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1. 00:00 my name is s vne and I’m the author of malignance of Love narcissism Revisited the concept of uncanny valley was coined in 1970 by the Japanese roboticist Masahiro Mory Mory suggested that people react to Androids or humanlike robots in two ways when these robots or Androids
2. 00:30 differ from real humans in a meaningful and discernable way when it’s easy to tell them apart from human beings observers human observers react positively they are amused they even form attachments but the minute these Contraptions the minute minute these
3. 00:50 robots or Androids resemble come to resemble humans uncannily allbe it imperfect perfectly human observers tend to experience repulsion revulsion and other negative emotions up to an including fear so real humanlike robots robots who resemble humans too closely for Comfort
4. 01:20 provoke negative emotions indeed we react the very same way to narcissistic Psychopaths Psychopathic narcissists are near perfect imitations of humans but lacking empathy and emotions they are not exactly there they are not exactly up to scratch they are not exactly
5. 01:45 human Psychopaths and narcissist narcissists strike their interlocutors as being some kind of alien life forms or artificial intelligence in short psychopathic narcissist are akin to humanoid robots they are our Flesh and Blood version of Androids when people come across
6. 02:12 narcissists or Psychopaths The Uncanny Valley reaction kicks in people feel revolted scared repelled they can’t put their finger on what is it exactly that provokes these negative reactions but after a few encounters and invariably they tend to keep the distance and stay
7. 02:36 away why is that one of the reasons is that one of the reasons is that narcissists have what I call called empathy contrary to widely held beliefs narcissists and Psychopaths may actually possess empathy they may even be hyper empathic attuned to the minut signals
8. 03:01 emitted by their victims and endowed with a penetrating x-ray vision narcissists and Psychopaths tend to abuse their empathic skills by employing these capacities exclusively for personal gain or the extraction of narcissistic Supply or in the pursuit of
9. 03:22 some antisocial or sistic goal or to extract money or sex or some other benefit narcissists and Psychopaths regard their ability to empathize as merely another weapon in their Arsenal in a hostile inhospitable World they fight everyone with everything they
10. 03:47 have and one of the things they have is this ability to penetrate through the chinks in everyone’s armor to spot the vulnerabilities fracture points the fault lines and to invade I suggest to label the narcissistic psychopath’s version of empathy called empathy this is akin to
11. 04:14 cold emotions felt by Psychopaths the cognitive element of called empathy is there but the brain is there the heart is missing the emotional correlate is absent consequently cold empathy is Barren detached sterile and cerebral it has an intrusive gaze but
12. 04:43 it’s devoid of compassion and there’s no feeling of affinity with one’s fellow
13. 04:52 humans narcissists and Psychopaths empathize quote unquote with anything and everything everything that gives them narcissistic Supply or benefits so you would find narcissists and Psychopaths empathizing with objects with pets with again with any source of
14. 05:13 narcissistic Supply or material benefit sometimes these sources are their nearest andar their so-called friends their Associates and in this case they emulate normal behavior but this is not real EMP it’s a mere projection of the narcissist or psychopath’s own insecurities and
15. 05:36 fears needs and wishes fantasies and priorities this kind of displayed demonstrative empathy usually vanishes the minutes the minute it subject ceases to play a role in The Narcissist or psychopath’s life and in his or her psychodynamic processes in other words
16. 05:56 if you are not there to provide narcissistic Supply some other benefit the narcissist or psychopath is not likely to empathize with you it’s a quick proall I give you empathy you give me what what I need what is this empathy we we keep talking about empathy
17. 06:17 is the ability to put oneself in someone else’s shoes it’s the ability for a split second for a minute for an hour for a day to inhabit someone else’s universe to immigrate across the unspoken invisible boundary that surrounds each and every one of
18. 06:38 us and for that period of time to adopt to understand to assimilate and to gain insight into the needs priorities fears and wishes of someone else so this ability to put yourself in someone else’s shoe is not sympathy it’s not merely compassion it’s almost complete
19. 07:03 identification and of course narcissist and and psychopaths are absolutely incapable of doing this in an emotional way in July 2003 I gave an interview to um a Toronto Canada daily the National Post and they asked a few very interesting questions I think the first
20. 07:25 question was how important is empathy to proper psychological function and I answered empathy is more important socially than it is psychologically the absence of empathy for instance in the narcissistic and antisocial personality disorders predisposes people to exploit and abuse
21. 07:44 others empathy is the Bedrock of our sense of morality arguably aggressive behavior is as inhibited by empathy as it is by anticipated punishment but the existence of of empathy in a person is also a sign of self-awareness of a healthy identity of
22. 08:05 a well regulated sense of self-worth of personal boundaries and of self-love in the positive sense its absence denotes emotional and cognitive immaturity and inability to love to truly relate to others to respect their boundaries and to accept
23. 08:23 their needs feelings hopes fears choices and preferences as autonomous and entities and how is empathy developed asked the post well it may be innate even toddlers seem to empathize with the pain or happiness of others such as their caregivers mother father empathy
24. 08:44 increases as the child forms a self-concept and identity the more aware the infant is of his or her emotional states the more he or she explores his limitations and capabilities and the more he does that the more prone he is to projecting this new found knowledge onto
25. 09:05 others by attributing to people around him his newly gained insights about himself the child develops a moral sense and inhibits his antisocial impulses the development of empathy is therefore a part of the process of socialization becoming social
26. 09:25 being but as the American psychologist Carl Rogers told us empathy is also learned and inculcated we are coached to feel guilt and pain when we inflict suffering on another person empathy is an attempt to avoid our own self-imposed Agony by projecting it onto
27. 09:48 another question is there an increasing dir of empathy in society today well my answer is that social institutions that reified propagated and administered empathy have imploded the nuclear family the closely neat extended Clan The Village the neighborhood the church have all
28. 10:14 unraveled Society is atom atomized and anomic the resulting alienation fostered a wave of antisocial Behavior both criminal and socially acceptable survival value of empathy is on the decline it is far wiser to be cunning to cut Corners to deceive to abuse than to be
29. 10:35 empathic far more profitable definitely empathy has largely dropped from the Contemporary curriculum of socialization it’s no longer on the menual in a desperate attempt to cope with these inexurable processes behaviors predicated on a lack of empathy have been pathologized and
30. 10:56 medicalized the sad truth is that narcissistic or antisocial conduct is today both normative and rational no amount of diagnosis treatment and medication can hide or reverse this fact ours is a cultural Malay which permeates every single cell and strand of the social
31. 11:21 Fabric and is there any empir empirical evidence that we can point to of a decline in empathy there’s a problem with it empathy cannot be measured directly but only through proxies such as criminality terrorism violence antisocial Behavior related mental health disorders abuse
32. 11:39 and on the positive side charity altruism it is extremely difficult to separate the effects of deterrence from the effects of empathy if I don’t battle my wife I don’t torture animals or I don’t steal from the Indigent is it because I’m empathetic I have empathy
33. 11:57 with him or is it because I don’t want to go to to jail who can tell who can separate these motivations Rising litigiousness Zero Tolerance skyrocketing rates of incarceration as well as the Aging of the population have sliced intimate partner violence and other forms of
34. 12:16 crime across the United States in the last decade so crime is down but this benevolent decline has nothing to do with increasing empathy the statistics are open to interpretation but it would be safe to say that the last century has been the most violent and least empathetic in
35. 12:34 human history Wars and terrorism are under rise charity giving is on the Wayne measured in percentage of national wealth welfare policies are being abolished the wian models of capitalism are spreading in the last two decades mental health disorders were added to
36. 12:52 the diagnostic and statistical manual whose Hallmark is lack a lack of empathy so now we have mental health problems whose core involves a lack of empathy the violence is reflected in our popular culture as well movies video games books the media itself so empathy
37. 13:14 supposedly a spontaneous reaction to the plight of our fellow human beings is now channeled through self-interested and Bloated non-governmental organization or multilateral outfits the vibrant world of private empathy has been replaced by faceless State
38. 13:32 loges pity mercy and the Elation of giving all have all become tax deductible and it is a sorry sight indeed sorry sight because the world has become the psychopathic narcissist world it is his world now it is his age his Epoch his era welcome to the narcissistic Psychopaths
39. 14:10 period