine this wow I think it did this is called false memory so the association produces false memories and fantasies of trauma and that is true it’s been documented uh many times multiple times um dissociation does exist but it produces fantasies of trauma the person is asking herself why why am I forgetting things why am I dissociating ah probably I was traumatized and then when was I traumatized wait a minute let me think did my father ever touch me inappropriately let me think real hard let me imagine this wow I think it did this is called false memory so the association produces false memories and fantasies of trauma and that is true it’s been documented uh many times multiple times
117. 77:43 and therapists who are not skilled and not adept and frankly narcissistic have personality problems of Their Own this kind of therapist they tend to induce false memories and fantasies of trauma because they force the patients their patients to please them to gratify them and the patient is terrified to lose the therapist so we’ll tell you we tell the therapist anything and then the patient convinces herself that it actually happened a process known as confabulation so the Skeptics saying most of the and therapists who are not skilled and not adept and frankly narcissistic have personality problems of Their Own this kind of therapist they tend to induce false memories and fantasies of trauma because they force the patients their patients to please them to gratify them and the patient is terrified to lose the therapist so we’ll tell you we tell the therapist anything and then the patient convinces herself that it actually happened a process known as confabulation so the Skeptics saying most of the
118. 78:17 so-called traumas are actually fantasies or struggles false memories and so on they say that dissociative disorders are artifactual conditions artifacts not really and they are produced by electrogenesis I mean the doctor the therapist creates them in the patient or by or even by social cultural factors in some societies some culturals when things change this place for redefining some behaviors as trauma for example I grew up in a society where it was perfectly acceptable to physically to beat up to beat up children so-called traumas are actually fantasies or struggles false memories and so on they say that dissociative disorders are artifactual conditions artifacts not really and they are produced by electrogenesis I mean the doctor the therapist creates them in the patient or by or even by social cultural factors in some societies some culturals when things change this place for redefining some behaviors as trauma for example I grew up in a society where it was perfectly acceptable to physically to beat up to beat up children
119. 78:55 trivial were bitten physically regularly and in that Society the physical Behavior the physical communication mode of the parent was actually proof of love but of course as the context change it’s not perceived as physical abuse and even I would say traumatic physical abuse trauma is heavily culture dependent period dependent Society dependent but I must say having presented the Skeptics point of view I wholeheartedly fervently fervently vehemently and believe me I know many other words disagree trivial were bitten physically regularly and in that Society the physical Behavior the physical communication mode of the parent was actually proof of love but of course as the context change it’s not perceived as physical abuse and even I would say traumatic physical abuse trauma is heavily culture dependent period dependent Society dependent but I must say having presented the Skeptics point of view I wholeheartedly fervently fervently vehemently and believe me I know many other words disagree
120. 79:33 because the preponderance and abundance abundance of clinical data in research do not support this View it’s there is clear clear linear relationship and proportional correlation and causation between childhood abuse and Trauma as they are defined even socio-culturally when their culture or Society incongruent so everywhere in the world incest is considered abuse there are things which are universally considered abusive regardless of the culture or Society of the period so when we Trace back because the preponderance and abundance abundance of clinical data in research do not support this View it’s there is clear clear linear relationship and proportional correlation and causation between childhood abuse and Trauma as they are defined even socio-culturally when their culture or Society incongruent so everywhere in the world incest is considered abuse there are things which are universally considered abusive regardless of the culture or Society of the period so when we Trace back
121. 80:22 childhood memories of this kind of abuse we end up having dissociation and many many of what today we call personality disorders such as borderline personality disorder so without further ado and to cut a long story even longer let’s delve into the issue of dissociation the preeminent scholar of dissociation Freud and Royal site was your name in 1907 which is when the last dinosaurs still walked the Earth and played with me as a kid in 1907 Janae wrote that dissociation is when there are two or childhood memories of this kind of abuse we end up having dissociation and many many of what today we call personality disorders such as borderline personality disorder so without further ado and to cut a long story even longer let’s delve into the issue of dissociation the preeminent scholar of dissociation Freud and Royal site was your name in 1907 which is when the last dinosaurs still walked the Earth and played with me as a kid in 1907 Janae wrote that dissociation is when there are two or
122. 81:08 more systems of IDs and functions that constitute personality in other words your name actually was describing what later in the 60s and 70s used to be called multiple personality disorders when you had when the personality fragmented broke down into two discernible selves full-fledged almost which could easily be described as a separate personality that was your name it’s a very restrictive view of the association and today we don’t hold this view any any longer at least not exclusively in other words we don’t more systems of IDs and functions that constitute personality in other words your name actually was describing what later in the 60s and 70s used to be called multiple personality disorders when you had when the personality fragmented broke down into two discernible selves full-fledged almost which could easily be described as a separate personality that was your name it’s a very restrictive view of the association and today we don’t hold this view any any longer at least not exclusively in other words we don’t
123. 81:43 think the dissociation is only when you have multiple personality and he said that dissociation is the result of inability to integrate owing to physical illness exhaustion stressors stressful situations and young age and that it leads to pathological alterations in consciousness to Greater emotivity to reactive behaviors and beliefs notice the phrase greater emotivity this is what today we call emotional dysregulation and is one of the two Hallmarks together with dysfunctional attachment one of the two Hallmarks of borderline think the dissociation is only when you have multiple personality and he said that dissociation is the result of inability to integrate owing to physical illness exhaustion stressors stressful situations and young age and that it leads to pathological alterations in consciousness to Greater emotivity to reactive behaviors and beliefs notice the phrase greater emotivity this is what today we call emotional dysregulation and is one of the two Hallmarks together with dysfunctional attachment one of the two Hallmarks of borderline
124. 82:23 personality disorder decades many decades before the diagnosis of borderline personality disorder was even imagined Jeanette actually was describing borderline personality disorder pathological alterations in Consciousness greater emotivity reactive behaviors reactive beliefs unstable beliefs what today we call identity disturbance it’s one of the diagnostic criteria of borderline personality disorder not long afterwards there was a guy called Mitchell in 1922 he suggested that maybe these were not personality disorder decades many decades before the diagnosis of borderline personality disorder was even imagined Jeanette actually was describing borderline personality disorder pathological alterations in Consciousness greater emotivity reactive behaviors reactive beliefs unstable beliefs what today we call identity disturbance it’s one of the diagnostic criteria of borderline personality disorder not long afterwards there was a guy called Mitchell in 1922 he suggested that maybe these were not
125. 83:06 really full-fledged personalities like Janae said but they were not far and here’s what he wrote he said when there is dissociation it leads to fragmentation to break down of the personality but each of these psychobiological systems that results from the dissociation has its own unique combination of perception cognition effect and behavior each has its own sense of self no matter how rudimentary fast forward a few decades and the American Psychiatric association in the year 2000 when the diagnostic and really full-fledged personalities like Janae said but they were not far and here’s what he wrote he said when there is dissociation it leads to fragmentation to break down of the personality but each of these psychobiological systems that results from the dissociation has its own unique combination of perception cognition effect and behavior each has its own sense of self no matter how rudimentary fast forward a few decades and the American Psychiatric association in the year 2000 when the diagnostic and
126. 83:43 statistical manual Edition 4 the previous Edition was published the IPA said the dissociation is a breakdown or disruption in usually integrated function all these gentlemen and some ladies keep mentioning the word integration it seems that this is a crucial immutable invariable foundational problem deficient dysfunctional disrupted breakdown in integrative processes in integration we’ll come to it a bit later structural dissociation um is a theory of dissociation but it should be distinguished we’ll deal with statistical manual Edition 4 the previous Edition was published the IPA said the dissociation is a breakdown or disruption in usually integrated function all these gentlemen and some ladies keep mentioning the word integration it seems that this is a crucial immutable invariable foundational problem deficient dysfunctional disrupted breakdown in integrative processes in integration we’ll come to it a bit later structural dissociation um is a theory of dissociation but it should be distinguished we’ll deal with
127. 84:29 it in a minute we’ll dedicate a big part of this video to to diving into structural dissociation but before I go there I would like to provide you with some tools to make nuances in finer distinctions then structural dissociation does although it’s a very fine Theory so first of all there is the issue of dissociative self-states or dissociative personality States as the as the DSM used to call it we do have situations where we see emerging something that is not a personality in any sense of the word it in a minute we’ll dedicate a big part of this video to to diving into structural dissociation but before I go there I would like to provide you with some tools to make nuances in finer distinctions then structural dissociation does although it’s a very fine Theory so first of all there is the issue of dissociative self-states or dissociative personality States as the as the DSM used to call it we do have situations where we see emerging something that is not a personality in any sense of the word
128. 85:17 in any functional dimensional categorical sense of the word definition of sense of work it’s not a personality but it is a different self so it’s I would call it sudo personality when the borderline for example faces rejection humiliation abandonment neglect being ignored stress severe depression or when she is under the influence of substances drinks to excess does drugs the borderline switches moves to another surf state which is essentially psychopathy she becomes a secondary psychopath will deal with a in any functional dimensional categorical sense of the word definition of sense of work it’s not a personality but it is a different self so it’s I would call it sudo personality when the borderline for example faces rejection humiliation abandonment neglect being ignored stress severe depression or when she is under the influence of substances drinks to excess does drugs the borderline switches moves to another surf state which is essentially psychopathy she becomes a secondary psychopath will deal with a
129. 86:01 little bit later but these are distinct self-states anyone who has ever been with a bone life treated the borderline spend time with the water life has witnessed this switching no one no one can deny it in structural dissociation is difficulty accommodating this switch they have something called intrusion which will come to a bit later but it’s not the same intrusion is like a negotiated process a dance macabre a kind of filling each other out between structures of personalities it’s like little bit later but these are distinct self-states anyone who has ever been with a bone life treated the borderline spend time with the water life has witnessed this switching no one no one can deny it in structural dissociation is difficulty accommodating this switch they have something called intrusion which will come to a bit later but it’s not the same intrusion is like a negotiated process a dance macabre a kind of filling each other out between structures of personalities it’s like
130. 86:37 bargaining thing it’s like I withdraw your approach you approach like approach avoidance repetition compulsion it’s very very ballet-like that’s not what happens in borderline switching absolutely not it’s much closer to what you see in people with dissociative identity disorder multiple personalities where you see one person disappears and another person appears admitted before there are Smiles of compassion and love and empathy and the minute after this is cold-hearted stone-faced bargaining thing it’s like I withdraw your approach you approach like approach avoidance repetition compulsion it’s very very ballet-like that’s not what happens in borderline switching absolutely not it’s much closer to what you see in people with dissociative identity disorder multiple personalities where you see one person disappears and another person appears admitted before there are Smiles of compassion and love and empathy and the minute after this is cold-hearted stone-faced
131. 87:17 goal-oriented machine disempathic aggressive vindictive so there’s this problem of self-states which is not fully accounted for in structural dissociation they did develop something called tertiary structural dissociation which we’ll come to a bit later but I don’t consider this a satisfactory solution second problem with structural dissociation is that it doesn’t cope well doesn’t describe well dissociative phenomena in a non-dissociated self-states or personality States you see there are situations where goal-oriented machine disempathic aggressive vindictive so there’s this problem of self-states which is not fully accounted for in structural dissociation they did develop something called tertiary structural dissociation which we’ll come to a bit later but I don’t consider this a satisfactory solution second problem with structural dissociation is that it doesn’t cope well doesn’t describe well dissociative phenomena in a non-dissociated self-states or personality States you see there are situations where
132. 88:00 people switch between self-states and personality States and they remember everything in other words there’s no dissociation there’s just the switching between states which are solved structural dissociation says that’s nonsense they call it ratification that doesn’t exist well I have a surprise for all these eminent psychologists uh if something exists and you deny it shockingly it continues to exist so denying it is not a good strategy it’s there there are non-dissociated switching there is non-disolacy not people switch between self-states and personality States and they remember everything in other words there’s no dissociation there’s just the switching between states which are solved structural dissociation says that’s nonsense they call it ratification that doesn’t exist well I have a surprise for all these eminent psychologists uh if something exists and you deny it shockingly it continues to exist so denying it is not a good strategy it’s there there are non-dissociated switching there is non-disolacy not
133. 88:45 associated switching between non-dissociated self-states or personality States and someone needs to give an answer or to incorporate it if one wants a total Theory dissociation one needs to to deal with this and a bit later I will come to a new diagnosis in the diagnostic and statistical manual five atypical did States atypical states of dissociative identity disorder multiple personalities okay like every theory in Psychology there’s a metaphysical layer to to structure and dissociation it’s a associated switching between non-dissociated self-states or personality States and someone needs to give an answer or to incorporate it if one wants a total Theory dissociation one needs to to deal with this and a bit later I will come to a new diagnosis in the diagnostic and statistical manual five atypical did States atypical states of dissociative identity disorder multiple personalities okay like every theory in Psychology there’s a metaphysical layer to to structure and dissociation it’s a
134. 89:29 Theory suggests that each one of us is born with a psychobiological series of mechanisms or systems subsystems they are inborn they’re self-organizing they’re self-stabilizing and they’re homeostatic they’re like operating systems like Windows you know or Android so they’re like operating systems but they are emotional operating systems and we’re all born with them and they’re there and we make use of them to cope with experiences and and so on and and these are called action Theory suggests that each one of us is born with a psychobiological series of mechanisms or systems subsystems they are inborn they’re self-organizing they’re self-stabilizing and they’re homeostatic they’re like operating systems like Windows you know or Android so they’re like operating systems but they are emotional operating systems and we’re all born with them and they’re there and we make use of them to cope with experiences and and so on and and these are called action
135. 90:07 systems so there are two types of action systems remember these are psychopiological entities something that every person in the world has according to the theory I regard this as metaphysics I mean it’s total speculation maybe it’s right maybe it’s wrong I don’t think it’s possible to falsify it it’s not amenable to the scientific method in my view so it’s not science it’s pseudoscience but if it makes their day not against it you know anyhow since this is what they are systems so there are two types of action systems remember these are psychopiological entities something that every person in the world has according to the theory I regard this as metaphysics I mean it’s total speculation maybe it’s right maybe it’s wrong I don’t think it’s possible to falsify it it’s not amenable to the scientific method in my view so it’s not science it’s pseudoscience but if it makes their day not against it you know anyhow since this is what they are
136. 90:43 saying I have to share it with you they said that there are action systems there are two types the first type of Action System it’s an operating system the first type of Action System guides daily living daily life and has a dimension which has to do with the survival of the species so this is the system that drives us to have children total failure in my case probably I don’t have it um this is the the system that drives us to have sex no comment here so this is the system that drives us to saying I have to share it with you they said that there are action systems there are two types the first type of Action System it’s an operating system the first type of Action System guides daily living daily life and has a dimension which has to do with the survival of the species so this is the system that drives us to have children total failure in my case probably I don’t have it um this is the the system that drives us to have sex no comment here so this is the system that drives us to
137. 91:17 behave to act in daily life self-efficaciously so as to guarantee favorable outcomes so as to allow us to propagate our genes within the gene pool of the species in other words to guarantee the survival of the species then there is a second Action System so this this will be an evolutionary Action System the second Action System and that is what is known as the four F’s the freeze the fight flight freeze and form this is a physical defense Action System and it’s reactive exclusively to threat behave to act in daily life self-efficaciously so as to guarantee favorable outcomes so as to allow us to propagate our genes within the gene pool of the species in other words to guarantee the survival of the species then there is a second Action System so this this will be an evolutionary Action System the second Action System and that is what is known as the four F’s the freeze the fight flight freeze and form this is a physical defense Action System and it’s reactive exclusively to threat
138. 91:52 whenever there’s a perceived threat this actual system Springs into action now if you put the different these two together if you put the the daily life Action System and the physical defense and the threat Action System put the two of them together they operate in Social circumstances when someone where you where we socialize or we work or act within social systems because they are they constitute when you put them together they constitute a social defense against abandonment and rejection whenever there’s a perceived threat this actual system Springs into action now if you put the different these two together if you put the the daily life Action System and the physical defense and the threat Action System put the two of them together they operate in Social circumstances when someone where you where we socialize or we work or act within social systems because they are they constitute when you put them together they constitute a social defense against abandonment and rejection
139. 92:30 so it it would tend to reason that in people with borderline personality disorder both these systems or maybe when these systems work together they go Haywire because what happens in bottle and personality disorder when there is a perceived risk of abandonmental rejection or when there is actual abundant rejection the the individual decoupences and acts out becomes Reckless self-destructive self-defeating in almost the individual begins to to be begins to become suicidal begins to destroy himself and so it it would tend to reason that in people with borderline personality disorder both these systems or maybe when these systems work together they go Haywire because what happens in bottle and personality disorder when there is a perceived risk of abandonmental rejection or when there is actual abundant rejection the the individual decoupences and acts out becomes Reckless self-destructive self-defeating in almost the individual begins to to be begins to become suicidal begins to destroy himself and
140. 93:08 everyone around him so in borderline the Confluence the combination of these two action systems which usually operate in Social circumstances and interpersonal relationships this Confluence Has a Glitch it goes Haywire and the borderline when these two systems collude combine cooperate to work within Society and they go bad they go Haywire the borderline goes Haywire it becomes self-destructive and other destructive loses empathy for example becomes Reckless becomes defined becomes impulsive aggressive even violent everyone around him so in borderline the Confluence the combination of these two action systems which usually operate in Social circumstances and interpersonal relationships this Confluence Has a Glitch it goes Haywire and the borderline when these two systems collude combine cooperate to work within Society and they go bad they go Haywire the borderline goes Haywire it becomes self-destructive and other destructive loses empathy for example becomes Reckless becomes defined becomes impulsive aggressive even violent
141. 93:55 so this is the first function of the combination of these two action systems and there is when you put the two of them together what you also get is what is called the interval receptive defense interval receptive events is the defenses we have against mental content voices memories you know mental contact content that is very very upsetting very egoistonic paralyzing even now we all have these defense interceptive receptive difference but uh in dissociated people in people with borderline personality disorder in my so this is the first function of the combination of these two action systems and there is when you put the two of them together what you also get is what is called the interval receptive defense interval receptive events is the defenses we have against mental content voices memories you know mental contact content that is very very upsetting very egoistonic paralyzing even now we all have these defense interceptive receptive difference but uh in dissociated people in people with borderline personality disorder in my
142. 94:42 view of narcissistic personality disorder the inter-receptive defense again goes heavy it protects against metal conduit yes and but it protects too effectively too efficiently so as to slice the mental mental content off to cut it off to give no access and that is why for example the narcissist cannot access his emotions this is a very the internal receptive defense is like all the infantile defense mechanisms put together primitive defenses like splitting combined with some sophisticated defenses like passive aggression and view of narcissistic personality disorder the inter-receptive defense again goes heavy it protects against metal conduit yes and but it protects too effectively too efficiently so as to slice the mental mental content off to cut it off to give no access and that is why for example the narcissist cannot access his emotions this is a very the internal receptive defense is like all the infantile defense mechanisms put together primitive defenses like splitting combined with some sophisticated defenses like passive aggression and
143. 95:26 together they are the interim receptive defense again in normal people it’s very useful in dissociative and personally disordered people it it creates dysfunction because you have no access to Big parts of your memory so you have to confabulate of your identity so you have no identity there’s identity diffusion and disturbance of you have no access to your emotions so you’re emotionally dysregulated like the borderline or emotionally dead like the narcissist and psychopath there’s inter-receptive defense can go together they are the interim receptive defense again in normal people it’s very useful in dissociative and personally disordered people it it creates dysfunction because you have no access to Big parts of your memory so you have to confabulate of your identity so you have no identity there’s identity diffusion and disturbance of you have no access to your emotions so you’re emotionally dysregulated like the borderline or emotionally dead like the narcissist and psychopath there’s inter-receptive defense can go
144. 96:05 too far like everything else the source of this Theory I mean this year is very old actually um the Founding Father of the theory is an army doctor British Army doctor his name was Charles Samuel Myers and in 1940 he found himself treating acutely traumatized War veterans already from Dunkirk and you know other other battle scene battle theaters compet theaters in Europe so he was treating he was treating badly badly traumatized more Ventures and he came up with the idea of action action systems too far like everything else the source of this Theory I mean this year is very old actually um the Founding Father of the theory is an army doctor British Army doctor his name was Charles Samuel Myers and in 1940 he found himself treating acutely traumatized War veterans already from Dunkirk and you know other other battle scene battle theaters compet theaters in Europe so he was treating he was treating badly badly traumatized more Ventures and he came up with the idea of action action systems
145. 96:48 and so on he said that he suggested that when someone is traumatized his personality actually breaks into one part is he called the ANP the Apparently normal part so he said when you’re traumatized you break and there’s a part that is called apparently normal and there’s another part EP and that’s the emotional part this is a reaction to trauma it doesn’t happen in daily life only when you’re exposed to trauma Myers called the ANP and the ep the Apparently normal part in the emotional and so on he said that he suggested that when someone is traumatized his personality actually breaks into one part is he called the ANP the Apparently normal part so he said when you’re traumatized you break and there’s a part that is called apparently normal and there’s another part EP and that’s the emotional part this is a reaction to trauma it doesn’t happen in daily life only when you’re exposed to trauma Myers called the ANP and the ep the Apparently normal part in the emotional
146. 97:24 part he called them personalities but today we realize these are not personalities so we call them parts Action System number one the Action System that is in charge of daily life is connected to the ANP to the Apparently normal part Action System number two reaction system that that has to do with physical defense under threat is connected to the emotional part to the EP now let’s delve a bit deeper into these two structures that materialize suddenly out of thin air in reaction to trauma what is VP the emotional part part he called them personalities but today we realize these are not personalities so we call them parts Action System number one the Action System that is in charge of daily life is connected to the ANP to the Apparently normal part Action System number two reaction system that that has to do with physical defense under threat is connected to the emotional part to the EP now let’s delve a bit deeper into these two structures that materialize suddenly out of thin air in reaction to trauma what is VP the emotional part
147. 98:07 the emotional part contains Vivid trauma recall in other words you’ve been exposed to trauma the trauma could be pinpointed can be a single event a car accident a plane crash um [Music] you’ve been you’ve been a tour at War so your body being blown apart a divorce even a pinpointed divorce a cheating being cheated on the death of a loved one all these are all these Creeds post-traumatic stress disorder and so the ep the emotional part contains a vivid recollection of this but not in the sense that you sit back the emotional part contains Vivid trauma recall in other words you’ve been exposed to trauma the trauma could be pinpointed can be a single event a car accident a plane crash um [Music] you’ve been you’ve been a tour at War so your body being blown apart a divorce even a pinpointed divorce a cheating being cheated on the death of a loved one all these are all these Creeds post-traumatic stress disorder and so the ep the emotional part contains a vivid recollection of this but not in the sense that you sit back
148. 98:54 and say wow I remember the car crash it was really terrible no but you experience the car crash again and if this is really extreme you can’t tell reality apart from your flashback you are in the flashback you feel that you are in the car again having the accident you’re absolutely oblivious to your environment your wife talks to you you don’t listen which is a normal thing okay forget that your dog barks your is the television explodes like nothing you’re in the car you’re having the accident all over and say wow I remember the car crash it was really terrible no but you experience the car crash again and if this is really extreme you can’t tell reality apart from your flashback you are in the flashback you feel that you are in the car again having the accident you’re absolutely oblivious to your environment your wife talks to you you don’t listen which is a normal thing okay forget that your dog barks your is the television explodes like nothing you’re in the car you’re having the accident all over
149. 99:36 again you’re in the plane you’re crashing or you recall the exact minute that uh the Twin Towers collapsed or the very second where you have learned that your wife has treated of you these are all traumas and and flashbacks are stored in a container and this container is the EP the emotional part the emotional part contains not only the memory but all the emotions that went with the memory and these are known as vehement negative emotions vehement negative emotionality includes fear or helplessness anger guilt shame again you’re in the plane you’re crashing or you recall the exact minute that uh the Twin Towers collapsed or the very second where you have learned that your wife has treated of you these are all traumas and and flashbacks are stored in a container and this container is the EP the emotional part the emotional part contains not only the memory but all the emotions that went with the memory and these are known as vehement negative emotions vehement negative emotionality includes fear or helplessness anger guilt shame
150. 100:23 anticipatory anxiety so all these are stored with a vivid flashback of the traumatic event and either you experience these emotions or you are so afraid to experience them that you develop the exact opposite listlessness non-responsiveness and submissiveness submissive in the sense that you become a zombie you become a robot you react in slow-mo slow motion you know and if you’re pushed Beyond this you begin to derealize and depersonalize you feel that you are not in reality what’s happening is not real and you feel that anticipatory anxiety so all these are stored with a vivid flashback of the traumatic event and either you experience these emotions or you are so afraid to experience them that you develop the exact opposite listlessness non-responsiveness and submissiveness submissive in the sense that you become a zombie you become a robot you react in slow-mo slow motion you know and if you’re pushed Beyond this you begin to derealize and depersonalize you feel that you are not in reality what’s happening is not real and you feel that
151. 101:11 it’s not you but it’s happening to someone else who looks like you very much and you’re just mildly amused spectator and so all these all these are the residents the denizens of the emotional part the flashbacks the responses and they usually affect the body not the body but how you perceive your body so they bring about body dysmorphia you begin to perceive your body body wrongly or parts of your body wrongly and this they create a separate sense of self this is this is Extreme event related it’s not you but it’s happening to someone else who looks like you very much and you’re just mildly amused spectator and so all these all these are the residents the denizens of the emotional part the flashbacks the responses and they usually affect the body not the body but how you perceive your body so they bring about body dysmorphia you begin to perceive your body body wrongly or parts of your body wrongly and this they create a separate sense of self this is this is Extreme event related
152. 101:53 pinpointer trauma what we had discovered later much later in the early 90s through the agency of Judith Hermann is that repeated exposure to such events creates a much more complex EP complex um emotional part we’ll talk about it a bit later and this is of course complex trauma or cptsd complex post-traumatic stress disorder now there’s a big disagreement between some of the proponents of of this Theory and Herman and so on and again we’ll touch upon it a bit later but there is a general agreement that pinpointer trauma what we had discovered later much later in the early 90s through the agency of Judith Hermann is that repeated exposure to such events creates a much more complex EP complex um emotional part we’ll talk about it a bit later and this is of course complex trauma or cptsd complex post-traumatic stress disorder now there’s a big disagreement between some of the proponents of of this Theory and Herman and so on and again we’ll touch upon it a bit later but there is a general agreement that
153. 102:42 there are two types of traumatic dissociative reaction to an event like trauma and to prolonged anticipatory long-term repetitive predictable throne now a lot the the emotional part had been described by numerous Scholars and each one gave his own favorite name to the emotional part loafer called the emotional part the war seller Wong called it the survivor mode Tober who who conducted amazing studies of Holocaust Survivors so topically the child part of the Holocaust Survivor compound personality there are two types of traumatic dissociative reaction to an event like trauma and to prolonged anticipatory long-term repetitive predictable throne now a lot the the emotional part had been described by numerous Scholars and each one gave his own favorite name to the emotional part loafer called the emotional part the war seller Wong called it the survivor mode Tober who who conducted amazing studies of Holocaust Survivors so topically the child part of the Holocaust Survivor compound personality
154. 103:32 called it the Zombie Part in trauma-related borderline personality disorder klaft and Putnam called it the altar Alters alternative Personalities in did the associative identity disorder or used to be called multiple personalities and Brewing called it identities associated with situationally accessible trauma-related memories no one has ever accused Brewing of being catchy and all these include abuser rage victim rage and passivity the Rage of the abuser is internalized actually and there is a rageous victim for having called it the Zombie Part in trauma-related borderline personality disorder klaft and Putnam called it the altar Alters alternative Personalities in did the associative identity disorder or used to be called multiple personalities and Brewing called it identities associated with situationally accessible trauma-related memories no one has ever accused Brewing of being catchy and all these include abuser rage victim rage and passivity the Rage of the abuser is internalized actually and there is a rageous victim for having
155. 104:14 been victimized but the clash between the two create specificity this is the repeat emotional part what about the Apparently normal part the ANP the main role of the ANP is to cut off the EP the main job of the ANP is to make sure the EP never gets access to consciousness never interrupts and intrudes on the conscious functioning conscious memory conscious identity conscious everything of the person so the ANP represses traumatic memories he the this structure avoids triggers and it avoids triggering the trauma been victimized but the clash between the two create specificity this is the repeat emotional part what about the Apparently normal part the ANP the main role of the ANP is to cut off the EP the main job of the ANP is to make sure the EP never gets access to consciousness never interrupts and intrudes on the conscious functioning conscious memory conscious identity conscious everything of the person so the ANP represses traumatic memories he the this structure avoids triggers and it avoids triggering the trauma
156. 104:58 avoids flashbacks avoids remembering the trauma avoids re-traumatizing avoid avoids re-experiencing the trauma avoids going there you know tries its best the amp tries its best to dissociate the trauma And the emotions attended on the trauma in short the EP so the ANP does this using a variety of mechanisms and techniques and strategies and tools Amnesia of course is the most dominant dissociative amnesia but there’s many others there are many others for example sensory and anesthesia restricted emotions avoids flashbacks avoids remembering the trauma avoids re-traumatizing avoid avoids re-experiencing the trauma avoids going there you know tries its best the amp tries its best to dissociate the trauma And the emotions attended on the trauma in short the EP so the ANP does this using a variety of mechanisms and techniques and strategies and tools Amnesia of course is the most dominant dissociative amnesia but there’s many others there are many others for example sensory and anesthesia restricted emotions
157. 105:41 numbness depersonalization many again the ANP had been previously described and renamed by many others loafer called it the adoptive service long called it the normal personality functioning mode October who studied Holocaust Survivors called it the adult part of the Holocaust Survivor compound personality called it the coping part in in borderline it’s been called The Host personality or the moderator personality in did um and Bruin remember the guy who can never say anything in less than 46 words Bruin numbness depersonalization many again the ANP had been previously described and renamed by many others loafer called it the adoptive service long called it the normal personality functioning mode October who studied Holocaust Survivors called it the adult part of the Holocaust Survivor compound personality called it the coping part in in borderline it’s been called The Host personality or the moderator personality in did um and Bruin remember the guy who can never say anything in less than 46 words Bruin
158. 106:29 called it identities associated with verbally accessible memories of General autobiographical experience and of some elements of traumatic events and yes I’m kidding you not now there is a war it’s a conflict Zone in the trauma traumatized person’s mind there’s an ongoing War belligerence and conflict with many many attendant dissonances between the ANP whose job is to suppress the EP and the EP whose job is Insurgency Insurrection and acts of terrorism the EP is like uh the colonies colonies and The NPS called it identities associated with verbally accessible memories of General autobiographical experience and of some elements of traumatic events and yes I’m kidding you not now there is a war it’s a conflict Zone in the trauma traumatized person’s mind there’s an ongoing War belligerence and conflict with many many attendant dissonances between the ANP whose job is to suppress the EP and the EP whose job is Insurgency Insurrection and acts of terrorism the EP is like uh the colonies colonies and The NPS
159. 107:19 like the colonial power you know keep it away from the media don’t let anyone at home know what we’re doing here concentration camps killing women and children it’s not for the delicate conscious of people at home back home so the znp and the EP and they’re fighting all the time and the EP interferes with the ANP in truths obstructs undermines attacks tries to like intrusion detection system tries to find find the vulnerabilities the access points you know installs malware behind the the like the colonial power you know keep it away from the media don’t let anyone at home know what we’re doing here concentration camps killing women and children it’s not for the delicate conscious of people at home back home so the znp and the EP and they’re fighting all the time and the EP interferes with the ANP in truths obstructs undermines attacks tries to like intrusion detection system tries to find find the vulnerabilities the access points you know installs malware behind the the
160. 108:02 front lines send spies the EP is in constant war with the ANP because it is a container for trauma-related memories and overwhelming and disorganized emotions no in the site many so-called and self-style empaths actually what they describe is not empathy at all it’s this defenseless defenselessness this lack of skin this over being overwhelmed by disorganized emotions and emotional fragments related to trauma the trauma is like a hand grenade you know it splinters everything it fragments everything it’s a mess front lines send spies the EP is in constant war with the ANP because it is a container for trauma-related memories and overwhelming and disorganized emotions no in the site many so-called and self-style empaths actually what they describe is not empathy at all it’s this defenseless defenselessness this lack of skin this over being overwhelmed by disorganized emotions and emotional fragments related to trauma the trauma is like a hand grenade you know it splinters everything it fragments everything it’s a mess
161. 108:51 it’s very easy to confuse this emotional dysregulation with empathy but it’s not empathy actually never goes with emotional dysregulation emotional dysregulation leads to the exact opposite of empathy this empathy but this for another video so the EP is disagronate it contains this broken memories damaged goods total chaos in this organization and it wants to intrude on the ANP because it’s repressed and suppressed and has this pent-up energy Freud said that when you repress something when you repress a memory you it’s very easy to confuse this emotional dysregulation with empathy but it’s not empathy actually never goes with emotional dysregulation emotional dysregulation leads to the exact opposite of empathy this empathy but this for another video so the EP is disagronate it contains this broken memories damaged goods total chaos in this organization and it wants to intrude on the ANP because it’s repressed and suppressed and has this pent-up energy Freud said that when you repress something when you repress a memory you
162. 109:33 repress the memory and the energy of the memory and this energy works in the unconscious until it erupts now in psychoanalysis we manage the eruption the eruption is managed and structured and controlled and this is called up reaction but in classic traumatized in a classic traumatized person who that who is not attending therapy is in daily life there is this battle going on and the EP has a lot of energy it’s like an improvised explosive device it’s like a nuclear bomb to be more precise it is a lot of energy and it repress the memory and the energy of the memory and this energy works in the unconscious until it erupts now in psychoanalysis we manage the eruption the eruption is managed and structured and controlled and this is called up reaction but in classic traumatized in a classic traumatized person who that who is not attending therapy is in daily life there is this battle going on and the EP has a lot of energy it’s like an improvised explosive device it’s like a nuclear bomb to be more precise it is a lot of energy and it
163. 110:12 threatens the precarious balance that the ANP has succeeded to create now the amp in itself is a pathological structure it is sick and weak it’s a lost ditch defense against recalling the horrors of the trauma and so this battle if the EP wins if the EP disrupts the EMP the ep the emotional part if it comes to the surface if there is uncontrolled of reaction if it reaches consciousness It’s The End it leads to Absolute demolition of impulse control impulsive behaviors Defiance a reckless recklessness threatens the precarious balance that the ANP has succeeded to create now the amp in itself is a pathological structure it is sick and weak it’s a lost ditch defense against recalling the horrors of the trauma and so this battle if the EP wins if the EP disrupts the EMP the ep the emotional part if it comes to the surface if there is uncontrolled of reaction if it reaches consciousness It’s The End it leads to Absolute demolition of impulse control impulsive behaviors Defiance a reckless recklessness
164. 110:59 anywhere from from promiscuity to drug abuse maladaptive reactants reactance is an element of psychopathy so it leads to it leads to the switching if it’s in a borderline for example it switches the borderline to psychopath if it’s in the psychopath it switches the psychopath to malignant narcissists if it happens to a narcissist it switches the narcissists to a borderline this is the switching mechanism the the victory the Triumph of the EP over the ANP lists immediately via collapse and multiplication to anywhere from from promiscuity to drug abuse maladaptive reactants reactance is an element of psychopathy so it leads to it leads to the switching if it’s in a borderline for example it switches the borderline to psychopath if it’s in the psychopath it switches the psychopath to malignant narcissists if it happens to a narcissist it switches the narcissists to a borderline this is the switching mechanism the the victory the Triumph of the EP over the ANP lists immediately via collapse and multiplication to
165. 111:44 switching between the three states overt um collapsed and covert in each of these three states is the exact equivalent the parallel of what today we call personality disorders the collapse state of the of the psychopath the covert state of the psychopath is actually grandiose borderline or narcissist the covert state of the of the narcissist is very very close to borderline the you’re beginning to see that these are simply mirror images if you look from the left you see borderline but if you look from the switching between the three states overt um collapsed and covert in each of these three states is the exact equivalent the parallel of what today we call personality disorders the collapse state of the of the psychopath the covert state of the psychopath is actually grandiose borderline or narcissist the covert state of the of the narcissist is very very close to borderline the you’re beginning to see that these are simply mirror images if you look from the left you see borderline but if you look from the
166. 112:28 right you see a collapsed state of a narcissist if you look from the right you see a psychopath but if you look from the left you see a collapse state of a borderline that’s a psychopath secondary second one so um it it gives rise to a unifying Theory where actually we say okay if trauma management fails whenever trauma management fails via collapse and modification very switching between alternative parts switching between alternative parts and each of these parts is actually what today we call erroneously a personality right you see a collapsed state of a narcissist if you look from the right you see a psychopath but if you look from the left you see a collapse state of a borderline that’s a psychopath secondary second one so um it it gives rise to a unifying Theory where actually we say okay if trauma management fails whenever trauma management fails via collapse and modification very switching between alternative parts switching between alternative parts and each of these parts is actually what today we call erroneously a personality
167. 113:22 disorder so again when the borderline collapses she switches to a part to an EP to a part or to the to another amp which is a secondary psychopath which is today what we call secondary cycle this is a proliferation of entities because what we’re doing we are like the three blind wise men who were brought to inspect an elephant one of them had this his leg one of them touched his trunk one of them touches tail and of course they had three totally different description of the animal because they were blind disorder so again when the borderline collapses she switches to a part to an EP to a part or to the to another amp which is a secondary psychopath which is today what we call secondary cycle this is a proliferation of entities because what we’re doing we are like the three blind wise men who were brought to inspect an elephant one of them had this his leg one of them touched his trunk one of them touches tail and of course they had three totally different description of the animal because they were blind
168. 114:05 but it was the same elephant and there’s only a single elephant dissociation and Trauma related structure and in this sense I agree with you structure and within this structure depending on the on the results of the war between the A and P and the EP we have collapsed States and we have covert States the collapse is brought on by this war and part of this war or another name for this war is multiplication not this is a modification and so when the war one day EP with the trauma and the traumatic but it was the same elephant and there’s only a single elephant dissociation and Trauma related structure and in this sense I agree with you structure and within this structure depending on the on the results of the war between the A and P and the EP we have collapsed States and we have covert States the collapse is brought on by this war and part of this war or another name for this war is multiplication not this is a modification and so when the war one day EP with the trauma and the traumatic
169. 114:46 element wins the war there is switching from overt to collapse from collapse to covert and each of these states is what today we call personality disorder um the ANP of course is conditioned to be afraid of the EP so EP is a serious threat to the survival of the individual and more broadly in evolutionary terms survival of the species so the ANP is very afraid of the very fearful of the ep the emotionally part and it reacts to the emotional Parts attempts to intrude it reacts to the attacks by the emotional part emotional part is element wins the war there is switching from overt to collapse from collapse to covert and each of these states is what today we call personality disorder um the ANP of course is conditioned to be afraid of the EP so EP is a serious threat to the survival of the individual and more broadly in evolutionary terms survival of the species so the ANP is very afraid of the very fearful of the ep the emotionally part and it reacts to the emotional Parts attempts to intrude it reacts to the attacks by the emotional part emotional part is
170. 115:34 like like a virus I mean computer virus or actually like a Rivers as well he tries to Infiltrate The System and then replicate so the anp’s job is to prevent this from happening and it uses everything every tool and weaponing is awesome in its Arsenal to prevent the EP from taking over it Alters Consciousness it lowers Consciousness or even goes unconscious it encourages behaviors which lower Consciousness for example substance abuse alcohol abuse addictions compulsions self-mutilation self-mutilation in such situation is in like like a virus I mean computer virus or actually like a Rivers as well he tries to Infiltrate The System and then replicate so the anp’s job is to prevent this from happening and it uses everything every tool and weaponing is awesome in its Arsenal to prevent the EP from taking over it Alters Consciousness it lowers Consciousness or even goes unconscious it encourages behaviors which lower Consciousness for example substance abuse alcohol abuse addictions compulsions self-mutilation self-mutilation in such situation is in
171. 116:17 order to silence the inner voice of the EP to silence the memory of the trauma and the ANP is so terrified of the EP and its recurrent incursions its recurrent Insurgency in its its terrorist attacks so the NP is so terrified of this that it develops phobia phobias multiple phobias it’s very much like the response of the United States after 9 11. we react to phobias we react with phobias by to such intrusion so the AMD develops phobias anyhow it’s a weakened pathological structure it’s it’s a splinter of the order to silence the inner voice of the EP to silence the memory of the trauma and the ANP is so terrified of the EP and its recurrent incursions its recurrent Insurgency in its its terrorist attacks so the NP is so terrified of this that it develops phobia phobias multiple phobias it’s very much like the response of the United States after 9 11. we react to phobias we react with phobias by to such intrusion so the AMD develops phobias anyhow it’s a weakened pathological structure it’s it’s a splinter of the
172. 117:02 original personality which was fragmented and fractured by the explosion of the original trauma so it’s weak to start with it’s very it becomes paranoid it begins to develop a secretary ideation and persecutive internalized per secondary objects so it creates phobias it begins to be afraid of thinking of emotive so it develops obsessive compulsive internalized rituals don’t think this don’t think about this word don’t think about this word or externalize obsessive compulsive rituals wash your hands 10 original personality which was fragmented and fractured by the explosion of the original trauma so it’s weak to start with it’s very it becomes paranoid it begins to develop a secretary ideation and persecutive internalized per secondary objects so it creates phobias it begins to be afraid of thinking of emotive so it develops obsessive compulsive internalized rituals don’t think this don’t think about this word don’t think about this word or externalize obsessive compulsive rituals wash your hands 10
173. 117:39 times a minute you know so afraid of of mental action it begins to be afraid of the dissociative parts it begins to deny and repress and suppress and fight in battle not only that the trauma the original trauma but anything remotely that is remotely to do with it so he develops aversion to triggers uh it becomes terrified of attachment and intimacy of losing attachment so attachment loss phobia of attachment loss because attachment and intimacy uh can present a panoply a plethora a compendium of triggers when times a minute you know so afraid of of mental action it begins to be afraid of the dissociative parts it begins to deny and repress and suppress and fight in battle not only that the trauma the original trauma but anything remotely that is remotely to do with it so he develops aversion to triggers uh it becomes terrified of attachment and intimacy of losing attachment so attachment loss phobia of attachment loss because attachment and intimacy uh can present a panoply a plethora a compendium of triggers when
174. 118:25 you’re in a relationship and it’s intimate your chances to be triggered are much higher so the ANP teaches the trauma victim to avoid attachment avoid intimacy avoid loss avoid normal life avoid any change and there is a pernicious very sick process called evaluative conditioning evaluating evaluative conditioning is when we associate neutral stimuli totally irrelevant stimuli like good morning or would you like coffee or looking at this glass oh I don’t know at this planet total totally neutral signal associating you’re in a relationship and it’s intimate your chances to be triggered are much higher so the ANP teaches the trauma victim to avoid attachment avoid intimacy avoid loss avoid normal life avoid any change and there is a pernicious very sick process called evaluative conditioning evaluating evaluative conditioning is when we associate neutral stimuli totally irrelevant stimuli like good morning or would you like coffee or looking at this glass oh I don’t know at this planet total totally neutral signal associating
175. 119:10 neutral stimuli with negative or positive outcomes and with negative or positive feelings this is called evaluative conditioning why is it bad why is it pernicious why is it totally destructive and self-defitting because neutral stimuli are neutral if you evaluate them improperly you are likely to react improperly if you evaluate them negatively you are likely to be re-traumatized suffer be in pain be in fear withdrawal from life if you evaluate neutral stimuli positively you are likely to end up with neutral stimuli with negative or positive outcomes and with negative or positive feelings this is called evaluative conditioning why is it bad why is it pernicious why is it totally destructive and self-defitting because neutral stimuli are neutral if you evaluate them improperly you are likely to react improperly if you evaluate them negatively you are likely to be re-traumatized suffer be in pain be in fear withdrawal from life if you evaluate neutral stimuli positively you are likely to end up with
176. 119:54 very bad people in Reckless situations and be I don’t know sexually assaulted so it’s bad to misinterpret the value the value sign of a stimuli the stimulus stimulus is neutral should be neutral not motivated to action so when a neutral stimulus was previously connected previously associated with a negative stimulus the neutral stimulus acquires negative overtones and when a neutral stimulus has been associated with a positive stimulus in the past it requires positive overtones and this is evaluative conditioning very bad people in Reckless situations and be I don’t know sexually assaulted so it’s bad to misinterpret the value the value sign of a stimuli the stimulus stimulus is neutral should be neutral not motivated to action so when a neutral stimulus was previously connected previously associated with a negative stimulus the neutral stimulus acquires negative overtones and when a neutral stimulus has been associated with a positive stimulus in the past it requires positive overtones and this is evaluative conditioning
177. 120:39 total distortion total Distortion of the world and so evaluative conditioning is is used by the ANP in the battle against the EP the ANP says let’s avoid all negative outcomes let’s avoid all negative feelings and let’s avoid all the stimuli that had ever been Associated however remotely tangentially and indirectly with negativity so this process is called constriction constriction of Life constriction of the world your life become narrower narrower narrower narrower focused until it’s a total distortion total Distortion of the world and so evaluative conditioning is is used by the ANP in the battle against the EP the ANP says let’s avoid all negative outcomes let’s avoid all negative feelings and let’s avoid all the stimuli that had ever been Associated however remotely tangentially and indirectly with negativity so this process is called constriction constriction of Life constriction of the world your life become narrower narrower narrower narrower focused until it’s a
178. 121:19 single point on the screen in gun an individual can have one A and P and one EP and this is called primary uh primary dissociation primary structural dissociation an individual can have one A and P and two or more EPS emotional Parts there will be secondary structural dissociation or an individual can have multiple amps and multiple eps and that will be a tertiary structural dissociation and this is actually did dissociative identity diesel both A and P and EP according to the theory have a rudimentary sense of self single point on the screen in gun an individual can have one A and P and one EP and this is called primary uh primary dissociation primary structural dissociation an individual can have one A and P and two or more EPS emotional Parts there will be secondary structural dissociation or an individual can have multiple amps and multiple eps and that will be a tertiary structural dissociation and this is actually did dissociative identity diesel both A and P and EP according to the theory have a rudimentary sense of self
179. 122:06 there is an eye behind each one of them the EP if it could talk it would say I feel bad I feel afraid I feel angry I feel ashamed I feel guilty and the amp if it could talk would have said you know I am terrified of the EP I must suppress this memory I cannot go through this again if I go through this again I will disintegrate and die Etc both of them have like a narrative voice which is very close to the to Junk’s constant leadership or to Freud’s perhaps ego maybe Eco plus superego because there is an eye behind each one of them the EP if it could talk it would say I feel bad I feel afraid I feel angry I feel ashamed I feel guilty and the amp if it could talk would have said you know I am terrified of the EP I must suppress this memory I cannot go through this again if I go through this again I will disintegrate and die Etc both of them have like a narrative voice which is very close to the to Junk’s constant leadership or to Freud’s perhaps ego maybe Eco plus superego because
180. 122:44 there’s an element of inner critical and both of them have exclusive access to some memories in other words the EP has access to memories that the ANP doesn’t have access to because amp doesn’t want the access the ANP doesn’t want to be seen debt with these memories he doesn’t want to remember them it always doesn’t want to store them it doesn’t want to classify them it doesn’t want to work with them he doesn’t want to use them he wants to forget so the memories that only the EP there’s an element of inner critical and both of them have exclusive access to some memories in other words the EP has access to memories that the ANP doesn’t have access to because amp doesn’t want the access the ANP doesn’t want to be seen debt with these memories he doesn’t want to remember them it always doesn’t want to store them it doesn’t want to classify them it doesn’t want to work with them he doesn’t want to use them he wants to forget so the memories that only the EP
181. 123:16 accesses because the EMP give up on them and of course the other way their memories that the ANP is using but would not be conducive to maintaining the fresh memory of the trauma the flashbacks so the EP is avoiding these numbers again I I refer you to my lecture about identity and memory on this channel so lecture that I give to my students so dissociative parts vary in many many ways in the degree of intrusion in the avoidance of trauma-related cues in effect regulation in psychological defenses in capacity for insight in accesses because the EMP give up on them and of course the other way their memories that the ANP is using but would not be conducive to maintaining the fresh memory of the trauma the flashbacks so the EP is avoiding these numbers again I I refer you to my lecture about identity and memory on this channel so lecture that I give to my students so dissociative parts vary in many many ways in the degree of intrusion in the avoidance of trauma-related cues in effect regulation in psychological defenses in capacity for insight in
182. 123:58 response to stimuli body movements behaviors cognitive schemes attention attachment Styles sense of self self-destructiveness promiscuity suicidality flexibility and adaptability in daily life structural division autonomy number number of substructures subjective experience overt manifestations dissociative symptoms is all these so you can’t just say EP is this A and P is this it’s so crucially depends on the personal history of the individual on the exact type of the trauma on previous reactions to trauma response to stimuli body movements behaviors cognitive schemes attention attachment Styles sense of self self-destructiveness promiscuity suicidality flexibility and adaptability in daily life structural division autonomy number number of substructures subjective experience overt manifestations dissociative symptoms is all these so you can’t just say EP is this A and P is this it’s so crucially depends on the personal history of the individual on the exact type of the trauma on previous reactions to trauma
183. 124:43 on coping mechanisms etc etc consider for example dissociative symptoms they are negative symptoms and positive symptoms negative symptoms have to do with loss loss of something so you have amnesia numbness impaired thinking loss of skills loss of needs wishes fantasies loss of motor functions lots of motor skills loss of sensation all these are losses some people have this some people are dead but you have positive dissociative symptoms when mental content or functions of one part intrude on another part on coping mechanisms etc etc consider for example dissociative symptoms they are negative symptoms and positive symptoms negative symptoms have to do with loss loss of something so you have amnesia numbness impaired thinking loss of skills loss of needs wishes fantasies loss of motor functions lots of motor skills loss of sensation all these are losses some people have this some people are dead but you have positive dissociative symptoms when mental content or functions of one part intrude on another part
184. 125:21 so this is very very close to effect to psychotic disorder to schizophrenia is these people for example hear voices the war is so big that the EP uses everything to intrude and to to break through the defenses like The Siege the famous sieges of the of the Middle Ages we went to break through the Fortress Fortress was you know with catapults and whatever you had so the EP is using voices we’re using psychosis to break through the A and B non-relational behaviors ticks pains with no reason you have psychoform and so this is very very close to effect to psychotic disorder to schizophrenia is these people for example hear voices the war is so big that the EP uses everything to intrude and to to break through the defenses like The Siege the famous sieges of the of the Middle Ages we went to break through the Fortress Fortress was you know with catapults and whatever you had so the EP is using voices we’re using psychosis to break through the A and B non-relational behaviors ticks pains with no reason you have psychoform and
185. 125:58 somatoform dissociative symptoms is what Freud used to call conversion symptoms and so we should narrow it a bit dissociative symptom is a dissociative symptom only if there’s a clear evidence that it comes from some dissociative part of the personality and also if the symptom is found in one or some parts of the personality but never in all of them so if you have a promiscuous woman then in what in she is always promiscuous even when she switches as a borderline for example she switches between somatoform dissociative symptoms is what Freud used to call conversion symptoms and so we should narrow it a bit dissociative symptom is a dissociative symptom only if there’s a clear evidence that it comes from some dissociative part of the personality and also if the symptom is found in one or some parts of the personality but never in all of them so if you have a promiscuous woman then in what in she is always promiscuous even when she switches as a borderline for example she switches between
186. 126:40 clearly you know dissociative parts she switches from borderline to to secondary psychopath or to narcissist from over to covert and from covert to collapse that I mean with all these switches in all these situations she’s promiscuous so that promiscuity is not a dissociative symptom but if she becomes promiscuous only when she switches from borderline to psychopath or only when she switches from over to covert that would strongly indicate that it’s a dissociative symptom amp and EP are not totally divorced of clearly you know dissociative parts she switches from borderline to to secondary psychopath or to narcissist from over to covert and from covert to collapse that I mean with all these switches in all these situations she’s promiscuous so that promiscuity is not a dissociative symptom but if she becomes promiscuous only when she switches from borderline to psychopath or only when she switches from over to covert that would strongly indicate that it’s a dissociative symptom amp and EP are not totally divorced of
187. 127:19 course they’re in the same skull using the same brain for those of you who have brains they share a lack of full realization of the trauma of course the what the inp knows EP doesn’t know what EP knows a p doesn’t want to look and so on there’s a kind of Chinese war between firewall they don’t they don’t talk too often meaningfully at least they’re like very old married couples so they don’t realize the trauma fully if they were put together integrated fewest you would have a clear processing course they’re in the same skull using the same brain for those of you who have brains they share a lack of full realization of the trauma of course the what the inp knows EP doesn’t know what EP knows a p doesn’t want to look and so on there’s a kind of Chinese war between firewall they don’t they don’t talk too often meaningfully at least they’re like very old married couples so they don’t realize the trauma fully if they were put together integrated fewest you would have a clear processing
188. 127:59 full-fledged processing of the trauma which is what we do in therapy but as it is the trauma is segregated both of them have obstructive adaptive deficits both of them are not very adoptive they they don’t help the person much too much energy is going into separating segregating avoiding fighting numbing you know so they’re not very adaptive and they both lead to significant dissociative symptoms structural dissociation is a permanent pathological state it requires treatment to fuse the parts full-fledged processing of the trauma which is what we do in therapy but as it is the trauma is segregated both of them have obstructive adaptive deficits both of them are not very adoptive they they don’t help the person much too much energy is going into separating segregating avoiding fighting numbing you know so they’re not very adaptive and they both lead to significant dissociative symptoms structural dissociation is a permanent pathological state it requires treatment to fuse the parts
189. 128:34 and it requires social support and restorative experiences after the trauma as we discovered that having a social safety Network just a little affection and comfort uh having some restorative experiences good experiences they buffer they buffer they even reverse post-traumatic effects even better than therapy and in therapy we commit usually three mistakes and these mistakes give the emotional part the upper hand we we actually re-traumatize the patient we cause damage one we rarify the parts we tend to treat and it requires social support and restorative experiences after the trauma as we discovered that having a social safety Network just a little affection and comfort uh having some restorative experiences good experiences they buffer they buffer they even reverse post-traumatic effects even better than therapy and in therapy we commit usually three mistakes and these mistakes give the emotional part the upper hand we we actually re-traumatize the patient we cause damage one we rarify the parts we tend to treat
190. 129:15 each part that appears after the switching as though we are talking to another person we don’t really communicate across the parts but we communicate with each part separately thereby encouraging the emergence of multiple personality disorder that’s why many Skeptics say that multiple personalities disorder is an electrogenic thing it’s induced by the therapist the second mistake is that we put undue emphasis on differences between dissociative parts rather than on the commonalities each part that appears after the switching as though we are talking to another person we don’t really communicate across the parts but we communicate with each part separately thereby encouraging the emergence of multiple personality disorder that’s why many Skeptics say that multiple personalities disorder is an electrogenic thing it’s induced by the therapist the second mistake is that we put undue emphasis on differences between dissociative parts rather than on the commonalities
191. 129:46 the third mistake is that we put a premature focus on traumatic memories but in cold therapy these mistakes are the strong points these mistakes are the main techniques it is we want to break the narcissist we want the narcissist to re-experience this trauma in the form of a flashback we want the narcissist to go through that horrible harrowing torturous destructive app terrifying period in his life and to go through it really not semantically but episodically to experience the episode to live through the third mistake is that we put a premature focus on traumatic memories but in cold therapy these mistakes are the strong points these mistakes are the main techniques it is we want to break the narcissist we want the narcissist to re-experience this trauma in the form of a flashback we want the narcissist to go through that horrible harrowing torturous destructive app terrifying period in his life and to go through it really not semantically but episodically to experience the episode to live through
192. 130:30 it the only hope for destroying for getting rid of the false self so these mistakes in classic therapy of classic trauma victims like women with borderline in treating narcissists via code therapy I took these mistakes and I made them the foundation stones of called therapy when the ANP is full functioning and dominant PTSD is delayed of course it’s the main job of the ANP to keep PTSD and B and dissociative symptoms are latent but there’s a price the NP consumes a lot of energy and prohibits proscribes it the only hope for destroying for getting rid of the false self so these mistakes in classic therapy of classic trauma victims like women with borderline in treating narcissists via code therapy I took these mistakes and I made them the foundation stones of called therapy when the ANP is full functioning and dominant PTSD is delayed of course it’s the main job of the ANP to keep PTSD and B and dissociative symptoms are latent but there’s a price the NP consumes a lot of energy and prohibits proscribes
193. 131:10 is it’s prescriptive it prevents it inhibits certain behaviors so functioning is reduced when the ANP is successful functioning is reduced and even people who delay the PTSD by having a successful A and B they are much less functional than people who don’t have PTSD at all my disagreement I have many disagreements with the theory but one of them is that I believe the ANP fluctuates I believe there are periods of high functioning ANP and periods of low functioning in A and B and these would is it’s prescriptive it prevents it inhibits certain behaviors so functioning is reduced when the ANP is successful functioning is reduced and even people who delay the PTSD by having a successful A and B they are much less functional than people who don’t have PTSD at all my disagreement I have many disagreements with the theory but one of them is that I believe the ANP fluctuates I believe there are periods of high functioning ANP and periods of low functioning in A and B and these would
194. 131:48 tend to explain the collapse I think when the A and P uh wanes when it rains there’s a collapse and when he boxes there is restoration of the overt phase and when it rains the collapse leads to a covert state so the amp goes down there is a collapse via modification there is a covert state and then the overhead State even the theory itself structural dissociation they recognize that in some situation there is what they call submission submission Vanishing it’s actually the phrase Falling In Flight parts tend to explain the collapse I think when the A and P uh wanes when it rains there’s a collapse and when he boxes there is restoration of the overt phase and when it rains the collapse leads to a covert state so the amp goes down there is a collapse via modification there is a covert state and then the overhead State even the theory itself structural dissociation they recognize that in some situation there is what they call submission submission Vanishing it’s actually the phrase Falling In Flight parts
195. 132:31 freeform and flight coupled with submission couple will be Vanishing what do we have covert state even structural dissolution describes actually the covert state but just doesn’t call it covert this when the inp is less than successful when it has low energy or low consciousness or low self-efficacy when the AP is not working that well and the EPS is um you know intruding on the turf invading in that stage this leads to covert behaviors and would explain for example why passive aggression comes to the fore freeform and flight coupled with submission couple will be Vanishing what do we have covert state even structural dissolution describes actually the covert state but just doesn’t call it covert this when the inp is less than successful when it has low energy or low consciousness or low self-efficacy when the AP is not working that well and the EPS is um you know intruding on the turf invading in that stage this leads to covert behaviors and would explain for example why passive aggression comes to the fore
196. 133:13 as a defense because this is associated with EP collapse and multiplication are traumatic and they evoke past childhood traumas the child has been told that he’s buried and Worthy and the collapse in the modification Force regression into that phase where the world the word the logos the word of the Godlike creatures Mommy and mom and dad they’re god-like creatures they’re infallible they’re omnipotent there are seven meters seven meters high tall I mean these creatures are telling you as a defense because this is associated with EP collapse and multiplication are traumatic and they evoke past childhood traumas the child has been told that he’s buried and Worthy and the collapse in the modification Force regression into that phase where the world the word the logos the word of the Godlike creatures Mommy and mom and dad they’re god-like creatures they’re infallible they’re omnipotent there are seven meters seven meters high tall I mean these creatures are telling you
197. 133:52 that you’re bad unworthy failure you take it you absolutely believe it and it’s very very traumatic because it’s terrifying maybe you feel better not worthy they will dump you in the nearest garbage bin you know maybe they’ll get rid of you maybe they’ll not feed you maybe they’ll kill you maybe they will bring another child to take your place it’s a terrifying statement and so the collapse and multiplication Force The Narcissist or the borderline even the psychopath the histrionic force that you’re bad unworthy failure you take it you absolutely believe it and it’s very very traumatic because it’s terrifying maybe you feel better not worthy they will dump you in the nearest garbage bin you know maybe they’ll get rid of you maybe they’ll not feed you maybe they’ll kill you maybe they will bring another child to take your place it’s a terrifying statement and so the collapse and multiplication Force The Narcissist or the borderline even the psychopath the histrionic force
198. 134:24 them back regress them to fit part of their childhood where they were mortally mortally terrified for their own Survival now CPT is the complex trauma borderline personality disorder and are now defunct category called disorders of extreme stress not otherwise specified all of them were considered a part of secondary structural dissociation I would like to focus for a few minutes on a new diagnosis in the latest edition of the DSM DSM-5 published in 2013 and it’s called other specified dissociative them back regress them to fit part of their childhood where they were mortally mortally terrified for their own Survival now CPT is the complex trauma borderline personality disorder and are now defunct category called disorders of extreme stress not otherwise specified all of them were considered a part of secondary structural dissociation I would like to focus for a few minutes on a new diagnosis in the latest edition of the DSM DSM-5 published in 2013 and it’s called other specified dissociative
199. 135:05 disorder subtype one and it’s a it’s this is the epitome of the secondary structural dissociation osdd1 is very similar to did and and so it’s it’s not 100 secondary but as opposed to the ID there’s no amnesia so the person switches between personalities which are not personality switches between Parts switches between traumatic Parts you know but remembers everything the parts are not fully differentiated um so and so the both the A and P and the EP remember everything this access to disorder subtype one and it’s a it’s this is the epitome of the secondary structural dissociation osdd1 is very similar to did and and so it’s it’s not 100 secondary but as opposed to the ID there’s no amnesia so the person switches between personalities which are not personality switches between Parts switches between traumatic Parts you know but remembers everything the parts are not fully differentiated um so and so the both the A and P and the EP remember everything this access to
200. 135:57 memory is amazing because theoretically osdd one should have only one amp and multiple EP but this is sometimes not the case you could have an EP or series of eps uh in in with ostd1 and but of course this EPS will be not as as developed as in as in full-fledged did but still you know quite a few of them and very powerful very well developed and so on and they were there will be traumatic containers and but the nature of the interaction between the A and P and the and the EP parts will resemble uncannily memory is amazing because theoretically osdd one should have only one amp and multiple EP but this is sometimes not the case you could have an EP or series of eps uh in in with ostd1 and but of course this EPS will be not as as developed as in as in full-fledged did but still you know quite a few of them and very powerful very well developed and so on and they were there will be traumatic containers and but the nature of the interaction between the A and P and the and the EP parts will resemble uncannily
201. 136:49 the way these parts interact in borderline personality disorder and in complex trauma in cptsd the differentiation is incomplete these Alters alternative personalities um are not fully developed they don’t have a full-fledged idea of self or selfhood they’re not totally separate in the sense they do not recognize each other they don’t share the same memory pool in or in in osdd one they do so osd1 is like BPD or cptsd on steroids the EPS of osdd1 handle some aspects of of daily life for example you can have the way these parts interact in borderline personality disorder and in complex trauma in cptsd the differentiation is incomplete these Alters alternative personalities um are not fully developed they don’t have a full-fledged idea of self or selfhood they’re not totally separate in the sense they do not recognize each other they don’t share the same memory pool in or in in osdd one they do so osd1 is like BPD or cptsd on steroids the EPS of osdd1 handle some aspects of of daily life for example you can have
202. 137:42 EPS that are very playful like children or they are very curious explore the world grandiose even um and indeed most of these EPS self-described as children and they when they’re in a safe environment or when they are triggered sometimes they switch and you can see the child appears and sometimes they don’t switch it’s something called passive influence they kind of flow there’s a gradual incremental incremental change they sometimes have arguments the SE Parts they deny each other or they deny EPS that are very playful like children or they are very curious explore the world grandiose even um and indeed most of these EPS self-described as children and they when they’re in a safe environment or when they are triggered sometimes they switch and you can see the child appears and sometimes they don’t switch it’s something called passive influence they kind of flow there’s a gradual incremental incremental change they sometimes have arguments the SE Parts they deny each other or they deny
203. 138:25 each other’s memories or they deny the form of the body that they’re occupying and and the A and P itself is infected with emotional ability dysregulation and shame and blame and hatred and I mean it’s a big mess you know it is a big mess and osdp seems to me the kind of primordial State primordial dissociative state that once more developed becomes borderline personality disorder and cptc sympathies these symptoms sound almost to the letter like the symptoms of borderline personality disorder each other’s memories or they deny the form of the body that they’re occupying and and the A and P itself is infected with emotional ability dysregulation and shame and blame and hatred and I mean it’s a big mess you know it is a big mess and osdp seems to me the kind of primordial State primordial dissociative state that once more developed becomes borderline personality disorder and cptc sympathies these symptoms sound almost to the letter like the symptoms of borderline personality disorder
204. 139:10 the two foundational characteristics of borderline personality disorder insecure attachment and emotional dysregulation exist in cptsd and in BBD and in the next edition of the ICD Edition 11 the international classification of diseases cptsd is going to be a recognized diagnosis and it’s going to include its diagnostic criteria insecure attachment and emotional dysregulation which raises the question why the proliferation of attitudes why do we need cptsd or complex trauma in PPD if they share 90 of all the diagnostic the two foundational characteristics of borderline personality disorder insecure attachment and emotional dysregulation exist in cptsd and in BBD and in the next edition of the ICD Edition 11 the international classification of diseases cptsd is going to be a recognized diagnosis and it’s going to include its diagnostic criteria insecure attachment and emotional dysregulation which raises the question why the proliferation of attitudes why do we need cptsd or complex trauma in PPD if they share 90 of all the diagnostic
205. 139:51 characteristics cptsd if CPT is this is founded on on insecure attachment and emotional dysregulation then it’s not only a trauma reaction it’s what we would call today a personality disorder but of course we can reverse the argument maybe a personality disorder is a trauma reaction maybe we’re getting it backwards we we say wait a minute cptsd sounds like a personality disorder maybe sort of trauma reaction but wait a minute maybe it’s the opposite borderline sounds like the cptsd so characteristics cptsd if CPT is this is founded on on insecure attachment and emotional dysregulation then it’s not only a trauma reaction it’s what we would call today a personality disorder but of course we can reverse the argument maybe a personality disorder is a trauma reaction maybe we’re getting it backwards we we say wait a minute cptsd sounds like a personality disorder maybe sort of trauma reaction but wait a minute maybe it’s the opposite borderline sounds like the cptsd so
206. 140:28 maybe it’s not personality disorder maybe it’s a trauma reaction the in both cases there are traumas of childhood subtle severe nuanced real ambient it is no borderline personality disorder without some kind of trauma the trauma doesn’t have to be overt it doesn’t have to be physical beating or incest sexual abuse or trauma can be ambient can be parental expectations can be conditional love can be what we call parent lack of Parental achievement the famous pediatrician turned psychologist maybe it’s not personality disorder maybe it’s a trauma reaction the in both cases there are traumas of childhood subtle severe nuanced real ambient it is no borderline personality disorder without some kind of trauma the trauma doesn’t have to be overt it doesn’t have to be physical beating or incest sexual abuse or trauma can be ambient can be parental expectations can be conditional love can be what we call parent lack of Parental achievement the famous pediatrician turned psychologist
207. 141:08 he called it being dropped by the by the mind of the mother he said the mother should be good enough you know and if she is not good enough if she drops the child in the mind that’s trauma Judith Hermann drison McLean gallop and a zillion other Scholars argue repeatedly that cptsd is misdiagnosed as borderline personality disorder and that borderline personality disorder should be abolished as a separate Diagnostic and clinical entity I go even further all personality disorders should be abolished there should be a single he called it being dropped by the by the mind of the mother he said the mother should be good enough you know and if she is not good enough if she drops the child in the mind that’s trauma Judith Hermann drison McLean gallop and a zillion other Scholars argue repeatedly that cptsd is misdiagnosed as borderline personality disorder and that borderline personality disorder should be abolished as a separate Diagnostic and clinical entity I go even further all personality disorders should be abolished there should be a single
208. 141:53 personality disorder and it should be moved moved in the DSM to the post-traumatic conditions section it should be a form of CPT cptsd dissociative cptsd I mean when CPT is this coupled with dissociation it leads to what today we call personality disorders sonality disorders are the dissociative states of trauma as Herman says the data on this point are Beyond contention 50 to 60 percent of psychiatric inpatients and 40 to 60 of outpatients report childhood histories of physical or sexual abuse or both personality disorder and it should be moved moved in the DSM to the post-traumatic conditions section it should be a form of CPT cptsd dissociative cptsd I mean when CPT is this coupled with dissociation it leads to what today we call personality disorders sonality disorders are the dissociative states of trauma as Herman says the data on this point are Beyond contention 50 to 60 percent of psychiatric inpatients and 40 to 60 of outpatients report childhood histories of physical or sexual abuse or both
209. 142:37 in borderline and incipitation what happens with narcissistic personality disorder borderline personality disorder there is childhood trauma in one way or another there are 100 ways to abuse a child many of them are not overt and these subtle ambient underground ways are even worse mopanishes so there’s abuse there is trauma in some people with pre-mobic personalities react to this trauma by dissociating they create an ANP and EP whatever model you want to use I don’t care they dissociate dissociation by in borderline and incipitation what happens with narcissistic personality disorder borderline personality disorder there is childhood trauma in one way or another there are 100 ways to abuse a child many of them are not overt and these subtle ambient underground ways are even worse mopanishes so there’s abuse there is trauma in some people with pre-mobic personalities react to this trauma by dissociating they create an ANP and EP whatever model you want to use I don’t care they dissociate dissociation by
210. 143:21 definition is a fragmentation and fracturing of personality Presto you have narcissistic personality disorder two personalities you have borderline personality disorder effectively multiple personalities and switching you have the psychopath secondary primary you have a third state covert States collapse States this all fits perfectly all we have to do is stop being obstinate look at the data and accept that at the root cause of all this is trauma and dissociation separately and sometimes conjointly definition is a fragmentation and fracturing of personality Presto you have narcissistic personality disorder two personalities you have borderline personality disorder effectively multiple personalities and switching you have the psychopath secondary primary you have a third state covert States collapse States this all fits perfectly all we have to do is stop being obstinate look at the data and accept that at the root cause of all this is trauma and dissociation separately and sometimes conjointly
211. 144:04 thank you thank you